There's nothing wrong with being scared of discipline, and that doesn't just go for spanking your child. Kids cry if they are going to get grounded, if mommy takes away their gameboy, if they have to go to bed without dinner. Crying does not equate with evil. Sure I was scared of getting spanked. Spanking hurts! This does not mean I was afraid of my parents. I loved my parents, and I still love my parents. I just hated getting disciplined. I would cry like a baby every time before getting a spanking, and then afterwards I would walk off sniffling because it really did not warrant that much crying (it's called being dramatic).
Once again, you are acting like spanking is the only discipline that is going to create emotions of dislike in a child when the discipline is being inflicted. Sure when my parents spanked me I thought "they don't love me, because if they loved me they wouldn't spank me" but even beneath that trivial thought was the knowledge that yes my parents do love me, and they were spanking me because I was wrong. I can assure you that when my little brother gets grounded he has yelled at my parents at least once that they don't love him and they are so mean and hateful to him, etc. Those are just emotions that arise out of anger at being disciplined. Regardless of the child's selfish anger, or the parents' discipline, they all still love each other.
I never said children cannot grow up to be good citizens if they are not spanked. In fact I have been careful to point out in my posts that I am aware spanking is not for everyone. Some parents don't spank their children, and some children are still going to act disobedient even if spanked. For those people, they need to find an alternate means of discipline. Regardless, just because you don't want to spank your child does not mean everyone else is wrong for doing so.