Marketing your personal brand

[PopClick]

...with apologies to Liamson for bouncing off of his post.

I think at the end of the day, people should take some interest in marketing their personal brand. Really finding a way to let people know who they are and what they are about, without coming across as a personals advertisement, that is something that interesting people do very well.

Its okay to stand out. It doesn't mean you are alone, it means that you are unique. Because at the end of the day, a person doesn't want to fall for just A man, or A woman, they want You to be special.

There are many different ways to look at this. Some people will end up "marketing" not what they are, but what they think they are. Some people will list many subjective traits, but if the observer doesn't agree with the speaker's assessment, then their claims are, in that instance, null. Some people will go overboard and outright vaunt themselves. And some people won't do as good of a job not sounding like a personals ad as they think they do. I'm not suggesting that everybody would be better off stating facts without a hint of personal expression, but I do think that if it is your goal to market your personal brand, it will come through in your posts.

Last point: the following probably doesn't apply to many people, nor am I suggesting that it should. But if someone isn't even remotely interested in a relationship, why would they take the time to talk about themselves so that other people can know them better? I am not, nor have I ever been, looking for a relationship. I also do not particularly like to type. I could go on and on about what makes me different, but at the end of the day, what good would it do anyone? If I have an experience to share that I think might help someone, I share it. Otherwise, it's just a waste of server space.

Liamson might think that I'm defensive, or that I took his post personally. That is not the case. I am simply sharing a different viewpoint, which required its own thread in order to make sure that the original thread didn't get derailed.

 

[seoulsearch]

Hi Pop,

Have I ever mentioned that my parents got the idea for my first name from a well-known brand that makes things like Kleenex and toilet paper? I've always joked that I'm glad they weren't looking at a bottle of Tide With Bleach when they named me.

I'm guessing my "brand" would be toilet paper that has a "fresh from the dryer" scent.

Hmm. I'm not sure what that would say to people... maybe... "I can handle the dirty jobs and still smell like a rose."

 

[Hellooo]

Some people will end up "marketing" not what they are, but what they think they are. Some people will list many subjective traits, but if the observer doesn't agree with the speaker's assessment, then their claims are, in that instance, null.

Spot on. Great sales people don't focus on selling product -- customers don't inherently care about product, they want a problem or a desire addressed. Closers don't advertise, they create relationships that meet those needs.
Show, not tell.

Pop! Always a pleasure to see you chime in, lady

 

[MissCris]

When I read Liamson's post, I didn't think he meant that people should be listing off their traits, their pros and cons...I dunno, I thought it meant pretty much what you said, Pop- " it will come through in your posts." (your personal "brand").

I could be totally off.

 

[AlaynaJ]

Can I be a pain and market my own brand with my Signature?

 

[MissCris]

Can I be a pain and market my own brand with my Signature?

Absolutely not. Stoppit.

 

[Liamson]

...with apologies to Liamson for bouncing off of his post.



There are many different ways to look at this. Some people will end up "marketing" not what they are, but what they think they are. Some people will list many subjective traits, but if the observer doesn't agree with the speaker's assessment, then their claims are, in that instance, null. Some people will go overboard and outright vaunt themselves. And some people won't do as good of a job not sounding like a personals ad as they think they do. I'm not suggesting that everybody would be better off stating facts without a hint of personal expression, but I do think that if it is your goal to market your personal brand, it will come through in your posts.

Last point: the following probably doesn't apply to many people, nor am I suggesting that it should. But if someone isn't even remotely interested in a relationship, why would they take the time to talk about themselves so that other people can know them better? I am not, nor have I ever been, looking for a relationship. I also do not particularly like to type. I could go on and on about what makes me different, but at the end of the day, what good would it do anyone? If I have an experience to share that I think might help someone, I share it. Otherwise, it's just a waste of server space.

Liamson might think that I'm defensive, or that I took his post personally. That is not the case. I am simply sharing a different viewpoint, which required its own thread in order to make sure that the original thread didn't get derailed.

Here, is where the subtlety comes into play.

Rather than saying, "Hey I'm really good at X, Y, and Z." Just do it and document it. Sometimes the proof is literally in the pudding.

Rather than saying I'm this and I'm that, I'll just have fun and let the advertizing be in the videos or the pictures.

And I think its important for people to find a medium to let themselves shine. Like having their art or their expression or their experience. It doesn't have to have anything to do with whether they are single.

It simply a statement about WHO they are and what they are passionate about. People want to see purpose in each other. We want to believe in each other. We want to pull for each other to succeed and its easy when we can see what someone is really about.

[video=youtube_share;HEhUFIXd-bM]http://youtu.be/HEhUFIXd-bM[/video]

This is what makes people loveable. When we can embrace their goals and dreams as if they were our own.

 

[AlaynaJ]

Absolutely not. Stoppit.

Too late. It's already my signature. And I'll probably continue to bug people about it on FB.

 

[NodMyHeadLikeYeah]

I think i'm a lot of things that can easily be disputed, but being really REALLY good looking is not one of them!

if i whip my head around really fast... i get dizzy.

 

[PopClick]

Seoul: I do remember that story! I thought it was a cool way of coming up with your name. I guess my parents were looking at a Rice Krispies box. Hmm...

Hellooo: Internet fist bump!

AlaynaJ: I agree with MissCris. You can't bring that stuff up in here. Chuck Norris does NOT approve.

Liamson: Thaaaaat makes more sense. I agree with what you said about listing one's attributes. The list thing could maybe be done tastefully (though I'm not sure I've ever seen it tastefully done), but it tends to come across like they're trying to convince everyone that they really are the things that they've listed. In most cases, if they were those things, we would be able to tell.
I am kind of stuck, however, on that part at the end about what makes people lovable. I guess I never thought of love being contingent on anything like that.

Nod: Nobody would dispute that. NOBODY!!!!!!

 

[Liamson]

Seoul: I do remember that story! I thought it was a cool way of coming up with your name. I guess my parents were looking at a Rice Krispies box. Hmm...

Hellooo: Internet fist bump!

AlaynaJ: I agree with MissCris. You can't bring that stuff up in here. Chuck Norris does NOT approve.

Liamson: Thaaaaat makes more sense. I agree with what you said about listing one's attributes. The list thing could maybe be done tastefully (though I'm not sure I've ever seen it tastefully done), but it tends to come across like they're trying to convince everyone that they really are the things that they've listed. In most cases, if they were those things, we would be able to tell.
I am kind of stuck, however, on that part at the end about what makes people lovable. I guess I never thought of love being contingent on anything like that.

Nod: Nobody would dispute that. NOBODY!!!!!!

Well, I think Love must be communicated in a way that it can be received well. We talk about Love languages but the primary purpose of those is to let other people know HOW we like to be loved.

In the same way God says He desires Obedience over sacrifice. If we love Him its not about how much we would give up for Him, its about showing Him through our Obedience.



When I'm talking about embracing someone else's goals...

If you are a Tattoo artist, I'm going to have a hard time relating to your goals or enabling you to achieve them. In the long run I don't think I could ever truly make you happy or a better person. And its not because you are a tattoo artist, its deeper than that. Its because I cannot relate to whatever fundamentally motivates your passion into that particular ongoing pursuit.


I suppose another way of looking at it...
I have a Rabbit and a Cat.
The Rabbit is sort of shy and likes being around people, as long as they don't touch him. We can feed him, he'll chase us and in general he is good company. He doesn't like being alone but he is skittish.

The Cat is a cat. It will let you pet it and hold it and whatever if its hungry because it thinks its going to be fed if we pet it. If its already been fed, then its just going to be lazy and irritated by us.

Both Animals have a sort of way to advertise how it is that they want to be cared for. The more obvious and relatable the care, the easier it is to show love to the animal.


In the same way that if a woman posts video of her playing board games or detailing information on different insects, I would assume that is what she is into. But there is an underlying reason behind the games or whatever and it comes out between the lines. And between the lines is the style of passion that they exhibit.

That passion, IS the nectar but, not all nectar is good for me. Some that is good for me is bad for you, etc.


for instance... If a woman says, I really like the Holidays. Thats the surface stuff. If she says, I like the holidays for the atmosphere, the decorating, the smells and the season as opposed to, I like the holidays because I like being around people and playing games and having fun.

Its different kinds of Nectar. For one stringing lights and scented candles makes them feel extra Christmasy. For some of us, its simply being all together, the rest is just the rest.




And its now 330-ish and I don't even know if I made a point but.... I'm too tired to think about such things.

 

[woka]

For me love needs to be marketed in a way where there is complete, and I mean complete acceptance of the person. I find that this is the aboslutely most attractive quality in any person. Jesus completley accepts us sin and all and when we start to build on that releationship with Him, the desires of our heart's change and become more in line with His word and His way. Which in turn leads us to be more like Him.

When I read the word the Lord Jesus was like a magnet He just attracted people to Him because of His love for everyone and acceptance of where they are at. He made reference to casting the first stone, because we look at the oustide of people and think oh he is like this, or she is like that. When we love and accept as He does. Believe me there are no marketing stratergies necessary.

Everyone wants to be with you and spend time with you, because you love them as He does.

 

[Liamson]

For me love needs to be marketed in a way where there is complete, and I mean complete acceptance of the person. I find that this is the aboslutely most attractive quality in any person. Jesus completley accepts us sin and all and when we start to build on that releationship with Him, the desires of our heart's change and become more in line with His word and His way. Which in turn leads us to be more like Him.

When I read the word the Lord Jesus was like a magnet He just attracted people to Him because of His love for everyone and acceptance of where they are at. He made reference to casting the first stone, because we look at the oustide of people and think oh he is like this, or she is like that. When we love and accept as He does. Believe me there are no marketing stratergies necessary.

Everyone wants to be with you and spend time with you, because you love them as He does.

When Jesus was with Mary and Martha, He said that what Mary had chosen was the better thing. Mary Marketed her love better than Martha.

They each were expressing their love in different ways.

 

[Liamson]

Well, I think Love must be communicated in a way that it can be received well. We talk about Love languages but the primary purpose of those is to let other people know HOW we like to be loved.

In the same way God says He desires Obedience over sacrifice. If we love Him its not about how much we would give up for Him, its about showing Him through our Obedience.



When I'm talking about embracing someone else's goals...

If you are a Tattoo artist, I'm going to have a hard time relating to your goals or enabling you to achieve them. In the long run I don't think I could ever truly make you happy or a better person. And its not because you are a tattoo artist, its deeper than that. Its because I cannot relate to whatever fundamentally motivates your passion into that particular ongoing pursuit.


I suppose another way of looking at it...
I have a Rabbit and a Cat.
The Rabbit is sort of shy and likes being around people, as long as they don't touch him. We can feed him, he'll chase us and in general he is good company. He doesn't like being alone but he is skittish.

The Cat is a cat. It will let you pet it and hold it and whatever if its hungry because it thinks its going to be fed if we pet it. If its already been fed, then its just going to be lazy and irritated by us.

Both Animals have a sort of way to advertise how it is that they want to be cared for. The more obvious and relatable the care, the easier it is to show love to the animal.


In the same way that if a woman posts video of her playing board games or detailing information on different insects, I would assume that is what she is into. But there is an underlying reason behind the games or whatever and it comes out between the lines. And between the lines is the style of passion that they exhibit.

That passion, IS the nectar but, not all nectar is good for me. Some that is good for me is bad for you, etc.


for instance... If a woman says, I really like the Holidays. Thats the surface stuff. If she says, I like the holidays for the atmosphere, the decorating, the smells and the season as opposed to, I like the holidays because I like being around people and playing games and having fun.

Its different kinds of Nectar. For one stringing lights and scented candles makes them feel extra Christmasy. For some of us, its simply being all together, the rest is just the rest.




And its now 330-ish and I don't even know if I made a point but.... I'm too tired to think about such things.

HAHAHHAHAA This is what happens when I'm falling asleep writing. I would say ignore all of this.

 

[rachelsedge]

And its now 330-ish and I don't even know if I made a point but.... I'm too tired to think about such things.

I actually think you did make a point, a good one. I was coming on here to comment and say that not everyone is going to like your brand, and vice versa. Your "brand" or "nectar" may be awesome to one person, but completely bore the next. Your brands don't exactly have to match, but should at least have a majority of it interest each other.

I don't know if that's the point you were trying to make, but it made sense to me.

 

[Catlynn]

Pfffffttttt!!!! EVERYONE loves my brand. Whatchoo talkin' bout?


Um...I shouldn't drink anymore coffee. I'll be back later to make a real post with my actual thoughts on the matter.

 

[Liamson]

I actually think you did make a point, a good one. I was coming on here to comment and say that not everyone is going to like your brand, and vice versa. Your "brand" or "nectar" may be awesome to one person, but completely bore the next. Your brands don't exactly have to match, but should at least have a majority of it interest each other.

I don't know if that's the point you were trying to make, but it made sense to me.

yeah, this.

I don't think they have to match. But they should be supportable and embraceable and complimentary to my own.



Also, I have a Nectar too. And it doesn't matter how much I like someone else's, if they don't like mine or can't get it, we aren't really going to work.

 

[MissCris]

All this talk of nectar is making me think of bees, or...wine....or hummingbirds or something. None of which I like. Which makes me think I must not like nectar, and therefore cannot possibly HAVE a...nectar.

But maybe I have, I dunno, syrup or something. Yeah. And waffles.

 

[PopClick]

I do have a slightly different point of view now, where I can see the value of not sounding like a robot, especially when people are asking me for advice. I can be very impersonal over the internet (but the internet is kind of impersonal to begin with ). If I have an experience to share that I think might be helpful, as I said, then I share it. But if that experience can be made a little more relatable, and therefore more helpful, by a little extra typing... I don't suppose it'll kill me. Maybe I'll start being more humanoid.