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I think the more likely scenario is Christians rejecting decent people because their first impression of their peers doesn't qualify in the spouse check-list. And they are ticking off the spouse check-list because they are under the impression who they choose to date should be their future husband or wife.
You are also making the assumption that relationships are a waste of time if they don't end up with a marriage proposal. Haven't you ever had a friendship with someone that didn't last? Do you look back in time and think "what a waste, I shouldn't have bothered"? Or do you think of the personal growth and the experience that friend has influenced as a positive thing? If you like someone why would you reject them, because they might not be your friend forever?
You are also making the assumption that relationships are a waste of time if they don't end up with a marriage proposal. Haven't you ever had a friendship with someone that didn't last? Do you look back in time and think "what a waste, I shouldn't have bothered"? Or do you think of the personal growth and the experience that friend has influenced as a positive thing? If you like someone why would you reject them, because they might not be your friend forever?
You are making the assumption that I run every woman off that I meet just because I don't consider them spouse material, far from the truth. Everyone that I pass is either a friend or a stranger to me.
I do not make friends with some wild assumption that I am going to date that person later on. Almost every female acquaintance I have has wanted to jump my bones at some point; but, I do not BS myself by letting my feelings lead me astray. I know if I can live with someone or not. I have met many great women all over the world and become very close; but, I do not use other people as my personal laboratory to experiment on, nor do I need to go through the motions to understand what works for me and what doesn't. I know if someone is the right one or not.
If people have enough patience and faith in God that the right person for them will be there when they come; they won't have the need to crash and burn a dozen times.
It might seem beyond belief to you; but, I've seen this work for others countless times. I'm just quietly awaiting my turn, if that is in God's plan. Everyone seems to be under the impression that they have to be with someone at all times or they will be shunned by their peers; so, they hastily throw themselves into relationships with some urgency to alleviate the awkwardness of being "that person".
If you are someone who falls in love with every person you meet; then you are obviously doing something wrong. It's not natural to want to engage in a relationship with every person you socialize with; it's also a bit dirty. If more people clung to their expectations then they wouldn't end up having to chain date their way to a successful relationship.
Sure, they might learn something from those experiences; but, what do you think that would be? "Maybe I should have just listened to my instincts and to those others who told me to wait". Or "I should have been a little more resolute with my standards".
You would be surprised at how quickly people will throw everything they believe out the window for someone they don't know. If you have to lower your expectations for someone; they more often than not, are not going to work out for you in the long run.
Hrmm I suppose some people like having 100 ex's though; so, it's not for me to judge how people want to pursue a relationship.