Has anyone ever worried when they seen their adult children alone and not dating and all their peers are getting married. Knowing that your adult child would like a boyfriend/girlfriend.
marriage partner for your adult children
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I have 3 grown daughters, and I don't worry about it. Things like this change like the seasons, so eh...they will settle down when they are ready. They don't seem worried, so why should I?
I don't have children but if I did I wouldn't worry. Marriage is not a promise. Getting what we want is not a promise.
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kaylagrl
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I didn't date till my late 30s was in my 40s when I got married. Don't worry. Better to wait then rush it and be worried they're married and miserable.
Time tells. Dont worry about it, unless they wanna talk about it, let em handle it
Ask the Lord to arrange this marriage, and all marriages which He arranges are as they should be, i.e., the Will of the Lord for your son(s) and daughter(s) (Gen. 24:65). Therefore, He shall increase their greatness, and comfort them on every side (Psalm 71:21). The LORD has said, "I will perfect that which concerns me (Psalm 138:8).
The word of God for the people of God thanks be to God. Amen.
The word of God for the people of God thanks be to God. Amen.
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Miri
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Trouble with this, is if you are worrying about them remaining single.
They will no doubt be aware if this and it will put more pressure on them
to find someone and marry them, just to please you.
That’s the last thing you want isn’t it, especially if they feel forced into marrying
someone unsuitable just to please you.
I don’t know if this is the case or not but it’s their lives to life, not yours.
Best to ease off the pressure and stop worrying about it.
Oh and marriage isn’t necessarily for everyone.
That's a good point . I never, never mention it to them. I know they want a one and I dont say anything.
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Locoponydirtman
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Not marrying is no harm no foul. I don't recommend that everyone get married. Some folks are better doing their own thing.
I would worry more about them settling for someone because they have to have someone.
I have a son with high standards, I hope he maintains them and never settles.
I would worry more about them settling for someone because they have to have someone.
I have a son with high standards, I hope he maintains them and never settles.
Yea when elders do that they dont realise it sends the message that they think less of them if they remain single. Marriage is not for everyone.
If one can afford to, sure the thing is raising a family these days is hard, not that its always been easy but Ive known two young couples that had to move overseas or to the the end of the country just to afford a roof over their head. That splits up the family in so many ways. Besides as parents dont you want children near you even when they grow up? The prodigal son came home. He didnt go off and marry and not go back to his father.
If one can afford to, sure the thing is raising a family these days is hard, not that its always been easy but Ive known two young couples that had to move overseas or to the the end of the country just to afford a roof over their head. That splits up the family in so many ways. Besides as parents dont you want children near you even when they grow up? The prodigal son came home. He didnt go off and marry and not go back to his father.
I have three kids and personally never had to worry about this particular problem...
At this point, I am more worried about their ability to choose the right partner to ensure a blessed marriage that lasts thru the commitment of their vows (to include their future spouses)...
I'm glad to hear that there is no pressure being imposed upon them... I also suspect that any suggestion to be more of 'a meddling parent' is not the advice nor the direction that you are seeking...
However, I do think that there are healthy and non-meddling opportunities that you might be able to consider to help create opportunities for them to meet others... Maybe consider inviting them to accompany you at church or family and friend social events... Just know, that you can lead a horse to water - but you can not make it drink... Leave it in the Lords hands...
God Bless
if my parents worried about me, I never knew. they never said anything about it. come to think of it, no one in my family ever asked me when I'm getting married or told me I needed to get married soon. I'm grateful 
As times goes by and i get older my parents are worried if i am gonna marry or not . And when i get married they will worry if i am happy in my marriage and if husband treats me welll. That is part of out culture also . We are very close to each other .
Better to marry late but you married the right person than marrying early but ended in separation.
Most of the time, the right person for marriage is a long time friend or a best friend.
I don't really advise dating to find potential lovers. I do advise that friends first before date.
The LORD told rhe zhudeans through Jeremiah, find wives for your sins and husbands for your daughters
I went on-line, to a website, to find my husband. (Yes, he is a Christian)
Same here. My parents will always worry about me even if I'm 80 years old. To them, I am their child until the end of time. It's part of our culture.
My opinion:
The term boyfriend/girlfriend is only a temporary person that most of us encounter on our quest to finding who is right for us.....Yes, the peer pressure to feel like part of the crew is a strong pull but, if something doesn't feel right to someone, they should follow their gut always.
All things work out in time and having patience is the absolutely hardest virtue to master. Especially in 2019.
The term boyfriend/girlfriend is only a temporary person that most of us encounter on our quest to finding who is right for us.....Yes, the peer pressure to feel like part of the crew is a strong pull but, if something doesn't feel right to someone, they should follow their gut always.
All things work out in time and having patience is the absolutely hardest virtue to master. Especially in 2019.