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I was on another thread earlier and got to thinking about a crush that I have had for years. I am beginning to believe that this is somehow making me emotionally unavailable and there for unvailable period.
What I mean is, I like this guy. A Lot. And any other guy I meat is gonna have to be "better" than him for me to give him a chance. If I don't see that then I am gonna dismiss him because he is not living up to this standard that I have allowed this other guy to set in my life. (and when i say better I mean a better fit for me not necessarily a better person)
Now this standard thing is good in the sense that you have to have high standards and dont wanna take anything less than what you need in your life or someone who doesnt meet your must haves. But at the same time if you are looking at someone as the bar from an outside perspective, having never been in a relationship with them you don't know all of their qualities, good or bad. And therefore, another person may actually be "better" for you, but you are too busy harping on the things you know and or think you know and comparing others to that which they will never be able to live up to.
Has anyone else ever felt like this? If so, what was the situation, how did you overcome it?
What I mean is, I like this guy. A Lot. And any other guy I meat is gonna have to be "better" than him for me to give him a chance. If I don't see that then I am gonna dismiss him because he is not living up to this standard that I have allowed this other guy to set in my life. (and when i say better I mean a better fit for me not necessarily a better person)
Now this standard thing is good in the sense that you have to have high standards and dont wanna take anything less than what you need in your life or someone who doesnt meet your must haves. But at the same time if you are looking at someone as the bar from an outside perspective, having never been in a relationship with them you don't know all of their qualities, good or bad. And therefore, another person may actually be "better" for you, but you are too busy harping on the things you know and or think you know and comparing others to that which they will never be able to live up to.
Has anyone else ever felt like this? If so, what was the situation, how did you overcome it?