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miokyyy

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Dear christians, how do you deal with indecision?
I have this problem even for small decisions.๐Ÿ˜…
Any advice/tips/testimonies?
 

Cameron143

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Wait and trust...Proverbs 3:5-6.
At times it will seem God hasn't heard or has abandoned you. He has not. He is simply growing your faith. You are safe in His hands.
 

Magenta

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Wait and trust...Proverbs 3:5-6.
At times it will seem God hasn't heard or has abandoned you. He has not. He is simply growing your faith. You are safe in His hands.

Proverbs 3:5-6
:)
 

JohnDB

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I'm having trouble deciding whether I'm going to answer this thread or not.

There's good reason to...
But then there's good reasons not to.

Whatever should I do?


Slovakian culture is this way. Very very indecisive people. Very frustrating.
 

miokyyy

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Wait and trust...Proverbs 3:5-6.
At times it will seem God hasn't heard or has abandoned you. He has not. He is simply growing your faith. You are safe in His hands.
Amen amen! Thank you very much. "I am safe in His hands." I love that!!!๐Ÿ˜
 

miokyyy

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I'm having trouble deciding whether I'm going to answer this thread or not.

There's good reason to...
But then there's good reasons not to.

Whatever should I do?


Slovakian culture is this way. Very very indecisive people. Very frustrating.
Funny one๐Ÿคฃ

But i think as a christian, we need to deal with that๐Ÿ˜…
 

Snackersmom

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Dear christians, how do you deal with indecision?
I have this problem even for small decisions.๐Ÿ˜…
Any advice/tips/testimonies?
Hi miokyyy! Do you have any idea why you are so indecisive? Like, what goes through your head when you have to make a decision, do you worry that you'll make the wrong choice? Were you criticized a lot at some point in your life? That can make it easy to second-guess yourself :(.

I find it helps to ask The Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you, the Bible calls Him The Comforter who will lead us into all truth. God bless! :)
 

miokyyy

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Hi miokyyy! Do you have any idea why you are so indecisive? Like, what goes through your head when you have to make a decision, do you worry that you'll make the wrong choice? Were you criticized a lot at some point in your life? That can make it easy to second-guess yourself :(.

I find it helps to ask The Holy Spirit to fill you and guide you, the Bible calls Him The Comforter who will lead us into all truth. God bless! :)
Hello ๐Ÿ˜Š
Thank you very much for your answer. Great questions!!
I think it's more about fear of making errors when it comes to decisions.
Yes, i think there is something related to performance where i had to always be a "perfect" person.
Yes, I'll do that and try to find my security in God
Thanks
Blessings!
 

Cameron143

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Dear christians, how do you deal with indecision?
I have this problem even for small decisions.๐Ÿ˜…
Any advice/tips/testimonies?
Something else that might help. Psalm 119:105 teaches that God's word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path.

So a few things about this...
We aren't actually expected to make decisions so much as learn from God what He would have us do.
If you've ever seen a foot lamp you would know that it doesn't light up an entire area. Instead, it only lights enough so you know where to take the next step.
Why would God set things up this way? Because God isn't so interested in decisions as much as He is in a relationship with you. Decisions are simply a means to this end. As decisions need to be made, you are able to turn to God in prayer and in His word and be directed by Him, all the while interacting with Him and growing in your knowledge and experience of Him.
This is what you were created for.

Read the story of Abraham. God came to him and told him to leave his family without telling him where he was going. God later came and told him what to do next.
He will do the same with you. And as He does, you will learn to walk by faith, and not by sight. And, like Abraham, God will be your reward as well.
 

miokyyy

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Something else that might help. Psalm 119:105 teaches that God's word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path.

So a few things about this...
We aren't actually expected to make decisions so much as learn from God what He would have us do.
If you've ever seen a foot lamp you would know that it doesn't light up an entire area. Instead, it only lights enough so you know where to take the next step.
Why would God set things up this way? Because God isn't so interested in decisions as much as He is in a relationship with you. Decisions are simply a means to this end. As decisions need to be made, you are able to turn to God in prayer and in His word and be directed by Him, all the while interacting with Him and growing in your knowledge and experience of Him.
This is what you were created for.

Read the story of Abraham. God came to him and told him to leave his family without telling him where he was going. God later came and told him what to do next.
He will do the same with you. And as He does, you will learn to walk by faith, and not by sight. And, like Abraham, God will be your reward as well.
Oh wow!! So deep! Thank you very much! The story of Abraham really speaks to me. And i've never thought of this psalm 119 that way but it's quite interesting and very encouraging. Also, maybe He doesn't show us the whole plans because He wants us to trust Him? What do you think?
 

Cameron143

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Oh wow!! So deep! Thank you very much! The story of Abraham really speaks to me. And i've never thought of this psalm 119 that way but it's quite interesting and very encouraging. Also, maybe He doesn't show us the whole plans because He wants us to trust Him? What do you think?
I think you are on to something.
 

Cameron143

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Oh wow!! So deep! Thank you very much! The story of Abraham really speaks to me. And i've never thought of this psalm 119 that way but it's quite interesting and very encouraging. Also, maybe He doesn't show us the whole plans because He wants us to trust Him? What do you think?
I can't remember the source of the following, but it's true:

I don't need to know what tomorrow holds as long as I know Who holds tomorrow.
 

Magenta

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Psalm 119:105 teaches that God's word is a lamp unto our feet and a light unto our path.

โ€ญโ€ญPsalmโ€ฌ โ€ญ119:105~ Thy Word is a lamp unto my feet and a Light unto my path.
:)
 

Ballaurena

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Dear christians, how do you deal with indecision?
I have this problem even for small decisions.๐Ÿ˜…
Any advice/tips/testimonies?
I was actually just addressing this with my mom who is facing a hard decision on her finances.

Basically, as the Bible says, we can't change things by worrying. Therefore I counseled my mom to make the best decision she can and trust God with the rest. Even if she were to make a poor decision, worrying would not help the situation, but rather just add problems. It isn't that we can't make poor decisions that have negative consequences, but so long as we are giving it an honest effort, God is there to keep things from being catastrophic. After all, life is about learning and that requires the opportunity to make mistakes. Remember: Perfection is the goal; failure is the means.

Matthew 6:27 NASB1995
"And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?"
 

blueluna5

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Yes, have kids. You will have to get over it and make a lot of decisions quickly.. ๐Ÿ˜†

Seriously though I struggled with this... more so when I was younger though. I have adhd and it stems from that in my opinion. Bc most people don't care to ponder about every little thing. These are things that helped me.

1. Done is better than perfect.
2. Confidence in my choices- Confidence is actually self trust. If increases with experience and especially believing God is with us.
3. Simplifying- think of things as inventory. Too much inventory is impossible to keep track of.
4. Less stress- making too many decisions, too often gives decision fatigue. We have too many decisions to make everyday. It's not possible to get it all done. Pick 3 things for the day.
5. Eat the frog- I think that's the saying lol wake up early and finish your most important tasks first. Giving your best self to yourself so you can think clearer.
6. Organize things- keep notes is an app you can brain dump and organize things you need. You can save locations on maps on your phone. (Favorite restaurants, favorite parks, favorite places to go, etc.) You'll have a list to pick through instead of it being so open ended which makes it easier to decide. Write your favorite recipes down. Do pickup for groceries, it saves your recent items to reorder essentials.

Hope that helps. ๐Ÿ™‚ It gets better with age I think.
 

miokyyy

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I was actually just addressing this with my mom who is facing a hard decision on her finances.

Basically, as the Bible says, we can't change things by worrying. Therefore I counseled my mom to make the best decision she can and trust God with the rest. Even if she were to make a poor decision, worrying would not help the situation, but rather just add problems. It isn't that we can't make poor decisions that have negative consequences, but so long as we are giving it an honest effort, God is there to keep things from being catastrophic. After all, life is about learning and that requires the opportunity to make mistakes. Remember: Perfection is the goal; failure is the means.

Matthew 6:27 NASB1995
"And who of you by being worried can add a single hour to his life?"
Wow!!! That's so true! Thank you very much for your answer๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ
 

miokyyy

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Aug 20, 2024
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Yes, have kids. You will have to get over it and make a lot of decisions quickly.. ๐Ÿ˜†

Seriously though I struggled with this... more so when I was younger though. I have adhd and it stems from that in my opinion. Bc most people don't care to ponder about every little thing. These are things that helped me.

1. Done is better than perfect.
2. Confidence in my choices- Confidence is actually self trust. If increases with experience and especially believing God is with us.
3. Simplifying- think of things as inventory. Too much inventory is impossible to keep track of.
4. Less stress- making too many decisions, too often gives decision fatigue. We have too many decisions to make everyday. It's not possible to get it all done. Pick 3 things for the day.
5. Eat the frog- I think that's the saying lol wake up early and finish your most important tasks first. Giving your best self to yourself so you can think clearer.
6. Organize things- keep notes is an app you can brain dump and organize things you need. You can save locations on maps on your phone. (Favorite restaurants, favorite parks, favorite places to go, etc.) You'll have a list to pick through instead of it being so open ended which makes it easier to decide. Write your favorite recipes down. Do pickup for groceries, it saves your recent items to reorder essentials.

Hope that helps. ๐Ÿ™‚ It gets better with age I think.
Yes
I take your advices!! Thanks a lot๐Ÿ™Œ๐Ÿผ
 

Randy4u2c

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Dear christians, how do you deal with indecision?
I have this problem even for small decisions.๐Ÿ˜…
Any advice/tips/testimonies?
How about if you meditate on the decision you need to make, think it through and ask God to help you make the correct decision. Once you feel confident that you are making the right decision with God's help, go for it.