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So you are married to a verbally abusive man and he tells you your f-- useless and at times he has told you your stupid and along with the kids. But along with many other hurtful and hateful works. Sometimes it seems it's getting worst with his tempera and him not going to church. Moms teaching the kids these works are not allowed to be called at eachother, but Dad breaks rules and get away with it. Mom had it sick of all her feelings getting hurt. We forgive Everytime. Advice Christians do my kids an I continue. Cause my husband make every excuse in the book that's why he calls me names. I'll keep forgiving but I'm not God my feeling for him is changing. I don't believe this is healthly for the kids to be raised in:((( my self esteem should not have to go though this:(( I want Gods Will in this Marriage and without a Mirracle I'm Done:(( I can't take another bickering fight that tears us me or my kids inner persons:(((( sorry for all that please pray for us:)) the Goyette Thanks
 
Nanabell!!!!!!!! With all the hurt you are going through, know this from Jesus!!!! YOU ARE SO LOVED!!! 1 cor 10:13 Remind Jesus as often as you need to of his Word,and when things happen, don't be surprised!! My prayers and love in Jesus are with you.HOLD ON!! Help is on the way!
 
So you are married to a verbally abusive man and he tells you your f-- useless and at times he has told you your stupid and along with the kids. But along with many other hurtful and hateful works. Sometimes it seems it's getting worst with his tempera and him not going to church. Moms teaching the kids these works are not allowed to be called at eachother, but Dad breaks rules and get away with it. Mom had it sick of all her feelings getting hurt. We forgive Everytime. Advice Christians do my kids an I continue. Cause my husband make every excuse in the book that's why he calls me names. I'll keep forgiving but I'm not God my feeling for him is changing. I don't believe this is healthly for the kids to be raised in:((( my self esteem should not have to go though this:(( I want Gods Will in this Marriage and without a Mirracle I'm Done:(( I can't take another bickering fight that tears us me or my kids inner persons:(((( sorry for all that please pray for us:)) the Goyette Thanks


I'm so sorry to hear of this evil you are dealing with. Lots of people think that because we love God we are to turn the other cheek to the point of excepting being abused. This is not so. God hates divorce but he's hates abuse also.

You are to protect your children and yourself. You can not allow this any more. God loves you and he has given you a miracle to of been able to keep on living. God doesn't do it all for us. You need to take action to protect your children and yourself.

What your husband is doing is worse than taking a ax and chopping your children and you to pieces. Don't put up with this another minute. Get him out of your house.

This is not going to be what all you are going to have to go through. You must lean on God. My heart hurts so bad to hear of this happening to you.

My daughter is on the way to court as we speak. Her husband had stolen her daughter out of school. She had to get restraining order. Now divorce court an all. She tried very hard as I'm sure you did. A time comes when you say no more and remember you can not be abused unless you allow it.

God bless you so much!
Love
Linda
 
hi Nanabell many will tell you to stick things out ,,,BUT you only have one shot at this life and he is now way off base its time for you and the kids to get back to being happy together and live your life in the peace that God ment for you and the kids to have ,,,,, many in here will not agree with what i say ,,, but you have to think of your kids and this way of life is so not fair on them

May God bless you in all you do ,,,your happyness is worth fighting for no one can row a boat with only one oar pulling all you will do is go round and round ,,, hugs
 
Nanabell,

By staying there with him, you are teaching your children through your INaction that it's acceptable to not only behave the way their father is behaving, but also that it's ok to be TREATED that way by anyone. Not a lesson you want kids learning.

I say, get out of there. You can forgive him from a safe distance.

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers :)
 
Nanabelle,go in your secret prayer time and rebuke this anger from your husband,even if you have to get loud,tell the enemy to get his hands off your
husband and let him go ,in the name of Jesus!Do some spititual warfare,We claim your husband forthe kingdom of God right now in the mighty name of Jesus and we command you satan to loose this man, get your hands off him now!!!!!We bind anything from him that is not of you Lord and we loose
peace,joy,love for his wife and childrenand we thank you Father that you have heard this prayer and we consider it done in Jesus name AMEN!!
And we thank you that he will work for your kingdom as well and minister to people who used to be just like him!!!!!
God bless you sister,you are not a doormat, you are a child of the most High God!take athority in him.
 
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You are in a verbally abusive marriage. Abusers have among the lowest rate of changing their actions. Very few ever change. Save yourself, save your children and get away as fast as you can. Leave this man and don't look back. This is not the life God created you for. No one, man or woman, should ever have to be subjected to this type of behavior. Period.
 
Nanabell,

By staying there with him, you are teaching your children through your INaction that it's acceptable to not only behave the way their father is behaving, but also that it's ok to be TREATED that way by anyone. Not a lesson you want kids learning.

I say, get out of there. You can forgive him from a safe distance.

I'll keep you and your family in my prayers :)


Very well said. I concur wholeheartedly. Prayers go out for you as well Nanabell.
 
Maybe i can give you understanding, but if you believe it or not is up to you.
This is the second time im responding to a post were a marriege is in danger, and it shows me "im not married" that it is a hard issue and a decision one has to make with prayer and answer from Jesus Christ.

If you have considered anything in the Bible that Explains the Nature of Sins and the Conditions we live under then you are on the right track, but according to your post it seems that you are not considering any of it. I would be oblidged to write down for you some scriptures that will help you understand your Husband and his Actions. What i will write goes for all Sinners, all Man who were Born from a Mothers Womb. This is not to condemn your Husband or any Man but to explain and give like you asked understanding to the situation everyone has enterd the world in.

Psalm 51:5 Surely I was sinful at birth, sinful from the time my mother conceived me.

1 John 3:8 He who does what is sinful is of the devil, because the devil has been sinning from the beginning. The reason the Son of God appeared was to destroy the devil's work.

For man it seems impossible to change its own nature, with any tools that he can device, wenn man is born, even then he was sinful at birth, and a dark world ruled by Satan has recieved him. These conditions are perfect for a sinner, since the sins of man "please, love, desire...for anything" is being Diktated by himself, by his sins, since childbirth. If you take Gods Laws, Commandmends, live of Jesus Christ and study them you will find that we in our natural sinful state have nothing in Jesus Christ, but have everything in this World.

Its even hard for me to say but to consider that even aa Christian who seems to Sin at this outrages overwhelming manner is the image of Satan, serving Satan, giving heed to demonic spirits and even possessed in a great degree of a Demon. His Mind in Bondage and his Lust and Ideas as his Heart are all contected with the Evil, Demonic Realm, were he is being influenced in such a manner that it may turn out in Physical Abuse if this continues.

Although we are born as sinners in this Hostile Physical and Spiritual Enviroment, once Jesus Christ is in the Mind or Heart of a Sinner and the Sinner screams for help Jesus Christ will then take over and guide each man to repentance, truth, life and light. Its up to the Person for who long he may or may not want to follow Jesus Christ. You husband as a Believer in Jesus Christ has till this day the Opportunity to repent at a steady, peacefull and honest way. But something has happend in him, that he excludes church from his life, distances himself from Jesus Christ and Rightousness and Repantance. To find out wenn it all happend and why at this point i am not sure if it is safe, but him being more of a threat towards all who live under his roof.

Your husband is being controlled by some degree by Evil spirits, and the more time passes the more the Demonic Spirit will take controll of him, if you believe in Satan and Demon, would not your husband be a perfect Host for such spirits? would Satan not delight and take advantage of his state?.

I would leave, and get a divorce, the demon through him might threaten you in all manners and ways, even hurting himself onto death, but dont give in, rather one dies then him and that wich is in him causeing his, yours and maybe your childrens downfall.

You have work to do in Jesus Christ, if you have ever decieded to be a deciple for Jesus Christ and raise your Children up in a Godly Home, Teach them in all Knoweldge of Scipture and Diciplin them then do so now. Leave your Husband and pray, for i Believe in all good Faith the Lord will be with you.
 
Have you talked to your pastor? And can you leave or ask him to leave. I know finances can make a women feel trapped.
I will be praying for your families protection, and that if this is spiritual warfare...that God will give you the right words to pray.
I pray that God gives you divine wisdom, you need to change your behavior...to change his. Other wise you will be doing the
same arguments every day over and over again. Jesus has allready given us the power to change, we just need to claim it.
In His service and In Jesus Name Amen
 
Thanks for all the support I'll keep you all posted. I need to learn how to post and reply:) I just sent a long and meaningful response to you all and must have deleted it:((( Sorry:((
 
I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED THIS TYPE OF ABUSE, BUT I JUST READ A BOOK CALLED: WINGS OF A DOVE...
IT'S LIKE THE CHRISTIAN SONG... I THINK IT COULD BE VERY HELPFUL... IT IS A NOVEL, BUT IT IS VERY INSPIRATIONAL AND HAS LOTS OF BIBLICAL REFERENCES ABOUT THIS VERY SITUATION...

i WOULD ALSO SUGGEST READING ANY BOOK WRITTEN BY MICHELE MCKINNEY-HAMMOND... IT WILL TEACH YOU ABOUT TRUE LOVE AND WHAT IT IS supposed TO LOOK LIKE AND WHAT IT TRULY MEANS TO BE SUBMISSIVE IN A RELATIONSHIP...

I WILL PRAY FOR YOU, FOR SAFETY AND ENCOURAGEMENT!
 
I AM IN TOTAL AGREEMENT... BUT I ALSO ENCOURAGE HER TO GET THE MATERIALS, THE BOOKS I SUGGESTED, BECAUSE I HAVE LEARNED THAT THIS TYPE OF ABUSE CAN LINGER LONG AFTER SEPERATION FROM THE ABUSER
 
I thnk you should take a break.I mean - can you live at your parents house or somewhere else for some time?
You should stay away from somebody who does not respect you.
Also-you need to pray about it.
You don't deserve things like that-he is your husband and he should love you.

All the best to you!
God bless you!
 
Nan,
As long as you are living together, there are some p romises that might be hepful to you. Isaiah 61:1-13 . Christ came to heal the broken hearted. Isaiah 54:11-17....God will give you the words to calm the strife. Proverbs says "wise men turn away wrath. You can believe 'god for wisdom to turn away wrath and calm the strife.
Another suggestion is a conflict journal. whenever there is a fight note 3 questions. 'What was the argument all a bout? How can it be resolved? How can it be avoided.?

Another suggestion is to purchase a digital recorder. If someone has something to say. Record it. I tried this and it is very effective.

May God give you wisdom to deal with your situation.