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I don't know if relationship issues count as family issues, but I think it may. I have finally met the woman I love, and I plan to marry her. We have been going to church, abstaining from sex, and trying to do things differently this time around. I am constantly searching on how to be a better person, man, and eventual husband and father. Recently she went out with a friend of hers that she grew up with and hand't seen in awhile. I was invited after she was out but I was already at home, and I trusted her. I did not hear from her until the next morning after she woke up in his hotel room. She was crying and upset when I spoke with her, and naturally I was angry. I am beyond hurt. There was no doubt that she is the girl I want to marry, and everything is amazing between us. She said that she had never done anything like that before, she couldn't believe that she had done that to me of all people. She admitted to going to his room, kissing, and clothes came off, and then she realized that she wasn't doing the right thing and stopped before it went too far. Oddly enough I actually do believe that part, but maybe I am naive. She came to my house that night, very apologetic, in tears, and beating herself up. She remarked that she would do anything that it took for me to stay with her. I am so in love with her, and I really feel like we could have something great. I decided to stay with her and try to work it out. I am able to forgive, but it's haunting me, picturing her and him together. I am unable to shake it free, and seems to be every other thought in my head.
The deeper thing is that is has affected how I look at some. I realize how over-sexualized everything is in our society, and it bothers me to look at her that way now. Is there anyone who has stayed with someone after they've been cheated on? How did you manage it? How do you deal with not telling anyone close to you because it is embarrassing? I have no one to talk to except for her, and when I talk to her, it makes her feel worse, and I don't want to do that. I feel like I'm going through this alone. I am getting the worst of it all, because the guy doesn't care about her, she was just a thing to do for him. She feels bad, but her worry is gone because I didn't leave her, she just has to deal with her guilt(which is tearing her up.) I have to think about it, and suffer through it daily.
The deeper thing is that is has affected how I look at some. I realize how over-sexualized everything is in our society, and it bothers me to look at her that way now. Is there anyone who has stayed with someone after they've been cheated on? How did you manage it? How do you deal with not telling anyone close to you because it is embarrassing? I have no one to talk to except for her, and when I talk to her, it makes her feel worse, and I don't want to do that. I feel like I'm going through this alone. I am getting the worst of it all, because the guy doesn't care about her, she was just a thing to do for him. She feels bad, but her worry is gone because I didn't leave her, she just has to deal with her guilt(which is tearing her up.) I have to think about it, and suffer through it daily.