If You Were to Close Your CC Account and Come Back as Another Name, What Would Be the Reasons Why?

[seoulsearch]

Hey Everyone,

I made this post in another thread:

I've been on this site nearly 16 years, and there are some people who were here when I arrived in 2009 -- and were probably here long before me -- who have said they were leaving or disappeared, but I'm convinced many never left. They're just here under different names.

In fact, many who "leave" already have an additional account(s) they're already operating under and just make a more permanent switch to whatever other name(s) they're using.

Now, some people have a good reason for coming back under another name. I've heard many stories of both men and women being harassed via several different scenarios (romantic entanglements, stalkers, fighting with other members, etc.) I've also heard many stories of, let's say Sara has a crush on Johnny. He says he likes her and claims she's the only girl he's interested in -- so she invents another account, we'll call it Rachel, to test Johnny's loyalty under the guise of another girl.

And of course, both men and women do this. Some people like to "test" what the same people will say to them when they present themselves under another identity. After all, it's the internet, and this sort of thing has become routine behavior.

If I had a specific problem here I couldn't escape, I would just have to leave the site.

Because As Soon As I Posted My First Thread, everyone would know it was me.

I'm not gifted enough to be able to change my whole life story and posting style so that people wouldn't recognize me.

The moral of this story is: if people post a lot on this site, write a lot of PM's, or become well-known to the regulars, chances are pretty high that they're going to be recognized -- and usually called out -- no matter who they try to reinvent themselves as.

This got me thinking about the times when I've considered closing up this account and rejoining under another name myself.

Now for obvious reasons, if I did, I'd just say upfront that it was me or choose a no-brainer name like Seoulsearch2.0, because as stated above, It Wouldn't Take Long For People to Figure Out Who I Am.

I've also built my life on trying to be as authentic as possible, and, speaking just for myself, I wouldn't feel right trying to trick people into thinking I was someone different or new.

But again, this is just me. The main reason I've thought about "starting over" is because I've often felt I wrote too much when I was feeling sad or without hope, and closing this account means it would be harder for people to find my old posts. With a "clean slate," I could try to limit myself to only writing when I felt more upbeat and positive.

However, I haven't felt that God has led me to do so (yet?) and so I'll keep this same account for as long as He seems to lead.

What about you?

* Have you thought about closing your current account coming back as a new one?

* What would be the reasons why?

As far as I know, the current rules are:

1. One CC account per person -- multiple accounts aren't allowed.

2. Once someone has been banned, they can't come back under another name.

So I am certainly NOT advocating for anything against the rules AT ALL.

I'm just curious as to reasons why people might end their chapter as their current username and start a new one under another -- all within the forum rules.

 

[Lynx]

That would be telling. Bwahaha!

If I ever do, you will have to guess. I'm not giving it away that easily.

Okay I'm just joking. I hate those cutesy, who am I, games people play with different nicknames. You would know pretty quick who I was because I would tell you. But it was fun to say that.

I could be musicnerd. Or chocoholic. Or jesterman.

Or I could just go with Jaguar. Or serval. Servals are nice.

 

[cinder]

At this point cc isn't a big enough part of my life that I'd come back if I left. But I'd also have to have a reason to close my account rather than just slowly drifting away and neglecting it

 

[seoulsearch]

That would be telling. Bwahaha! If I ever do, you will have to guess. I'm not giving it away that easily. Okay I'm just joking. I hate those cutesy, who am I, games people play with different nicknames. You would know pretty quick who I was because I would tell you. But it was fun to say that. I could be musicnerd. Or chocoholic. Or jesterman. Or I could just go with Jaguar. Or serval. Servals are nice.

Oh c'mon!

Couldn't you at least pick something fun, like FacetiousOldFart?

(I say that only because "facetious" has been one of your favorite words - and behaviors - in our conversations over the years.)

I mean, if the paw fits (the cat)...

 

[seoulsearch]

I actually have a confession to make.

I had (conveniently) forgotten this, but way back when I first started on forums, they were called bulletin boards (at least in my area.) Having grown up in a small town and having gone to small Lutheran schools, and now living on my own, this was my first big foray into the big, secular world that I had been warned so much about.

Online chatting and communication was very new, and there were a lot of usernames on this forum with blatant references to the male genitalia.

Being the quiet, submissive person that I am (snort,) I decided to run a little social experiment. I broke the rules and had 2 accounts going at the same time -- one was my "regular" name (it might have been Seoulsearch, as using "Seoul" has been with me for as long as I've been online,) and the other was a name that was a direct medical-type terminology of the female genitalia. I just wanted to see what would happen.

I received exactly 3 classifications of people who responded when I went online as the "Naughty Name":

1. The ones who thought it was an advertisement for a good time, as would be expected (I didn't answer those.)

2. The ones who told me I was going to hell, based SOLEY on my username and the bare bones info in my profile -- they had nothing else to go on, and judged me only on those 2 things. They didn't try to witness to me; they didn't try to tell me about Jesus -- they just straight-out told me I was going to burn -- Do Not Pass Go, Do Not Collect $200 (a reference to the game "Monopoly") Go Directly to The Lake of Fire.

I didn't answer these either.

3. And then there were the rarest of all -- these were the people who cautiously, and even respectfully, approached me with a few questions about who was I was... and THEN they asked about my username. These uncommon souls had the gall to try to see a person behind the name, and wanted to know who that person was.

Obviously, these were the ones that I answered. I told them that I just felt if so many guys there felt they could have a name referring to male body parts, a girl could do the same thing. Some still told me I was going to hell, but a few totally got my sense of humor and I even made a few friendships along the way.

I've never broken the rules on a forum after that (never had more than one account, never got banned,) but it taught me a whole lot about which one of the 3 groups of people I wanted to be.

And this is something I've strived to do ever since.

Yes, I know you can't get through to every person, nor will they all understand you or even give you a chance. Yes, I know some people will be inflammatory and you'll never get through to them.

But this, along with my time years later of writing inmates, played a big part in teaching me to always, above all else, look for the person behind the mask -- no matter what the "front" might be -- whether it's a persona, a reputation, or... a username.

 

[Lynx]

Oh c'mon!

Couldn't you at least pick something fun, like FacetiousOldFart?

(I say that only because "facetious" has been one of your favorite words - and behaviors - in our conversations over the years.)

I mean, if the paw fits (the cat)...

Are you calling me flatulent!?

 

[seoulsearch]

Are you calling me flatulent!?

Well...

With all the weird concoctions you tell us you have for breakfast...

I can neither confirm not deny your inflammatory inquiry.

 

[CarriePie]

* Have you thought about closing your current account coming back as a new one?

No

* What would be the reasons why?

I like my name.
I'm one of those people who doesn't really change much. I've had the same email since I was 19! lol


Your mention of using a "naughty name" made me think about my name, Carrie Pie. I got my name innocently at work many years ago. Actually, I think it's more like decades ago now lol ugh. Anyway, one supervisor loaned me out to another supervisor, Lori. Well, after a while Lori hadn't given me back and my supervisor came looking for me. As she approached Lori, she kept asking, "Where's my Carrie Pie? I want my Carrie Pie back!" That was how my name read on her flow chart. And thus began me being called Carrie Pie, the Pie, and Cherry Pie forever after that. So, when I got internet, of course I wanted to use CarriePie as my name wherever I went online. Some men have gotten the wrong idea about what Carrie Pie means though...I ain't explaining, I'm sure y'all can guess lol. As a result, I've gotten some racy messages in the past. Thankfully, I haven't gotten any in several years. I've kept my name, because I like my name. So far, I have not had any problems on this site, at least not any that'd make me leave. I'd say there's nearly a zero percent chance of me coming on here with a different name. If I go a while without being active, it's because I've got something going on in my personal life and not because I'm under a different name.
I might be kinda antiquated in my thinking, but I just like being myself and keeping my name.

 

[RodB651]

What about you?

"DittenDoNuffin"

"PhatBoySlim"

😀☕

 

[Cameron143]

I would do it to get a cooler nickname. Maybe:
Luke Faithwalker
Or
Hans Solo Christos.

 

[MsMediator]

I don't tell others I use CC because I think they could figure out which username belongs to me. If someone associates my username with my identity, I would close my account and use another username. We try our best to be anonymous but this is not foolproof. I wouldn't want someone knowing my views and thoughts, and more importantly personal details, spanning over several years or more.

 

[LifelongLearner]

Hey Everyone,

I made this post in another thread:



This got me thinking about the times when I've considered closing up this account and rejoining under another name myself.

Now for obvious reasons, if I did, I'd just say upfront that it was me or choose a no-brainer name like Seoulsearch2.0, because as stated above, It Wouldn't Take Long For People to Figure Out Who I Am.

I've also built my life on trying to be as authentic as possible, and, speaking just for myself, I wouldn't feel right trying to trick people into thinking I was someone different or new.

But again, this is just me. The main reason I've thought about "starting over" is because I've often felt I wrote too much when I was feeling sad or without hope, and closing this account means it would be harder for people to find my old posts. With a "clean slate," I could try to limit myself to only writing when I felt more upbeat and positive.

However, I haven't felt that God has led me to do so (yet?) and so I'll keep this same account for as long as He seems to lead.

What about you?

* Have you thought about closing your current account coming back as a new one?

* What would be the reasons why?

As far as I know, the current rules are:

1. One CC account per person -- multiple accounts aren't allowed.

2. Once someone has been banned, they can't come back under another name.

So I am certainly NOT advocating for anything against the rules AT ALL.

I'm just curious as to reasons why people might end their chapter as their current username and start a new one under another -- all within the forum rules.

You've hit the ball out of the park again sweetheart and like you, i don't think it's just we're such strong characters, pretending to be someone else would be daft.

Think we're pretty cosy being us, warts and all, so don't expect perfection from others either.

EDIT: Just realised you're older than i thought!

 

[Subhumanoidal]

When I first joined i had a username for a few weeks. But people kept asking me if it was Harry potter related, which it was absolutely Not. Never had even a passing curiosity about the books or movies.
So that's when I switched to a different username, Ugly. Haha. Loved that name and now regret changing it.
A number of years back I got fed up with God and closed my Ugly account. I replaced it with this name. Which I opened because it was more of how I felt.
I'd see about changing it back to Ugly but I think I'd lose my grandfathered in status.

 

[zeroturbulence]

Hey Everyone,

I made this post in another thread:



This got me thinking about the times when I've considered closing up this account and rejoining under another name myself.

Now for obvious reasons, if I did, I'd just say upfront that it was me or choose a no-brainer name like Seoulsearch2.0, because as stated above, It Wouldn't Take Long For People to Figure Out Who I Am.

I've also built my life on trying to be as authentic as possible, and, speaking just for myself, I wouldn't feel right trying to trick people into thinking I was someone different or new.

But again, this is just me. The main reason I've thought about "starting over" is because I've often felt I wrote too much when I was feeling sad or without hope, and closing this account means it would be harder for people to find my old posts. With a "clean slate," I could try to limit myself to only writing when I felt more upbeat and positive.

However, I haven't felt that God has led me to do so (yet?) and so I'll keep this same account for as long as He seems to lead.

What about you?

* Have you thought about closing your current account coming back as a new one?

* What would be the reasons why?

As far as I know, the current rules are:

1. One CC account per person -- multiple accounts aren't allowed.

2. Once someone has been banned, they can't come back under another name.

So I am certainly NOT advocating for anything against the rules AT ALL.

I'm just curious as to reasons why people might end their chapter as their current username and start a new one under another -- all within the forum rules.

I remember when we had those "health meter" lights and post counts under our names. It used to be like a badge of honor if you had like over 10,000 posts. But now you can't even tell if someone is male or female. The names used to be pink and blue. So making a new name now wouldn't feel like losing your post count. Not that it meant anything other than you were an old timer here.
I did think about changing my name a few times just to see how others would treat me if they didn't know who I was, and because I wanted to avoid certain people.

 

[seoulsearch]

EDIT: Just realised you're older than i thought!

Lol.

I appreciate you thinking that I was younger, but my time of being part of the Spring Chicken Coop is long over.

These days, I'm much closer to being A Tough Old Bird.

 

[seoulsearch]

I remember when we had those "health meter" lights and post counts under our names. It used to be like a badge of honor if you had like over 10,000 posts. I did think about changing my name a few times just to see how others would treat me if they didn't know who I was, and because I wanted to avoid certain people.

Ah, the good old days! Well, sort of.

And you bring up great points, Zero.

The reasons you gave for changing your name -- seeing if people treat you differently if they don't realize it's you, and avoiding others, are probably the major reasons for username changes I've heard over the years.

 

[LifelongLearner]

Lol.

I appreciate you thinking that I was younger, but my time of being part of the Spring Chicken Coop is long over.

These days, I'm much closer to being A Tough Old Bird.

Ditto! And we've earned/should be proud of every callous!

 

[seoulsearch]

When I first joined i had a username for a few weeks. But people kept asking me if it was Harry potter related, which it was absolutely Not. Never had even a passing curiosity about the books or movies.
So that's when I switched to a different username, Ugly. Haha. Loved that name and now regret changing it.
A number of years back I got fed up with God and closed my Ugly account. I replaced it with this name. Which I opened because it was more of how I felt.
I'd see about changing it back to Ugly but I think I'd lose my grandfathered in status.

Have you talked to OnceFallen at all about changing your username back, while carrying on your status? You've been here so long, it certainly couldn't hurt to ask...

One thing I appreciate about you is that you've always been honest about your struggles. It's part of what made the forums feel more relatable to me. Anyone who's read your story over the years knows that there are times your life has been on a looping track to hell and back, and back, and back yet again, and yet you've fought your way through it.

I admire any Christian who takes on life's challenges and says, "I count it all as joy!" because that's what the Bible tells us. Hallelujah for anyone who can say that and mean it, but I'm not that person. I told God that it makes me feel like the church is trying to mold me into a plastic factory doll that repeats the same 50 Bible passages over and over when someone pulls my string.

Rather, I relate to people like, gasp, the ones in the Bible. Job didn't talk about how he counted all his sufferings as joy. Yet his friends said all the good Biblical things -- "Surely you must have committed some sort of sin to bring this on yourself!" "Who are you to talk back to the Almighty?" And Job told them if they didn't have anything more useful to say, they might as well shut their traps!

Now granted, God put Job in his place right, fast, and in a hurry.

But He also told Job to pray for his friends, because in all their righteous-sounding words, they had sinned.

Jeremiah didn't jump for joy when the people dumped him in a well and left him for dead. And most importantly to me, Jesus didn't say, "Oh Father, I count it all as joy, the pain and suffering I am about to endure." No. He dreaded what was ahead, so much that He asked for God to take it from Him and find another way. And the worst of His suffering brought Him to a point where His very soul cried out, "My God, My God, why have you forsaken me?"

These are the kinds of faith journeys I relate to best, and I've been thankful over the years that you have shared yours. I remember a few years ago we had a newer member here, and I can't remember what you posted but it was a very honest post, and this new person wrote you off, saying, "Well, we wouldn't expect anything else from an unbeliever!"

A few of us old timers were like, "Now hold up there, Karen..." because she knew nothing about you or what you've been through.

I'm very sorry for all the things you've been through, Sub.

But I'm very thankful that you've been real and honest enough to share them with us here. 💗

 

[seoulsearch]

Ditto! And we've earned/should be proud of every callous!

I once read a saying I can't do justice, but it said something like the lines on our faces being a roadmap of where we've been in life -- and I hold to that more and more as I get older.

Much love to you, Sister! 🌸

 

[LifelongLearner]

I once read a saying I can't do justice, but it said something like the lines on our faces being a roadmap of where we've been in life -- and I hold to that more and more as I get older.

Much love to you, Sister! 🌸

Think we are seoul sisters. See what i did there!

Know what sweet friend, i'd happily give 10 years of my life not to be young again, that's if i have that long left. Still make plenty of mistakes but they're fewer and less consequential than they used to be.

Yeah, you're one of the few here i think of as a true sister too.