OK, how about taking things up another notch and agree to never look into each other's eyes until you are married, or agree to never say anything sweet to each other. They all fall into the same category as a kiss (a display of affection).
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Rissa77
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Thanks for the sarcasm..
Look, I'm not (and I don't think anyone else on here) is denouncing your choice to kiss who you date. We're not saying kissing is a sin. WEEEE choose not to do it for various reasons and because we feel God has lead us to make such a sacrifice.
But our choice to not kiss seems to be getting mocked on here. Not cool, guys.
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rainacorn
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With all the social taboos being lifted from pretty much everything sexual these days, it kind of makes sense that a younger generation would desire extreme purity. We're rebels. It's what we do. I think it's a really positive thing, personally. Hopefully this will extend into better parenting and being better neighbors and everything else that the world no longer cares about.
lol.. I've noticed a certain pattern on this chat site. Certain people like to mock and then when they get out mocked they cry that they are victims of "immaturity" or "people that don't know how to have respectful conversations." I'm starting to suspect that many people on here aren't Christians at all but rather come on here to deliberately discourage Christians. Which isn't to say that people can't question your relationship choice but it does strike me as odd the extreme sarcastic tone from some of the same who insist they can't be "judged" (or apparentlly questioned) for any pre-marital sex choices they may make.
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newannann
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it is really amazing that u treat purity seriously. And you 've found a good guy who truely loves u.I hope i will find The one soon.i will save virginity until marriage.
I wasn't actually mocking, Rissa. I am trying to follow the logic here. My first point was that there are biblical and practical reasons to avoid having sex, but there are no biblical or practical reasons to not kiss (unless you can't trust yourself or your partner is sick), so why would you deprive yourself of such a wonderful pleasure? My second point is that kissing is just as innocent as looking into each other's eyes and holding hands and saying sweet things to each other (unless one of u has a communicable disease or something). Note, I'm not talking about tongue wrestling here. Just a kiss goodnight or a kiss hello or a kiss when you guys feel a special moment together. Where is the sin or danger in that?
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Rissa77
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I'm not saying it's a sin. The post you quoted says "We're not saying kissing is a sin"! But it's a sin for ME because God has told me to save it, and going against His personal word for me would be a sin. It's not a biblical command. It's a "God told me so" command.
I don't care if you kiss who you want. But it felt like your response was mocking, and that's not cool. I'm not depriving myself of a wonderful pleasure, I'm saving that pleasure for a time when it will be more pleasurable. Physical touch is a big thing for me, and it can easily put the blinders on me so that I don't see clearly and I don't care to hear God's direction or word. I've gotten myself in that situation before. I don't see the guy for who he is, but for how he makes me feel. I get so off focus it's dangerous. Kissing would not be innocent to me.
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Jullianna
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I think I may understand a bit of what you are trying to say here, Rissa. Women are different from men in many ways. One of them is that we women have a great deal of difficulty separating physical touch from our emotions, and it’s soooo much harder when we are younger and our hormones are raging (which is why men in their 20s tend to think all women in their 20s are insane haha). Hopefully, christian men understand this better than men of the world, who are capable of engaging in a sexual relationship with a woman with no emotional attachment. It appears that you have difficulty with this and want to be sure that when you marry, you are choosing to be with that person with your heart, mind and soul rather than your hormones. For you, an affectionate relationship could well be what the first drink is to an alcoholic.
I’m an affectionate person, so I know this would not work for me; but I totally respect and admire you for being able to do what you are doing. J God meets us all where we are and leads us accordingly. Bless you for following His lead.
I’m an affectionate person, so I know this would not work for me; but I totally respect and admire you for being able to do what you are doing. J God meets us all where we are and leads us accordingly. Bless you for following His lead.
Thats the answer I've been looking for. Don't get me wrong, I am not trying to mock you, just trying to see what the point was in not kissing. There had to be a point right? I mean to give up something like that, there's got to be a point. So now I know. Sorry if you thought I was mocking you. I wouldn't mock you. I don't like being mocked and I don't mock others unless they mock me first (which I know u wouldn't do). Plus I have a lot of respect for you because you've honored the Lord in ways that I can't even imagine myself doing in a million years and I know it takes a special person to commit to something like that and go through with it. I mean you are basically a saint to me.
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Rissa77
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Psh no. lol Thank you. Though I have to tell you, I consider those we can have an innocent kiss or hug much stronger than myself.
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NukePooch
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buckeyegirl700
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I agree it is more of a personal choice for me. I feel that their are other ways to show your feelings for your significant other. I'm not knocking a persons decision to be in a Christian relationship and kiss or make out I just choose not to. My reasons are that I think God wants me to get to know who I am dating first. I also feel that God wants me to not take the risk because I don't want to go to far.
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Jullianna
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NukePooch
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hahaha! What would I do without you?
You would be miserable and wail inconsolably until your painful lonely death...or maybe you'd just get your daily sarcasm from Nod. Either way results in the same end.