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I needed a good laugh this morning.....thanks topher. (and by the way, your right.....you do not know them until you have spent time with them in person....communicated with them in lots of situations, seen their habits, maneurisms, etc etc.) (craziness and eye patches...LOL)
 
Many come online to escape reality, and those very same people can use online dating to escape the blatant flaws they see in another person. It's not surprising that those using the internet to escape reality, often suspend judgement by not taking facts as they plainly appear. So when dating online, people really should listen to that bold, inward voice of common sense and reason.
 
Raley said:
Hi all,

I'm new to these forums and all that.. so bear with me haha. I just had a question for anyone who wanted to give me their opinion. Do online relationships work? Or is it better to go with "local" relationships?

Hope for some input, because I'm CONFUSED on the subject.

Thanks,
Raley
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Long distance can work, but it will be a LOT easier to develop a relationship with someone who is close to home...someone you can interact with regularly.

While conversation is fairly easy to accomplish in a long distance relationship, there are things that you just can't learn about a person by just talking to him/her.

Habits and ways of life(lifestyle) can't be witnessed through a telephone conversation. In person, you may some of these lifestyles/habits intolerable and unacceptable in a marriage.

chris
 
I think it is a good idea to date online, then gain each other's trust before you meet. But more important is no wasting time when you know you are serious with the whole thing. There are genuine people who want to meet future partners, and will appreciate if no games are played. If someone feels there is no connection, just quit the whole thing.

God has a plan for all of us , and it is in a manual, and one of those plans is for to be here discussing this, and who knows what next,


Take care and I love you all, may the good Lord bless you

Cindy
 
correction...when you know u are not serious with the relation.....
 
Well... I have to be careful what I say. I "dated" online if you can call it that lol it just ain't the same online and it takes a whole different mindset to even make it work. You have to really trust what the other person says.
My story in short though is I met her here on this site and I guess we "dated" for about a year. yeah we were young yeah I had never tried the whole thing online and I had actually made fun of online dating. But I ended up living in a fantasy world. Cause its so hard to not know what is really going on around you. It was an unhealthy relationship we tended to hang the very key to the relationship on high strung emotions that would end up hurting us in the end.
I personally do not recommend online dating cause it tends to encourage lies and hidden secrets staying hidden. You do not get to see how the other person acts around other people or at church or weather they actually even go to church. You have to trust every last word that they say and it tends to wear on the relationship and in my case killed it. There were many other reasons but those are not meant to be public for obvious reasons. And I do apologize to those in advance who may be in a wonderful Online dating relationship, it does work but not as often as it does not work.
Second apologies to "her" if she may read this. :)
 
Topher said:
I don't think much besides good friendship is possible unless you actually meet up once in a while. A person could have a lot hidden (knowingly or otherwise) on their side of the internet.

Some things that often get concealed:
- Wedding rings
- Craziness
- Rudeness to waiters/waitresses
- Weight
- Eye patches
- Children
- Un-Christian-ness
- Waaaaaay too many cats
- Body odor
- Shyness
- Crazy annoying habits
- Weight

/ my two cents.
- Christopher
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Oh wait Topher, you forgot extra toes.
 
I was in an relationship that started online then ended up being long distance where we would meet up every time we could (mostly in the summers and on school vacations)

They lived in NJ and I in maine, I was in that relationship for two years .. and they broke it off for a different reason ( meaning not because it was long distance)

So yeah, they can work

its easyer when you both have webcams that way you can see who your talking too and make sure its not a 50 yr old man
 
Test_F_i_2_Luv said:
Long distance can work, but it will be a LOT easier to develop a relationship with someone who is close to home...someone you can interact with regularly.

While conversation is fairly easy to accomplish in a long distance relationship, there are things that you just can't learn about a person by just talking to him/her.

Habits and ways of life(lifestyle) can't be witnessed through a telephone conversation. In person, you may some of these lifestyles/habits intolerable and unacceptable in a marriage.

chris
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I think that good strong friendships can be built online, but if it is to go to another level of dating.....that needs to happen in person. You need to be able to spend time with each other in person and see what they are like day to day (vice versa).....and enjoy social interaction with them, meet their friends, family etc, see how they relate to God, so many things that are better face to face and some things that are only acheivable when face to face/in their company.

You would need to aslo experience challenging times with them - and see how you both react to it.....e.g. does he or she run off or avoid talking, or just start freaking out leaving you totally wide mouthed thinking ' but she said she never freaked out - that she was calm all the time'......but you know what I am getting at here. Important things like this you need to observe in person. When the storms of a relationship or marriage come - would you both be looking to God first and also be able to depend on each other? We can say things on the internet but would it happen in person.

We could be very blessed to make a great friend online and then meet them in person and they are exactly true to who they say they are........but sometimes this is not the case for some.......

But...having said all this........I have seen people that have met online, had the relationship online, then met up and they are happily married with kids etc.....

But in everything.....Pray Pray Pray.
 
Oppulant......I always new I liked you for a reason. You were very well spoken there. God works in so many things...why should the internet be any different. BUT...in everything...Pray, Pray, Pray.
 
Topher your crazy!! lol i laughed at the whole eye patch thing only because i used to have one when i was little! hahaha

ARRRGH! lol

but i see your point of the craziness of people over the net.

also i agree that having online relationships are just pointless.... you dont really get to know a person unless you interact with them daily face to face.....

When in do time...God will bring along our perfect someone.. I mean lets just trust the Papa that created us and is going to take care of us! :)
 
I feel that God created online dating for a reason. There are millions of couples out there who met because of online dating. I would be very cautious in online dating, because it is so easy for someone to discuise their identity. I would suggest staying online to chat with a person for a few months rather then rushing any relationship. In some cases keeping the relationship online could be helpful with avoiding temptation, but realize that many people act different in person then they do online. Obviously if you did intend on having a lasting romantic relationship with someone you would have to consider location and whether you would eventually want to marry them. If you do meet them make sure the meetings are in a group- its hard to trust your instinct or a starnger. As long as you're protective of your personal information I don't see the harm in online dating as long as you consider all the advantages and disadvantages.
 
It depends on the people involved. It can and has succeeded and can and has failed. If it be God's will it'll prosper.
 
My older sister and her husband met online. . .I think dating on-line can work. . .if it is God's will. i think it allows you to get to know other people. It can help start a friendship before you meet in person to see if it will work out
 
The distinction that doesn't appear to be being made here is the distinction between meeting people on-line (which I'm a big fan of) and actually forming a relationship on-line (which I am not so sure about, see the thread on long distance relationships). Anyway, I have to go to work now.
 
ineedahusbandnow134 said:
any good man of GOD can you reach me at [email protected] , i want a man of GOD to be called my own or my husband
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really?? woooow.....I didn't NEED my hubby till I'd met him and married him!!! hahaha I mean...... at age 21, we NEED friends, we NEED food, we NEED a job, we NEED clothes, we NEED a place to live, but we don't NEED a spouse, till we meet someone special and fall in love with them and they with us......Please consider getting to know yourself better, and having time to do things that might be harder to have a chance to do later once in a relationship/marriage (and kids maybe) before jumping into a marriage hunt. I am married and I see this is the singles forum.....oops...but I sometimes just read the topics that sound interesting without checking which forum they are in. Sorry if this bothers anyone!!! As for online dating....I think its possible for it to work (same as a blind date worked with my hubby and I!!!) but I would use precaution.......go slow and as said by others remember that people can "act" differently in percon once you meet them than they may "appear" to "act" online.

Be Safe and God Bless
 
I'm glad u put in ur two cents...you were single once! And you know the ups and downs of married life too...so your words are definitely helpful!

nanabean said:
really?? woooow.....I didn't NEED my hubby till I'd met him and married him!!! hahaha I mean...... at age 21, we NEED friends, we NEED food, we NEED a job, we NEED clothes, we NEED a place to live, but we don't NEED a spouse, till we meet someone special and fall in love with them and they with us......Please consider getting to know yourself better, and having time to do things that might be harder to have a chance to do later once in a relationship/marriage (and kids maybe) before jumping into a marriage hunt. I am married and I see this is the singles forum.....oops...but I sometimes just read the topics that sound interesting without checking which forum they are in. Sorry if this bothers anyone!!! As for online dating....I think its possible for it to work (same as a blind date worked with my hubby and I!!!) but I would use precaution.......go slow and as said by others remember that people can "act" differently in percon once you meet them than they may "appear" to "act" online.

Be Safe and God Bless
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