I read alot on here from both the men and women. Its sucks to be hurt and then to try and trust again is horrific. However not once since my seperation till my divorce and even now, haven't I spoken one ill word about him to my duaghter. Why because I want her to KNOW there are godly men. Such as the men on here such as the men out in the world. Obviously being cautious is important. But what I don't want is to trash him because that is what she will think men are. They aren't all like that. It took one man for hurt to sink in, not millions. It took one man to restore my faith. But its Christ who holds me together.
I hear the pleading and begging and the standards for a man. But when was the last time you edified a man weither on here or in your life? When's the last time you complimented what a man did. He doesnt have to be your man. Just a man who open the door, who moved over to the side so you could have more room, who smiled at you.
You know one thing men have told me that women do is NAG, all it does is push them away. I scan these forums and if I was a new single male and read them I would be hesitent on going up to a women. Its griping and if you do it here im sure you do it in your life. What kind of energy are you pulling into your life? Where is the rejoice in christ?
I can only for myself I come here to edify, to laugh, to love my brothers and sisters in christ. With John's passing I don't feel the need to be attached. In fact 5 months after his passing and I'm still in love. I rejoice what I have when I am sad I praise, when its hard, I praise God. Why becuase life is too short and GOOD to not do that. Do I entertain the idea of meeting someone here or in real life ,sure I do. Just remember to think about the men who are trying to live for God,and pray a prayer of thanksgiving or a prayer that they continue seeking God. If we don't build each other up we will all fall.
