If you would like to marry soon...….?

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TabinRivCA

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If you are one of the singles here who would like to be married sometime soon, what would you like the
other' half to be like. We can say being a Christian is a given. I know CC is not a dating site, but there are many gals and guys here who have stated lately they want to find a partner.
Just throwing this out there to let anyone envision what they are hoping for.
 
Lynx

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I have a strong preference for a woman who is breathing and has a pulse. Aside from that, I have no idea because I have no data with which to work. But I have no real reason to collate the requisite data because I'm fine with being single.
 
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TabinRivCA said:
If you are one of the singles here who would like to be married sometime soon, what would you like the
other' half to be like. We can say being a Christian is a given. I know CC is not a dating site, but there are many gals and guys here who have stated lately they want to find a partner.
Just throwing this out there to let anyone envision what they are hoping for.
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Given that we already have the same faith... I would add a mature believer at that. Also, in the bible husbands are encouraged and urged to “love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (this verse alone indicates fundamental values and roles a husband has; of course the wife should also do her part/role). :)

I deem it important as well that spouses could really partner in the things that GOD wants to do through them. :)
 
TabinRivCA

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Lynx said:
I have a strong preference for a woman who is breathing and has a pulse. Aside from that, I have no idea because I have no data with which to work. But I have no real reason to collate the requisite data because I'm fine with being single.
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Ya, I got that from my last post that's why I directed this post to those who 'would like to be married'. Not trying to hook you up here Lynx, lol.
 
TabinRivCA

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alfa19 said:
Given that we already have the same faith... I would add a mature believer at that. Also, in the bible husbands are encouraged and urged to “love their wives as Christ loved the church and gave Himself up for her” (this verse alone indicates fundamental values and roles a husband has; of course the wife should also do her part/role). :)

I deem it important as well that spouses could really partner in the things that GOD wants to do through them. :)
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Well stated!
 
Lynx

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TabinRivCA said:
Ya, I got that from my last post that's why I directed this post to those who 'would like to be married'. Not trying to hook you up here Lynx, lol.
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I know. I was being facetious, tongue-in-cheek. :cool:
 
Lanolin

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To be like Jesus? I dont know havent really thought about it. Can we just say to be more like Jesus and if they are going to be a dad, someone who, like our heavenly father would never leave nor forsake us. Someone who stays faithful no matter what.

I dont know about what you mean about 'sometime soon' especially if nobody you know is even like that. Most of the men who want to talk to me arent interested in the things of God and they dont seem to have a clue about it! They all about the flesh and chasing women for what they look like and their self image. When they say things about how nice you look, I think well I now I look like this you dont have to tell me...have you got anything deeper to say? The next day I may change my clothes and wear something different Lol the last three men that were calling me were like that and I was like why God? Send them away please.

I think Im not going to be married anytime soon so you probably asking the wrong person.
 
TabinRivCA

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Lanolin said:
To be like Jesus? I dont know havent really thought about it. Can we just say to be more like Jesus and if they are going to be a dad, someone who, like our heavenly father would never leave nor forsake us. Someone who stays faithful no matter what.

I dont know about what you mean about 'sometime soon' especially if nobody you know is even like that. Most of the men who want to talk to me arent interested in the things of God and they dont seem to have a clue about it! They all about the flesh and chasing women for what they look like and their self image. When they say things about how nice you look, I think well I now I look like this you dont have to tell me...have you got anything deeper to say? The next day I may change my clothes and wear something different Lol the last three men that were calling me were like that and I was like why God? Send them away please.

I think Im not going to be married anytime soon so you probably asking the wrong person.
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Wow, how did those guys get your number. Probably if someone was thinking about dating, going to Bible studies, church or doing volunteer work would be good places to be.
 
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TabinRivCA said:
Wow, how did those guys get your number. Probably if someone was thinking about dating, going to Bible studies, church or doing volunteer work would be good places to be.
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Oh they were workmates trying to hit on me. Cant avoid them.
 
Lanolin

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The last bible study went to was all women.
The last volunteer work I did all the teachers were women.
I have no idea where all the single men hang out. Not at church! But then I dont go to church for that reason. Am not really interested in dating i mean i will go out with people if they ask and they actually want to go somewhere interesting. But it is not my lifes mission to arrange dates.
 
Lanolin

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Thats why i said you asking the wrong person but thought would answer to give some reality to the question if you asking women what they think. I dont think many women think oh I can just get married soon i will make it happen when I want it to happen. It does not work that way.
 
TabinRivCA

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Lanolin said:
Thats why i said you asking the wrong person but thought would answer to give some reality to the question if you asking women what they think. I dont think many women think oh I can just get married soon i will make it happen when I want it to happen. It does not work that way.
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Well I myself wouldn't put any limits on God when we desire something, but I understand your pov, thx.
This thread was intended for those on CC who would like to be married. I thought it would be nice to let them voice what they would favor in a partner. More along the lines of... likes to go window shopping, likes going on walks, likes to be in the same volunteer group, likes animals and so on. Things just to think about.
 
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I would prefer someone not terrible. Preferrably alive. Nice to look at is a bonus.
 
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Hamarr said:
I would prefer someone not terrible. Preferrably alive. Nice to look at is a bonus.
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Lol the given... what I’m doing is not thinking about it and worshipping Him while I wait. God knows when the right time is and I trust Him He is in control :)
 
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Hamarr said:
I would prefer someone not terrible. Preferrably alive. Nice to look at is a bonus.
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I don't know, those standards are a lot higher than Lynx's. Are you sure your standards are reasonable? :p I mean Lynx can have his pick of all the terrible girls that you aren't even willing to consider; he's got so many more options.
 
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There are quite a few threads that I read here and don't reply to but gets my noggin goin. I have been thinking a lot about this issue for the last year and a half. I have been all over the place, from I am never marrying again to I will just go along and let God put it together of that's what he wants to where I think I am now. I DO want to marry again. When? I have no idea. Maybe soon maybe never.

But I don't think holding out and never marrying is any better or worse than marrying. They both have pros and cons. I personally miss marriage very much. Especially since I have a family to raise without a helper, and a partner to share life with.

So the things I would hope for...hmmm. Well, a sense of humor, caring, encouraging, respectful. If she would like to go on walks and talk, I'm all for that. Safety between us that we can share our fears, frustrations and questions about God, the Bible and church without judgment or criticism. There's a lot of things.

I've heard the "Half age plus seven" guide. I don't like it personally. If I would go for someone on the lower end of that I feel we would be an very different places experientially. It would be hard to relate. Someone that has been through some rough patches in life an has come through that maybe scarred and beaten up a bit by it but in the end stronger and wiser... that is attractive.

I hope that I can be some of the things she is looking for also.

A person is so much more complex than a few attributes and they may possess qualities you never thought about and the two of you may help develop gifts and abilities that you didn't know you had or needed the encouragement to grow.

I try not to be highly idealistic about marriage. I've been there. It's hard. It's fun. It's rewarding. It is awesome to have someone that knows the worst things about you and still loves you. It is an awesome thing to know someone else that way and flattering that they are willing to trust you with their life and struggles and secrets.
 
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I'd love for my future husband to be wise, caring, considerate of mine and others feelings, not afraid to say sorry, aware, present and of course a sense of humor and sense of adventure would be great bonuses. I'd love someone who is passionate and not afraid to share his thoughts and opinions.

I don't expect all that, but if we get to choose. Why not? :ROFL:
 
CharliRenee

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Hi Tab I am leaving it up to God, because my life doesn't leave much room to meet a man of God around my age who is single, wanting a bit used and ragidy older lady, lol.

I don't seek but my life does have me hiding, lol. I am cool being single, almost always. Only God knows.

Seriously though...

Ideally, He would be single, lol, be serving God with a sincere heart for Him and others, kind, loyal, funny, but not too sarcastic, great communicator (great listener and sharer), emotionally available, balanced, great integrity and a lot of mercy. < sounds like unrealistic standards, so back to me being ok with being single.

I definitely know if a perfect fella crossed my path, lol, he'd be outta my league. I am not far from.

Ew@unmet expectations.

How about you Tabin?
 
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I would like to marry someone who can answer my simple questions well.

1. Do you love God?
2. Are you working
3. If I follow you where are we going? Heaven or Hell?
4. What is your vision and purpose in life?
5. How can I help you?
 
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TabinRivCA said:
Well I myself wouldn't put any limits on God when we desire something, but I understand your pov, thx.
This thread was intended for those on CC who would like to be married. I thought it would be nice to let them voice what they would favor in a partner. More along the lines of... likes to go window shopping, likes going on walks, likes to be in the same volunteer group, likes animals and so on. Things just to think about.
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I have a dear sister friend who serves along side her hubby often and reg, that must be so rewarding and fun.
 
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