If You Were Engaged or Talking About Marriage, Would You Require Your Potential Spouse to Get An STD Test?

  • Christian Chat is a moderated online Christian community allowing Christians around the world to fellowship with each other in real time chat via webcam, voice, and text, with the Christian Chat app. You can also start or participate in a Bible-based discussion here in the Christian Chat Forums, where members can also share with each other their own videos, pictures, or favorite Christian music.

    If you are a Christian and need encouragement and fellowship, we're here for you! If you are not a Christian but interested in knowing more about Jesus our Lord, you're also welcome! Want to know what the Bible says, and how you can apply it to your life? Join us!

    To make new Christian friends now around the world, click here to join Christian Chat.

If You Were Engaged or Talking About Marriage, Would You Want to Get STD Tests First?

  • Yes, I would want both of us to get tested.

    Votes: 6 35.3%
  • No, I wouldn't want for us to get tested.

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • I would leave the choice up to my partner.

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • I am married and we got tested for STD's before we married.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I am married and we didn't get tested, but I wish we would have.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • I am married and we have never been tested.

    Votes: 4 23.5%
  • I get regular tests on my own even though I'm not seeing anyone.

    Votes: 2 11.8%
  • I don't get regular tests on my own and would not get one.

    Votes: 1 5.9%
  • I don't get tests now, but would if I met someone who wanted me to.

    Votes: 3 17.6%
  • I have seen others get tested/not get tested and this is what I observed...

    Votes: 1 5.9%

  • Total voters
    17
none of the above. i am married & we got the mandatory lawful blood tests before marriage.
 
none of the above. i am married & we got the mandatory lawful blood tests before marriage.
What are the mandatory lawful blood tests? Finding out what blood type you are, in case someone is in need of transfusion?
Making sure you get testing for RH factor so that your offspring don't get jaundice or need extra medical care?
I mean they are gonna throw in the testing for STDs anyway, as its important to know in case you need treatment that may affect future pregnancies.
 
no, to check for std's & if there are any diseases, especially diseases that spread easily. jaundice is caused by a bad unhealthy diet.
 
no, to check for std's & if there are any diseases, especially diseases that spread easily. jaundice is caused by a bad unhealthy diet.
Think jaundice is to do with incompatible rh factor in blood, happens in new born babies. Particularly the second born. I had it.

When you a baby, and liver hasn't developed fully yet, and you have too much bile.

Some people inherit things like Hepatitis, or it can be spread through bad hygiene. Sexual hygiene isn't really taught, like...wash properly down there! I think God wanted his chosen ones circumcised for a reason.
 
  • Like
Reactions: 2ndTimeIsTheCharm
wow, haven't heard that. my twin brother had jaundice but it was his own fault. he partied big time & didn't eat right.
 
Think jaundice is to do with incompatible rh factor in blood, happens in new born babies. Particularly the second born. I had it.

When you a baby, and liver hasn't developed fully yet, and you have too much bile.

Some people inherit things like Hepatitis, or it can be spread through bad hygiene. Sexual hygiene isn't really taught, like...wash properly down there! I think God wanted his chosen ones circumcised for a reason.
 
could be. i'm married & i don't want to kiss my wife unless i know she just brushed & gargled. we are crazy clean folks.
 
could be. i'm married & i don't want to kiss my wife unless i know she just brushed & gargled. we are crazy clean folks.
Some people eat food that gives them bad breath.
Some people don't change or wash their underwear.
Some people wear lipstick and it gets all over the person they are kissing.
 
🎶What do you get when you kiss a guy?
You get another germ to catch pneumonia
After you do, he'll never phone ya
I'll never fall in love again 🎶
 
You know what else is an STD...and passed onto newborn babies?
Alcoholism.
Fetal alcohol syndrome (or FAS) is a real thing.
Don't ever marry a drunkard. They'll turn violent and beat you up, esp after sex. Or if you resist/refuse.
 
  • Like
Reactions: 2ndTimeIsTheCharm
Some people eat food that gives them bad breath.
Some people don't change or wash their underwear.
Some people wear lipstick and it gets all over the person they are kissing.
wash underwear? holy heavens!!! this, i tell you is a true story: back in the 90's i had a customer ( i'm a landscaper ), & the guy's wife was wheelchair bound. so he would hang the clothes out on the line outdoors. when mowing the lawn, if you didn't move your head out of the way, your head would smack right into the laundry. but here's the disgusting fact, he didn't use laundry detergent!!!!!! yup, you guessed it: stains all over their underwear!!!!!!!!!!! imagine all the neighbors yer after year, seeing that. that whole-portion of town must have know. & that's something people will talk about easily & quickly. there's more: between the two, they had incomes of 2 pensions, 2 annuity investments & 2 social security incomes!!!!!!!!! wow!!!!!!
 
You know what else is an STD...and passed onto newborn babies?
Alcoholism.
Fetal alcohol syndrome (or FAS) is a real thing.
Don't ever marry a drunkard. They'll turn violent and beat you up, esp after sex. Or if you resist/refuse.
my greatness, got to be wise on that subject. i used to drink 30 to 40 alcoholic drinks in the span of 3 to 4 hours & there was very little effect, didn't get drunk. my brothers & father could do the same. my youngest brother couldn't handle alcohol at all. he would drink 1 drink & become violent. he's the 1 that committed suicide a couple of years ago by hanging himself.
 
  • Sad
Reactions: 2ndTimeIsTheCharm
my greatness, got to be wise on that subject. i used to drink 30 to 40 alcoholic drinks in the span of 3 to 4 hours & there was very little effect, didn't get drunk. my brothers & father could do the same. my youngest brother couldn't handle alcohol at all. he would drink 1 drink & become violent. he's the 1 that committed suicide a couple of years ago by hanging himself.
? like 10 drinks an hour? Were you flush with cash or what. Wouldn't you be going to the toilet all the time?
Or were you really thirsty.
I couldn't drink 10 normal drinks an hour, let alone alcoholic ones...
Am sorry to hear about your brother.

Did he have children? Do you?
 
If your younger brother was the second born his liver may have not been strong and he might have a different blood type from you. It could be genetic, but alcoholism can also affect newborns.
This is why pregnant women are advised not to drink...nor can they drink while breastfeeding because it (alcohol) is passed on through the breastmilk...
 
  • Like
Reactions: 2ndTimeIsTheCharm
Alcohol has an awful taste, I'd take a sip and feel nauseous. I don't know how anyone can really enjoy it, I suppose they don't have tastebuds.
 
You say your bro was your twin. Fraternal? How much older were you..just a few minutes?
My younger brothers are twins. Fraternal, though many can't tell them apart.

I know I'm a different blood type from my older sister. She has a better constitution than me, I'm the one who always got sick. I think it's maybe genetics, as what happens with DNA..it's random and no two people are really alike unless they are clones or identical twins.
 
wash underwear? holy heavens!!! this, i tell you is a true story: back in the 90's i had a customer ( i'm a landscaper ), & the guy's wife was wheelchair bound. so he would hang the clothes out on the line outdoors. when mowing the lawn, if you didn't move your head out of the way, your head would smack right into the laundry. but here's the disgusting fact, he didn't use laundry detergent!!!!!! yup, you guessed it: stains all over their underwear!!!!!!!!!!! imagine all the neighbors yer after year, seeing that. that whole-portion of town must have know. & that's something people will talk about easily & quickly. there's more: between the two, they had incomes of 2 pensions, 2 annuity investments & 2 social security incomes!!!!!!!!! wow!!!!!!
It might be that they never officially got married.
I don't know how big their backyard was, but am not sure the neighbours could see their laundry. But yea that is gross.
Mmm small towns are gossipy.

I can't really imagine being the 'talk of the town ' but if you ever get on the front page of the newspaper then you going to be talked about, nowadays, people do it for free and faster on Facebook.
 
? like 10 drinks an hour? Were you flush with cash or what. Wouldn't you be going to the toilet all the time?
Or were you really thirsty.
I couldn't drink 10 normal drinks an hour, let alone alcoholic ones...
Am sorry to hear about your brother.

Did he have children? Do you?
yes, the drinking story is true. in fact, we made a habit of only socializing with people who could handle alcohol responsibly. in other words, people who always were responsible & treated women correctly. yes, to the toilet often. not real thirsty, just having fun with friends. often, i would quit for years, 3 or 4 sometimes more. since age 20, i've had a comfortable income with 3 to 4 incomes concomitantly. i never had kids so i could roam when i wanted to. my brother had 1 kid. concerning alcohol, i could take it or leave it. i never felt like i had to have a drink. it was just fun.
 
If your younger brother was the second born his liver may have not been strong and he might have a different blood type from you. It could be genetic, but alcoholism can also affect newborns.
This is why pregnant women are advised not to drink...nor can they drink while breastfeeding because it (alcohol) is passed on through the breastmilk...
my parents had 5 children, all boys. the brother in talk here was the last to be born.