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These are NOT the easy ones ;)

If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?


Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?


If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?


If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?


Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?


Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do? Where do you even begin to answer that question? I'd be lost (that is of course after I had a little heart to heart with the other guy... in a fist to face kind of way)

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend? hmmm, don’t think I would mind too much (You should be able to trust your best friend)


If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her? Yes, don’t get me wrong I love my family but if it really means that much to her then yes


If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it? Stressed out, seriously it would not be cool.


Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely? Only one? Got two sisters and a close friend I met at church

Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more? Absolutely
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?

To me, what you mean by "partner" matters a lot. Actually, so does the definition of cheating...or how far it got. So I'll just answer it like this:

If we were together but not married, it would likely be the end of things for us. It's not that I expect a woman I'm with to be perfect, but this is one thing that's in a whole other league.
Someone will probably say "but Ohhh you should forgive yadda yadda yadda". Well, I can choose to forgive her, but that doesn't mean I would marry her. Nope.

If we were already married, it would be different. I'm sure I'd feel terrible. If she sincerely sought forgiveness (from God and me) and asked for a second chance, then I would want to work through it. That would be incredibly hard for me though because I don't trust easily at all, to say the least. Yet that would be the right thing to do. So I'd hope we could save the marriage, but it'd only be by God's grace.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/gf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?

Yes, I want her to have a strong bond with Jesus. :)
Yes, He is my best friend and no I don't really have someone on Earth I consider my best friend.


If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?

If that's God's will, then yes.

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?

I'd be worried about her safety. I wouldn't like it one bit. Once again though, if it's God's will I'd just have to go with it and pray for her safety and my peace.

Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?

Completely!? Right now, Jesus...Just Jesus.


Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?

I have some friends of the opposite gender who I find attractive for various reasons. It only makes sense though that the ones you would want the most for friends would have some, a lot, or maybe even all of the same qualities you'd like in a mate.
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do? It would really depend on the circumstances as far as how I found out about it. I have had 2 women do this to me, both long term dedicated relationships and in both cases we were engaged. Likewise in both cases, I found out about it from sources other than them and was able to confirm the accusations. In both cases, I terminated the relationship. However, if a partner was to be to one to admit that they had cheated and came clean about it, I would be more likely to work through it as long as it was obvious that the affair was over.


Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend? All I can say here is BOUNDARIES. Having a close bond/strong friendship isn't a bad thing as long as there are proper boundaries in place. I would probably be out of sorts if they were spending a lot of time by themselves.


If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her? Kinda hard to say, I guess it would depend on the depth of the relationship, and what responsibilities / obligations I was leaving behind.


If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it? Likewise it would depend. Different people define dangerous differently. My job requires that I work 50+ feet off the ground occasionally, some would consider that dangerous, I consider it a day at work. Assuming the relationship was nearing marriage, I would expect that they talk with me about it before just running off and accepting the job.


Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely? An old friend. We don't talk often, but he knows my life story front to back (including all the ugly stuff) and when we get together it's as if there had been no time away.


Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more? Yes, but my shyness/insecurity (predominantly insecurity about what they might think about some things in my past) keep me from moving in that direction.
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?

If dating, that would be the end of it. Seriously, if you want to date other people, just be honest about it. That I could respect.

If married...wow...that would be some serious damage, but I might try to work through it, especially if I had children with someone. I think with God's help it could be done, but I'm sure it's a long, difficult healing process.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?

I like Oncefallen's answer. I would be okay with it, as long as there were respectful boundaries.


If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?

Not right now. A couple of years from now when my son is finished with college my answer would be very different. First responsibilities first.


If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?

I know that it takes a certain type of person to do a certain type of job. I wouldn't ask them to give that up for me if they had a passion for what they were doing. Besides, none of us is going anywhere a minute sooner than God intends, right?


Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?

My stepsisters.


Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more? Yes.
 
Jullianna said:
These are NOT the easy ones ;)

If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?
Cry. Then buy lots of chocolate.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?
I don't have a best friend.

If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?
If she is paying my way, yes.

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?
I'd be ok with it. God's protection is always more than enough.

Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?
No one. :( Seriously.

Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?
I wish I had a friend of the opposite gender :(
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If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do? If we were dating, I would break up with him probably. If we were married....wow, I don't know. I guess I would have to do my best to work things out through God's help, after crying and praying a lot haha.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?
Just like Oncefallen said....boundaries.I'm not a jealous psycho but if I see that he has a deeper relationship with my friend instead of me...that would worry me.

If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?
If it's God's will I would. If we are married I would do my best to support him (and hopefully he would be prayerful about it) , if we are not but we are in a serious relationship...well God would let me know what to do.

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?
Not very happy about it ....but I would support him if that what God wants.


Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?
The person I confide in the most lives in Mexico haha thanks God for social networks and skype :).


Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more? __________________
Not now.
 
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If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?
I have and it's extremely hard to get over. We tried to work it out but along with other lies he told me time and time again, I just couldn't get past it. I know some people can get over it, but I don't think I can ever put myself in that situation again (God willing I'm never faced with one!). Trust is completely broken.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?
I would if it was a HEALTHY relationship. The minute it was go uncomfortable with me I would tell them both. However, my best friend's I've known since grade school and I cannot ever see them doing that.

If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?
Absolutely. ''Home is wherever I'm with you''

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?
I would be really nervous. I've actually been in that situation and it was hard. But, if it were something they were passionate about and truly led by God, I'd have to trust God on that. I mean, you can die by just walking down the street.

Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?
Besides God of corse, my best friend Emily. I could tell her anything and she would never judge me.

Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?
No, but I have had that in the past.
 
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Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more? No no friends.

Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely? The moms :D

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it? I would be against it, its a job & those are temporary. A career? If it appeared after prayers I couldn't rightly protest.

If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her? If it was due to prayers then I wouldn't protest.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend? With proper boundaries no.

If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do? Pray with her & try to resolve why this occurred, I know I could still be friendly enough to help but it would be very difficult to put behind me you can't have marriage w/o love. For my children I would need to stay.
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?

Drop em like a bad habit and get another one.


Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?

No.


If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?

no


If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?

Long as they have good life insurance. Funerals are expensive.


Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?

Like I'm gonna tell that to the Internet.


Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?

HA!
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?
First cry, then see if i can move to another place and how and if i have money enough and find out about legal requirements for divorce with a friend and attorney and make a general plan about what to do first, then pray, then separate and divorce.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?
Not at all, i would like that they be polite between each other but not strong bonds

If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?
Yes

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?
Worried about him but at the same time betrayed and would be thinking that he is being selfish

Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?
Jesus

Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?
Not now
 
If your partner ended up cheating on you, what would you do?
It depends ... If I felt that they were showing true and genuine remorse, I believe in second chances. On the other hand, there is no guarantee they won't do it again, so ... Tricky situation - hard to say what I would do until I would actually be there.

Would you be comfortable if your bf/spouse developed a very strong bond with your best friend?
My best friend is whom I would consider family, so in a sense it is helpful if my significant other would form a strong bond - if the bond is stronger with them than it is with me, however, there would be some discomfort and an issue.

If the one you loved got a dream job on another continent, would you leave your life behind and accompany him/her?
If we were married, yes, because a wife is to leave her family and cleave to her husband. If we are just in a relationship, however, with no guarantee on what the future holds for the two of us, I would not go right away.

If the one you loved chose to take an extremely dangerous job, how would you feel about it?
I would be uncomfortable but if it is something they are passionate about, I will support them and pray ... all day long. lol.

Out of all the people closest to you, who is the one person you can confide in completely?
My CC mom, whom I call Mama. I have told her everything and anything about me that there is to know, because God has created that bond for us.

Do you have a friend of the opposite gender with whom you'd like it to be more?[/quote]
Yes; we are in two different places though right now and that is perfectly fine. If it is meant to be, God will make it so.
 
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