Marriage

[butterfly712]

What do you think it is the reason about why some people just don't want to get married?I know some people have had bad marriages like my mom and her boyfriend,and I understand that,and that some people just don't want to get married,I know it's a big step,but what do you think is the thing that scares them about getting married?

 

[achildofGod]

I think it may be future divorce. I have been married for 42 years.
I believe, God has to be first in everything. If you put your trust in
God, everything works. They are a lot of not trusting, money problems
They are a host of reasons, you just have to trust God to work them
out. If God has put you together, you stay together.

 

[butterfly712]

I think it may be future divorce. I have been married for 42 years.
I believe, God has to be first in everything. If you put your trust in
God, everything works. They are a lot of not trusting, money problems
They are a host of reasons, you just have to trust God to work them
out. If God has put you together, you stay together.

yes that's very true

 

[MyLighthouse]

I think people should learn from their last marriage instead of running away from marriage completely. I think the idea of Simba is what most feel like, that they just can't go through that hurt again, that they must run from their past. Yet running from his past Simba missed out on what could had been better for him and others. There are loyal people out there, they just got to be patient enough to wait for them. Most just jump into something so serious, had a friend that made that mistake. She end up divorcing and marrying her best friend. I have a best friend that got married to a guy she knew for 5 years, he loves her to death.

 

[mailmandan]

Fear of failure, fear of commitment.

 

[secularhermit]

What do you think it is the reason about why some people just don't want to get married?I know some people have had bad marriages like my mom and her boyfriend,and I understand that,and that some people just don't want to get married,I know it's a big step,but what do you think is the thing that scares them about getting married?

let´s study that!

If I asked you to marry me, what would you say?

 

[secularhermit]

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I think people should learn from their last marriage instead of running away from marriage completely. I think the idea of Simba is what most feel like, that they just can't go through that hurt again, that they must run from their past. Yet running from his past Simba missed out on what could had been better for him and others. There are loyal people out there, they just got to be patient enough to wait for them. Most just jump into something so serious, had a friend that made that mistake. She end up divorcing and marrying her best friend. I have a best friend that got married to a guy she knew for 5 years, he loves her to death.

I have heard "love hurts" but I never heard that "love kills"...

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

For men, the present feminist marriage legal contract that is now the law of the land in Western Civilization posits enormous risks and few benefits.

They immediately lose their independence upon entering into the feminist legal contract which carries about a 50/50 statistical probability of ending up in divorce court where men are transformed into a man-slave for a female that no longer loves them, provides any benefit to their life, and statistically turns any children they may have against them while they themselves are legally bound to make expensive monthly payments to their ex-wife for a great many years (sometimes for life even when she moves on to have relations with another man [or woman]) and failure to do so (for whatever reason) can result in incarceration in the nation's criminal penal system.

There are very real reasons why young men are abandoning the present incarnation of the legal marriage contract in Western societies and my observation is that women don't seem to mind that much.

 

[Siberian_Khatru]

Are we talking about people who want to remain single? Or people who are fine with being in a relationship, but don't want the "married" status?

For men, the present feminist marriage legal contract that is now the law of the land in Western Civilization posits enormous risks and few benefits.

Here we go again.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

Doing right ain't got no end | Sound clips from The Outlaw Josey Wales | Westerns

Lolol...

Here we go again.

 

[tourist]

Several reasons. The top reason would be fear of commitment. The perception may also be a loss of freedom. Another, is the nightmare of a possible divorce.

Overall, I would say most choose not to get married because they perform a cost/benefit analysis and marriage comes up short.

If you place God at the center of your marriage and each has the love of God in their heart to share with the other, then the prospective marriage would be happy and successful.

 

[mystikmind]

For men, the present feminist marriage legal contract that is now the law of the land in Western Civilization posits enormous risks and few benefits.

They immediately lose their independence upon entering into the feminist legal contract which carries about a 50/50 statistical probability of ending up in divorce court where men are transformed into a man-slave for a female that no longer loves them, provides any benefit to their life, and statistically turns any children they may have against them while they themselves are legally bound to make expensive monthly payments to their ex-wife for a great many years (sometimes for life even when she moves on to have relations with another man [or woman]) and failure to do so (for whatever reason) can result in incarceration in the nation's criminal penal system.

There are very real reasons why young men are abandoning the present incarnation of the legal marriage contract in Western societies and my observation is that women don't seem to mind that much.

It is basic logic that if you do not like the terms of any contract, then you don't sign it.... hence it does technically answer the OP's question, but, in reality, i do not think it is the main reason to not marry for most people.

I got married thinking it was forever, i had no doubts, no fears, i was so sure, and yet here i am after 6 years of marriage and she divorced me!

Given how certain i was in the beginning, there is no way i will trust those feelings ever again, this would be the main reason if i never marry again.

 

[Faithful_Fay]

This is a topic close to my heart and I can share some of my thoughts on why marriage can seem so intimidating.

There can be the fear of being so vulnerable with another person. Some people don't want to open themselves up to another person the way that marriage requires. There are plenty of reasons why, but this can be a huge factor. Past hurts, insecurity, lack of trust, or fear of failure. There are too many reasons.

I grew up with a lot of responsibilities and cared for my family, so the thought of marriage, which can be followed by thoughts of children, is tough. I know, it sounds terrible, but it's so much work. Single life can seem so simple and light in comparison.

Sometimes, it's easy to put off marriage because we see our faults or imperfections that we feel the need to try and fix before thinking about marriage.

One main reason I hear about is lack of certainty that marriage is right for them.

 

[secularhermit]

For men, the present feminist marriage legal contract that is now the law of the land in Western Civilization posits enormous risks and few benefits.

They immediately lose their independence upon entering into the feminist legal contract which carries about a 50/50 statistical probability of ending up in divorce court where men are transformed into a man-slave for a female that no longer loves them, provides any benefit to their life, and statistically turns any children they may have against them while they themselves are legally bound to make expensive monthly payments to their ex-wife for a great many years (sometimes for life even when she moves on to have relations with another man [or woman]) and failure to do so (for whatever reason) can result in incarceration in the nation's criminal penal system.

There are very real reasons why young men are abandoning the present incarnation of the legal marriage contract in Western societies and my observation is that women don't seem to mind that much.

I like that boldness and honest talk, although it isn´t always that way:
* What about of those ladies who gave birth of children without being married?
* What about those who screwed up themselves by loving a married man, a cheater, who promised they would be divorced to marry the "fool" they just tried to lift up with their unfaithful hands?

Yes! There is feminism but, on the other hand, machismo too. In the OT it is clearly seen the Patriarchs and their machism, as they were the actual owners on the house and livestock... Is it today the same? When some ladies work, and some of them get more money than their husbands.

At least, my ex wife and many others have seen certain things well. And I would be a liar if I said she doesn´t regret I ran free, and at not cost: She would have wanted to get her bills paid, that way you said.

 

[secularhermit]

let´s study that!If I asked you to marry me, what would you say?

Oooooh! I see no answer.... (Yet!)


@ Ageo! Are you that right?

PS

"... my observation is that women don't seem to mind that much."

 

[JustAnotherUser]

It's different for each person as to why they want to marry or not. We can't determine that for them. Some people seem rather content not settling down and maybe a bit smart at that since they tend to still appear youthful in appearance and personality.

 

[butterfly712]

Oooooh! I see no answer.... (Yet!)


@ Ageo! Are you that right?

PS

"... my observation is that women don't seem to mind that much."

I would say no and that I need to get to know you better.

 

[butterfly712]

Are we talking about people who want to remain single? Or people who are fine with being in a relationship, but don't want the "married" status?


Here we go again.

People who are fine with being in a relationship but don't want the married status.

 

[secularhermit]

I would say no and that I need to get to know you better.

Good answer!

It doesn´t hurt and it doesn´t discourage me either BUT, Ageofknowledge could be greatly CORRECT.



nEXT QUESTION, to follow up with "the chance" she seems to be open to marriage, would be:

IN WHAT WAYS A WOMAN NEEDS TO KNOW A MAN to say "Yes" ?
(and not that hurting and discouraging "No")

 

[secularhermit]

People who are fine with being in a relationship but don't want the married status.

Hey, Siberian!

Those who long to enjoy that type of relationship... Would they marry when being too old?