Well here I am again, I previously posted 2 topics about my husband leaving me and moving to another state with his sister.
Originally we discussed being separated temporarily, which was his Idea, I totally disagreed with him and let him know that was not what I wanted . Before he left he assured me that he was just using this separation to work on himself and find a job so that he can be a man and provide for his family.
During one of our conversations he also told me he never wanted to leave in the first place, I guess he wanted me to fight for him to stay, but at the time I did cry and begged him not to go, he ignored me and left anyways.
It's been over a month now, in between time we have talked and he clearly stated that he wanted to remain married and that he was more then willing to fix our marriage, after a couple weeks to myself and my children, I finally felt that he did make the right decision and that I would work on my part being a Woman of God and a better wife and mother during this time.
Everything was fine, he called everyday for about 1 week, we talked about our future together, how we missed each other and couldn't wait to see each other again, he even said that after his job training he would be returning home sometime in March!
I was very excited to hear that my husband would be home so soon. Until one day I didn't get his call, I thought he was just a little busy, so I didn't worry, then days went by! After about 4 days of not hearing from him, he finally gets in contact with me to tell me that he feels he doesn't want to be married anymore and that he felt I wanted him all to myself and that he just couldn't do that, I didn't understand what he meant or where any of this was coming from, so I let out my hurt and anger and replied by asking him to provide me with an address to have divorce papers sent to him.
He responded as if he wasn't expecting me to say that and was kind of in shock with my response. He ended the conversation telling me he loved me and would always love me, which just really hurt more because I felt he wanted to make me breakdown and cry out to him.
4 days after that he decides to call me and ask me why I never tried to contact him since he's been gone, I was so confused by this because he just told me a few days before that he didn't want to be married anymore, but I responded to him, letting him know that I tried to contact him but that his phone was shut off, also I was not comfortable calling his sisters phone, and that I just patiently waited on his call, he told me that I am still his wife and that he wanted to know that I was thinking of him.
So after that conversation I did what I thought he wanted and contacted him through his sisters phone through text, but he didn't respond until 3 days later, he sounded totally different as if he didn't want to hear from me and was being kind of rude, I felt like we were just strangers! He asked me about this other guy that fixes my car and if he has tried to flirt with me, I was honest with him and told him Yes, then he asked me if I was going to finally give him a chance. I told him I no, I am still married to him and it might not mean anything to him but it means everything to me, I then questioned him if he was seeing someone else, he said no.
I tried to get more understanding of him wanting me to contact him more because I was confused, he acted as if he didn't understand me, and said he didn't want to be rude by telling me again that he doesn't want to be married so he cut the conversation short, I broke down and cried so hard I didn't know what to do.
I started having visions of him being with another woman and this woman having his child, I've tried to get pregnant with his child for 2 years but never did, so I cried harder.
Since my husband has told me he didn't want to be married anymore, I decided since God hates divorce that I would not be the one to get the divorce, if he wanted to file he will do it himself, he hasn't even provided me with am address if I were to file!
I've been praying and praying, for God to soften my husband's heart, and have continuously ask for signs that HE is going to restore our marriage, I've been led to scriptures about marriage, but I'm still not getting clear signs, it's been 2 weeks and I still haven't heard from my husband, he hasn't even bothered to check on us! It hurts even more because that is not how he used to be, and I don't want our marriage to be over, I just want my husband home and I can't even sleep at night because I wake up to see if he's called me, and he hasnt.
IM CONFUSED...SORRY ITS SO LONG BUT YOU HAVE TO KNOW THE WHOLE STORY, AND I WOULD SUGGEST THAT YOU READ MY PREVIOUS POST TO GET A BETTER UNDERSTANDING. ..PLEASE HELP ME
Originally we discussed being separated temporarily, which was his Idea, I totally disagreed with him and let him know that was not what I wanted . Before he left he assured me that he was just using this separation to work on himself and find a job so that he can be a man and provide for his family.
During one of our conversations he also told me he never wanted to leave in the first place, I guess he wanted me to fight for him to stay, but at the time I did cry and begged him not to go, he ignored me and left anyways.
It's been over a month now, in between time we have talked and he clearly stated that he wanted to remain married and that he was more then willing to fix our marriage, after a couple weeks to myself and my children, I finally felt that he did make the right decision and that I would work on my part being a Woman of God and a better wife and mother during this time.
Everything was fine, he called everyday for about 1 week, we talked about our future together, how we missed each other and couldn't wait to see each other again, he even said that after his job training he would be returning home sometime in March!
I was very excited to hear that my husband would be home so soon. Until one day I didn't get his call, I thought he was just a little busy, so I didn't worry, then days went by! After about 4 days of not hearing from him, he finally gets in contact with me to tell me that he feels he doesn't want to be married anymore and that he felt I wanted him all to myself and that he just couldn't do that, I didn't understand what he meant or where any of this was coming from, so I let out my hurt and anger and replied by asking him to provide me with an address to have divorce papers sent to him.
He responded as if he wasn't expecting me to say that and was kind of in shock with my response. He ended the conversation telling me he loved me and would always love me, which just really hurt more because I felt he wanted to make me breakdown and cry out to him.
4 days after that he decides to call me and ask me why I never tried to contact him since he's been gone, I was so confused by this because he just told me a few days before that he didn't want to be married anymore, but I responded to him, letting him know that I tried to contact him but that his phone was shut off, also I was not comfortable calling his sisters phone, and that I just patiently waited on his call, he told me that I am still his wife and that he wanted to know that I was thinking of him.
So after that conversation I did what I thought he wanted and contacted him through his sisters phone through text, but he didn't respond until 3 days later, he sounded totally different as if he didn't want to hear from me and was being kind of rude, I felt like we were just strangers! He asked me about this other guy that fixes my car and if he has tried to flirt with me, I was honest with him and told him Yes, then he asked me if I was going to finally give him a chance. I told him I no, I am still married to him and it might not mean anything to him but it means everything to me, I then questioned him if he was seeing someone else, he said no.
I tried to get more understanding of him wanting me to contact him more because I was confused, he acted as if he didn't understand me, and said he didn't want to be rude by telling me again that he doesn't want to be married so he cut the conversation short, I broke down and cried so hard I didn't know what to do.
I started having visions of him being with another woman and this woman having his child, I've tried to get pregnant with his child for 2 years but never did, so I cried harder.
Since my husband has told me he didn't want to be married anymore, I decided since God hates divorce that I would not be the one to get the divorce, if he wanted to file he will do it himself, he hasn't even provided me with am address if I were to file!
I've been praying and praying, for God to soften my husband's heart, and have continuously ask for signs that HE is going to restore our marriage, I've been led to scriptures about marriage, but I'm still not getting clear signs, it's been 2 weeks and I still haven't heard from my husband, he hasn't even bothered to check on us! It hurts even more because that is not how he used to be, and I don't want our marriage to be over, I just want my husband home and I can't even sleep at night because I wake up to see if he's called me, and he hasnt.
IM CONFUSED...SORRY ITS SO LONG BUT YOU HAVE TO KNOW THE WHOLE STORY, AND I WOULD SUGGEST THAT YOU READ MY PREVIOUS POST TO GET A BETTER UNDERSTANDING. ..PLEASE HELP ME