I'm having a slight problem of having no faith that I'll never get a girlfriend.

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wow I was thinking to myself today that i will never find a descent guy and settle down with, they all have something up their sleeve. So don't feel troubled we are in the same boat. lol
 
dothackzero said:
Actually, last week. I got prayed for to be healed from social anxiety, as far as I can tell it either worked or took a good chunk of it away. The problem now is developing normal people skill. Small stuff like knowing a good time to approch a girl I want to talk to or really just on to say to people...
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yep going to weddings are depressing...
 
I'm having a slight problem of having no faith that I'll never get a 911 turbo.
 
I don't no of any verse of such. but i believe if you should keep your been shy apart and start been friendly, interacting with them making them your friends then you see that there is nothing to it. It's very easy but please don't get carried away and live your Christian life behind because if you do, then you be sinning against God. And let God guide you in your relationship so you wouldn't go off track. Be brave and stay blessed for God loves you. L.O.L.
 
So yeah, still having a problem of having no faith in this area...

I don't know how to connect to girls, and God is basically isolating me from them. and I'm not even talking about finding a girlfriend right now. I'm talking just being able to be friends with girls like you guys are able to. Basically, I have absolutely no faith that I'll ever get a girlfriend or married.
Anyway, I know I'm not ready for a girlfriend yet( I personaly want to take care of porn thing before I get one.). The thing that's driving me crazy is that I don't see any chance of me getting one when I am ready.
 
dothackzero said:
Yeah, faith for a wife is pretty much back down to 0...
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Faith of a mustard seed, dothack,,is slightly more than 0, in relation to size, and, you keep that little of faith in your Saviour and strive to follow Him and you're going to be delighted in what happens, Christ bro.
His timing, but, in time, when the realization of His best is always before you, at that time will unimaginable Love for your life be seen.

Hebrews 11:1 :) Keep the faith, the same faith, prinny disgaea buddy that made you repent and accept God's great eternal plan for your life some time ago. Never let 'that' faith go and embrace that faith you have now 'near zero,' because for God to work 'that' (amount) is all you need :)
 
Arj7002 said:
It isn't Gods will that everyone gets married.
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I just had to reply to that. Whether it is God's will or not is really immaterial; God gave man free will, even accepting the gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ is a decision left up to each individual to decide.

"And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him." -Genesis 2:18

Obviously, it is God's purpose that every man should be married; now, again, that is up to the individual. As stated in Matthew 19:12, "There are some eunuchs, which were so born from their mother's womb: and there are some eunuchs, which were made eunuchs of men: and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake."

Anyway, just wanted to correct that point; don't think it's God's will for you to be alone, just keep believing and working towards your goal of "a girlfriend", and you'll reach it in the end.
 
dothackzero said:
So yeah, still having a problem of having no faith in this area...

I don't know how to connect to girls, and God is basically isolating me from them. and I'm not even talking about finding a girlfriend right now. I'm talking just being able to be friends with girls like you guys are able to. Basically, I have absolutely no faith that I'll ever get a girlfriend or married.
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Just read this post, and had to reply here as well. :p

I'm not quite sure why you think that God is isolating you from girls, but I think you're just shy, and need to get over it if you want a girlfriend. I have never been at all good with girls either, but I think that's somewhat natural; guys talking to/befriending other guys is no problem because they are not candidates for the position, but with girls on the other hand, it can be tough. Why don't you try practicing just saying hi or smiling at a girl next time you pass one, and work your way up from there? I'm making an attempt to get better at it myself, so don't despair, you're not alone bro.
 
The first thing you need to focus on is yourself. As Andy Stanley said, "Are you the person the person you're looking for is looking for?" Read that again. It makes perfect sense. You're looking for this awesome girl, right? But if she's not looking for you, you don't have a chance. I'm not telling you that you should go change everything about yourself. Think about it: You should want a girl who loves Jesus and lives out her faith everyday. Therefore, she'll be looking for a guy that does the same. So it all boils down to faith! Make yourself right with God, and everything, far beyond just finding a girlfriend, will eventually fall in place. Good luck!

(By the way, I'm just regurgitating these ideas. I'm not speaking from a place of experience. I'm in the same boat as you. I'm shy as well. But I'm confident that things will work out if we put our faith in the Lord.)
 
DbDShowbread42 said:
Think about it: You should want a girl who loves Jesus and lives out her faith everyday. Therefore, she'll be looking for a guy that does the same. So it all boils down to faith! Make yourself right with God, and everything, far beyond just finding a girlfriend, will eventually fall in place. Good luck!
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Absolutely. When we make God's business the priority of our life, then God makes our life His priority. Anything less is just plain selfishness.

Although I will admit that it is much easier said than done!
 
I have the same problem. I don't think I will find 'Miss Perfect' ever.
 
I thought today on my way home the verse where prophet samuel made David a king and how Davids father acted. He introduced every single boy he had exept the one who Samuel was really looking for. I had the feeling that with girls im like him... so what's the point really looking for girl? I mean like actively looking looking.. That's like the best way to get miss non perfect if anyone at all. God have something set for me too. someone with who I really can be happy.

that "Are you the person the person you're looking for is looking for?" that's good one. Keep youself good for God so you got best to offer for the girl when you got her.

(ps. exept many other here, I have been blessed to have someone to point my emotions, unfortunately she live opposite side of the world and I have no idea how to get us together physically)
 
Yeah, right now it's more like a question of how long will it before I find her than, Than will I ever get a wife.

I mean I just don't know how to girls connect to me. I mean I have a couple friends that are girls, but they either live in ohio(Though it looks like she might havve moved around her, I'll have to check this out), or the other one is 5 years older than me.
 
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