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He's not for real..........
He is not who/where/what he claims to be; it's all an act.
And he's now banned.
I hadn't noticed that he was banned until you mentioned it. I was going to ask him why he's using this site to look for a wife (which I don't like, by the way, I echoed Christianchick awhile ago when she said how tired she was of all the personal ads on this site. It's one thing to ask if there are singles in one's area that are interested in dating, but I think a general call for a spouse is unwise) if there are so few women on this site from India. Most people on this site are from countries where English is the most common native language. It's quite the long shot that there'd be a woman on this site from where he was in India. Now, I assume the answer is because he didn't want an Indian wife but rather an American or Canadian or British or whatever so that he could move there, because the line in India to get into those countries is very, very long. Or, if they don't want to move they might just send you an e-mail saying they want to visit you but they can't afford a plane ticket and you need to send them a few grand. And even when they are sincere about finding a wife, that doesn't make it wise. Like I said, my old Sunday School teacher married a guy who was from a culture where having a blond wife was a status symbol. She really thought his sudden proposal was a sign from God.
I've said it once and I'll say it again. You (especially young women) have to be really, really careful out there. I bet Christians are special targets because people can say things like "God told me to marry you" and they think we'll fall for that. Or "God's told me that you'll be a blessing in my life." I mean, that's happened to me a lot on dating sites and it's even happened to me on this site.
You know, I think we shouldn't be reluctant to ask questions to get to the bottom on someone's motives. If one is really a Christian than they won't mind answering them. I find that when Christians make a big decision that they've really thought through and prayed about they WANT to answer questions. It's like "Let me tell you all the wise reasons why I believe why God wants me to do this." If they respond defensively (as the member on this site who contacted me did) then that should be a BIG red flag. You know, we're taught to test everything and keep the good. If someone is really doing something from God, they're not going to mind having it put to the test. It may seem judgemental, but isn't it more important to protect your sisters in Christ???
Thank you for having the guts to ban this member!