Lessons learned

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I have overcome alcoholism, drug addiction, porn addiction, gambling addiction; all by His grace, glory be to God! I believe that I have been through all of this, so that I am better able to minister to anybody who is going through these things.
 
Some of what I've learned..

To focus on the small picture more frequently. Sometimes thinking in terms of big picture stuff is just overwhelming. You become infinitely more grateful for little things.

Keep a distance from self-defeated attitudes.

Prayer is powerful stuff. No joke.
 
I learned god was never slapping me , for some reason I
Loved running into His hand ..

I am learning the urge in the flesh is really the Holy Spirit holding me back

I have learned the freedom of keeping my hands open

I have learned not to put lipstick " where the chapstick goes" next to my bed at night

i have learned to Look closely before walking through doors that look like windows

I have learned how much time I can loose in an oasis ..

I've learned not to chase rabbits into their holes ..

I have learned what a dangling carrot looks like

I have learned churches of different denominations should be working together ..

I have learned when the student is ready , the teacher will come

I have learned we are not human beings having a spiritual experience , but godly spiritual beings having a human experience

I have learned the essence of the gospel is not to get man into heaven, but God into
Man..

I have learned , peanut butter gets gum out of hair ..

I am forever a student learning
 
Crazy glue is DANGEROUS!!!

I'm still trying to learn this lesson -- to be still and trust God. I can't tell you how much times I got myself into trouble and didn't want to be honest when suddenly I got a brilliant idea that I could fix it with crazy glue. I don't want to gross you out with the details, but I know I'm not the only victim of buying into the myth that crazy glue can fix anything.
 
I've learned (well, am learning) to be thankful and praise God in any situation. It's hard to do. And it's not saying "Wow God, thank you so much for this horrible news I just found out. I'm so glad that I'm completely devastated right now! Yay!" But look at David and other psalmists. They were in pits of despair, in some they were fearing for their very lives, and yet they still praised God for who He is. It's hard to do. Sometimes it's the very last thing I want to do or the exact opposite of what I want to do. But God is holy, loving, caring, and just, all of the time. Who He is does not change based on my circumstances, and I'm learning to acknowledge that and praise Him for it.

Edited to say: I said "It's hard to do" twice. Whoops. So yeah...it's hard to do sometimes. :D
 
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I have learned that you CAN love again.
I have learned that children can teach us more than we ever imagined.
I have learned the difference between "believing" and "knowing".
I have learned that no matter what, He's got this.
I have learned to treasure laughter.
I have learned never to try to suck a cactus needle from my finger.
I have learned not to stick a paperclip in an outlet.
I have learned that if you have to call a child in for lunch more than three times, he is probably stuck at the top of a very large tree.
I have learned to share my heart with friends and family as freely and as often as possible because, all too soon, we cannot and will wish we had.
I have learned that the day you have a child is the day you discover how truly vulnerable you are.
I have learned not to stick my phone in my bra when I go to the dentist.
I have learned that I didn't like being alone as much as I thought I did.
I have learned that "having a terrific work ethic" can be a way of avoiding getting on with my life.
I have learned that I do not have to be as strong or as smart or as perfect as other people think I should be.
I have learned that I do not need to know it all because I know the One who does.
 
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Jullianna said:
I have learned that you CAN love again.
I have learned that children can teach us more than we ever imagined.
I have learned the difference between "believing" and "knowing".
I have learned that no matter what, He's got this.
I have learned to treasure laughter.
I have learned never to try to suck a cactus needle from my finger.
I have learned not to stick a paperclip in an outlet.
I have learned that if you have to call a child in for lunch more than three times, he is probably stuck at the top of a very large tree. The best place to be as a kid! Too bad you couldn't just hoist lunch up there. :)
I have learned to share my heart with friends and family as freely and as often as possible because, all too soon, we cannot and will wish we had.
I have learned that the day you have a child is the day you discover how truly vulnerable you are.
I have learned not to stick my phone in my bra when I go to the dentist.
I have learned that I didn't like being alone as much as I thought I did.
I have learned that "having a terrific work ethic" can be a way of avoiding getting on with my life.
I have learned that I do not have to be as strong or as smart or as perfect as other people think I should be. And you are loved anyways.
I have learned that I do not need to know it all because I know the One who does.
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I have learned that God's Word is REALLY valuable, even when talking with non-believers.
I have learned what it truly means to seek God; even if/when I am strong enough to do it myself.
I have learned that it is worth searching for a great church; its value is far above everything else.

And that's just in the past few months. I must need a lot of instruction, like a personal tutor or something... :)
 
I have learned that:
- It benefits me to not always get my way.
- That I don't always have to be right.
- That I don't have to be... because He is.
- Miracles DO happen.
- That I still have a lot to learn.
 
zeroturbulence said:
This is actually a first for me. I'm very wary of becoming friends with anyone (online or offline) which is one reason I have so few friends. It seems I'm not as careful as I thought I was. And what really hurts is that I thought this person really cared about me.
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I'm not an expert at letting people in or letting them love me. However, I found this CS Lewis quote and it really has me thinking.

"Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable."
 
DuchessAimee said:
I'm not an expert at letting people in or letting them love me. However, I found this CS Lewis quote and it really has me thinking.

"Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable."
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And I think that can be a very difficult and scary thing to do.
 
I've learned that I'm worth something, but consistently believing that fact is another lesson I need to learn.

I've learned that the people I've surrounded myself with aren't the best.

I've learned that I love medicine!

I've learned that I'm actually intelligent.

I've learned that hard work isn't something to complain about (at least not for long).

I've learned that I need to schedule my time better.

I've learned that I need to talk about myself more.
 
arwen83 said:
And I think that can be a very difficult and scary thing to do.
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You're right. It's a very difficult thing to do. I grew up relatively emotionless and it's only been over the past 5 years or so I've been working on feeling my feelings. I've noticed one important thing. Love doesn't hurt. 1 Cor 13 is right. Love doesn't hurt anybody. There are issues and emotions that couple themselves with love that hurt, but we tend to believe the lie that love itself brings pain.
 
DuchessAimee said:
You're right. It's a very difficult thing to do. I grew up relatively emotionless and it's only been over the past 5 years or so I've been working on feeling my feelings. I've noticed one important thing. Love doesn't hurt. 1 Cor 13 is right. Love doesn't hurt anybody. There are issues and emotions that couple themselves with love that hurt, but we tend to believe the lie that love itself brings pain.
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What do you think about tough love then?
 
arwen83 said:
What do you think about tough love then?
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I think tough love is a good thing. However, it still isn't what causes the pain. Coming out of denial, for instance, is what brings pain. Truth only hurts when it follows a lie.
 
DuchessAimee said:
I think tough love is a good thing. However, it still isn't what causes the pain. Coming out of denial, for instance, is what brings pain. Truth only hurts when it follows a lie.
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Okay so love/truth in itself isn't painful. But the effect of the love or truth given to a person can cause them to feel pain (ie. coming out of denial). Is that what you are saying?
 
arwen83 said:
Okay so love/truth in itself isn't painful. But the effect of the love or truth given to a person can cause them to feel pain (ie. coming out of denial). Is that what you are saying?
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Yes, the effect is what hurts. For instance, you love your husband/wife/bf/gf and they cheat on you. Loving them isn't what hurts, it's the betrayal of trust and the intimacy y'all shared. Or if I said something to a friend of mine out of love for their benefit, what hurt was them being confronted and being asked to step out of denial. Love is often a catalyst for pain which is why it seems like love hurts.
 
DuchessAimee said:
Yes, the effect is what hurts. For instance, you love your husband/wife/bf/gf and they cheat on you. Loving them isn't what hurts, it's the betrayal of trust and the intimacy y'all shared. Or if I said something to a friend of mine out of love for their benefit, what hurt was them being confronted and being asked to step out of denial. Love is often a catalyst for pain which is why it seems like love hurts.
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Very nicely put. I've enjoyed this conversation with you :)

P.S How do you now have 2 rep points? Tell me what you know! :P
 
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