I do understand about being cautious against evil spirits.
I have a good friend who has dedicated her entire life to ministry, and she's been plagued by this for years. People in the charismatic ministry keep telling her she's going to meet someone and get married.
I've told the story of how a woman one told here that she was going to marry someone with dark, curly hair. My friend wants to obey the Lord so much (and is so afraid of disobeying Him) that she's felt she can't consider any other guy who doesn't have that exact hair color and texture.
However, it's been YEARS... and I don't know if she still believes that.
A woman also gave her a ring and told her, "You are to wear this until you meet your husband and he replaces it with your wedding ring." That was DECADES ago and I don't know if my friend still believes that either -- or if she still wears that ring. I know she did like clockwork for a very long time.
But it happened yet again, when someone important and highly respected in her ministry circle told her she would be getting married and gave her a time span of I think 8 months.
I believe almost 2 years have passed -- and she hasn't even met someone, let alone got married.
This angers me to no end because my friend is one of the most dedicated, humble, and giving people you would ever meet (I've always said, if she is the standard for going to heaven, I'm never going to make it.) Obviously, I'm joking, but she is truly one of the best Christians I know, and it greatly upsets me that people are spiritually abusing her goodwill.
But I also pray that she will realize that the spirits claiming to speak to her through others are obviously not of God, and that she will learn to reject them at their first word. She believed in these people with all her heart, and they more than anyone acknowledged that Christ came in the flesh.
But they still got it wrong. And all she could do, in her willingness to believe, was wait and see that none of their "prophecies" came to pass.
The difference to me is that these people claim to hear from God and have words for her that affect her whole life. She's made life decisions about jobs and locations based on these "words from God I have for you," and it's all been for nothing.
I've had this happen to me, too. "Prophetic" people once told me I would get married in 2 years, and that I would have X amount of children before age XX. But all that time passed... And nothing happened.
Do I believe these people were sincere? Absolutely. I had no reason to not believe. But obviously, they were wrong, and knowing in my heart that they were real Christians who just got things very wrong made it hurt even more.
I pray that God disciplines those who give "words" like this and teaches them how to TRULY walk in His voice.
But if anyone tells me "I hear from God" -- I don't require a test UNLESS they were trying to tell me or anyone else something I/we NEEDED to believe, prepare for, or make life decisions around.
If they hear from God, great! As long as it's between them and the Lord and doesn't have anything to do with me or others, I stay out of their business. If they don't hear from God or hear the wrong things, God will correct them, even if it takes a long time.
I also believe that even those who are the best at hearing from God will occasionally get something wrong -- either they mishear, misinterpret, or yes, might have heard from the wrong spirit. We live in a sinful world. No one is going to get everything 100% accurately.
And so I look for people's fruits, motivations, and whether or not they are trying to lord over other people in the name of Jesus without ever taking correction for themselves -- and ask God how I should proceed from there.
But again, this is just me, and I could be wrong.
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