My family are pushing me too hard

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perlcookwriter said:
Roserock that information is irrelevant and not something she needs to share.
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I have friends there that could help. I was wondering if she was close to the church or goes to the church my daughter interned at last year.
And. Honestly as I've said before...... The entire thread is irrelevant unless we're trying to help which I am..
 
So Fran I have a question... Do you think you need any more help from this thread? I don't want it to get too drawn out which could make it harder for you to deal with things. I'm not saying we never talk again but maybe not here because I don't see all this extended conversation helping you. Unless it is, of course. : )
 
Fran123 I pray that you will come to understand that what has happened to you isn't real punishment. Everyone messes up. Please take a step back and think. Hind sight is always 20/20! Look forward to your living your life not in a rebellious manner but KNOW that you can live your life being truly happy and having virtue. Open up and be the real person you are, a whole person. I know that it must be a shock but must see that you are in a safe place.

You can find help in a lot of places please don't just give up like you had given up before and let life just run you down the river out to sea. God bless and keep you I pray you find your calling and open up. You have a name!
 
perlcookwriter said:
So Fran I have a question... Do you think you need any more help from this thread? I don't want it to get too drawn out which could make it harder for you to deal with things. I'm not saying we never talk again but maybe not here because I don't see all this extended conversation helping you. Unless it is, of course. : )
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I don't understand some of it but it does help. I respect all the advice I have been given.
 
Fran123 said:
I really am trying to be good in real life. I've volunteered for chores three times today, I didn't moan when Mum chose a really yucky dress this morning. I asked if I could pray with her and I spent an hour reading my bible this afternoon. Oh and when one of her friends came over I was the perfect daughter!
I just moan to you lot :P
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It's alright we can take it and God doesn't mind us moaning to Him.

I hope your mom is following Jesus and not just your pastor, though your pastor must be decent and open-minded if he recommended this site.

However too many people follow what their pastor says and dont really read the Bible themselves or pray regularly.

A pastor told me once that I shouldn't expect everyone else to want to read the Bible all the way through from cover to cover yearly. I told him we would have to agree to disagree.

Anyway let me find and post that Bible verse..never feel afraid or ashamed of speaking to God from your heart. He can take it even when people around you lash out and don't listen. God always listens.
 
*Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses. For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought, but the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groanings which cannot be uttered. *Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is, because He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God.*And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose. - Romans 8:26-28
 
Fran123 said:
My family, and especially my Mum and my sister, are giving me a really hard time.

I sort of messed up a few months ago, did some really stupid things which could have been really serious, and my Mum just freaked out.

So now I have changed schools (all girls, no boys) and we are all going to church every week and I am taking extra classes and bible study. I mean Mum and my sis always have, and I did when I was younger, but this is a new church and I don't really get a choice right now.

They have changed everything about me. My friends, my clothes, everything. I mean, I joined her cos it is just about the only place I am allowed to come online because our Pastor recommended it.

I'm sorry for what I did and I have learned from it, and I deserved some punishment, but this is too much, don't you think?
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the problem many have is that we all ask for teachers help and future with study at school and we never always make 100's on all our assignments in class but when it comes to life we all sometimes seem to think we know everything there is to know and we are never wrong.
I feel you the truth I could have saved myself from many hardships if I had listened to my parents when I was a teenager. You know you can ask your parents or whatever and be more involved in your mum's reasoning to how she plans on raising you and set goals with her about your life instead of just wondering why she is doing what she is doing g I your life and waiting for her next plan for your life and questioning that one as well. Kids obey your parents for this is right in the sight of the Lord. I'll tell you something deeper about life as well and that is everyone is going to have problems and difficulties in life until we understand exactly what God is saying g to us in His word. Verses are not to be quoted and proclaimed every time e we have problems but there are conclusions in the word just like other books that we must understand and while you may not find the conclusions on the last page they are necessary to understand. However unlike other books, you will want to read about Christ forever.
 
Eternallife said:
the problem many have is that we all ask for teachers help and future with study at school and we never always make 100's on all our assignments in class but when it comes to life we all sometimes seem to think we know everything there is to know and we are never wrong.
I feel you the truth I could have saved myself from many hardships if I had listened to my parents when I was a teenager. You know you can ask your parents or whatever and be more involved in your mum's reasoning to how she plans on raising you and set goals with her about your life instead of just wondering why she is doing what she is doing g I your life and waiting for her next plan for your life and questioning that one as well. Kids obey your parents for this is right in the sight of the Lord. I'll tell you something deeper about life as well and that is everyone is going to have problems and difficulties in life until we understand exactly what God is saying g to us in His word. Verses are not to be quoted and proclaimed every time e we have problems but there are conclusions in the word just like other books that we must understand and while you may not find the conclusions on the last page they are necessary to understand. However unlike other books, you will want to read about Christ forever.
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I tried to edit this but it took me more than five minutes so it didn't go through.
 
Eternallife said:
the problem many have is that we all ask for teachers help and future with study at school and we never always make 100's on all our assignments in class but when it comes to life we all sometimes seem to think we know everything there is to know and we are never wrong.
I feel you the truth I could have saved myself from many hardships if I had listened to my parents when I was a teenager. You know you can ask your parents or whatever and be more involved in your mum's reasoning to how she plans on raising you and set goals with her about your life instead of just wondering why she is doing what she is doing g I your life and waiting for her next plan for your life and questioning that one as well. Kids obey your parents for this is right in the sight of the Lord. I'll tell you something deeper about life as well and that is everyone is going to have problems and difficulties in life until we understand exactly what God is saying g to us in His word. Verses are not to be quoted and proclaimed every time e we have problems but there are conclusions in the word just like other books that we must understand and while you may not find the conclusions on the last page they are necessary to understand. However unlike other books, you will want to read about Christ forever.
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I meant I tell you the truth
 
Fran123 said:
It does get mentioned quite a lot :rolleyes:
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If you aren't repeating whatever "sin" you did, they are being unfair. I would invite them to read what the bible says about forgiveness.

We are not suppose to hold a person's sin over their head after they have apologized/made restitution for their sin, assuming they have forsaken said sin.

Imagine if God continually held our sins over our heads. We definitely deserve it... but God feels otherwise and sent His only begotten son to atone for the sins of mankind... not to perpetually shame them for their sins.
 
Its mentioned if I moan. Like if I say why do I have to do such and such, Mum might say because I don't trust you anymore.
 
Fran123 said:
Its mentioned if I moan. Like if I say why do I have to do such and such, Mum might say because I don't trust you anymore.
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Then stop moaning and questioning why you have to do certain things. Maybe she'll start trusting you faster again..
 
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