Running Away

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SO. . . .i'm currently regretting a lot of things in life. including my awesome transformation in high school from being bullied to "the bully". i quickly learned my lesson with that and stopped but i basically stopped caring so much of what people thought of me and started doing what i wanted cause those people didn't do ANYTHING for me.

BUT i've found that my personality isn't the best. and i keep hurting people or letting them down or being mean or w/e other reasons. and i wanna just kind of wash it all away and try to make myself over again.

SOOO i wanna get away from it all and try to as they say: "find myself". should I

A.) go off to college somewhere
B.) try living for a semester on my own just working
c.) Stay here and try to figure things out? (i've been trying this for the past two years and its not working very well)
 
well runing wont do any good you'll just have the same problems because it you not where you are. Thats what I realize. you hear ppl say God wont change the problem because he want to change you. well that is so true and I now see what he was trying to do in my life if only I took a real long breath and waited long enough to see some from him not me not doing on my own. I had real bad control issues and I see myself now and it was not easy to look at but ask God to reveal yourself to you look in the mirror and stare at yourself and ask. you will be surprised as to what he tell you but you have to really be open to change otherwise you will think there is somthing wrong with you and God is just trying to mature you. Beblessed
 
SO. . . .i'm currently regretting a lot of things in life. including my awesome transformation in high school from being bullied to "the bully". i quickly learned my lesson with that and stopped but i basically stopped caring so much of what people thought of me and started doing what i wanted cause those people didn't do ANYTHING for me.

BUT i've found that my personality isn't the best. and i keep hurting people or letting them down or being mean or w/e other reasons. and i wanna just kind of wash it all away and try to make myself over again.

SOOO i wanna get away from it all and try to as they say: "find myself". should I

A.) go off to college somewhere
B.) try living for a semester on my own just working
c.) Stay here and try to figure things out? (i've been trying this for the past two years and its not working very well)
to move would be a mistake either way you could be at risk at makeing a mistake so just be still till God say. Trust me I know
 
Well you can never be sure how any of those options will actually work out, all I know is the God is good at miracles and He said that all things work together for good to those who love the Lord. Right now a lot of things are broken and only God can mend them, running away won't help. Just surrender your relationships to Him and ask Him to make all things new for you. God bless
 
I will say this, if you are being influenced by your friends, going somewhere else and making a fresh start, gives you a chance at making new friends. You have to have guts to start over, and the stubbornness to seek only the kind of friends that God would want you to have. This does not mean running away and ignoring your problems. You still have to face them, either way.

However, if you stay, you can also try to make new friends as well that are Godly. This is all depending on how your friends are influencing you.

If your friends are Godly, then you need to stick close to them.

And by the way, your personality is the one God gave you, so it is perfect for you. You have to find out how to use your attributes for the best.

My suggestion is to get away from everyone for about an hour or two. Turn off your cell phone, and go somewhere safe and quiet (could be your room, the library, a park). Make sure someone does know where your are going, such as your parents, so people will not panic and think your missing. In those hours, just relax, read your Bible, sing songs of Worship to God, write out your thoughts, write a prayer to God, anything so that you are focusing on God. And while you are in those moments of quietness, listen to what God has to say. Keep in mind, you may not get an answer right away. But if you focus on listening to God, eventually you will hear Him speaking to you. It could be something your read in the Bible, something someone has said to you in the past, a song you love, things you've written down or that others have written to you, or just thoughts that come to your head. Listen to them.
 
Wow!
Soul Sister or what? I just had a conversation just like this with my mom.
My mom told me that running isn't the answer, and neither is just keeping yourself isolated.
Realizing that you have a problem is the first part of solving it.
Not caring about it isn't the answer either, you need to care to fix it.
Pride can play a huge part in saying you're sorry. As in, it stops you. But I've been told that pride is the root of all sin, and the hardest to rid ourselves of. (I still have pride issues myself).
My dad loves to bring up "the filter", in English, "thinking before you say anything".
I haven't mastered this myself, but I just thought I'd share what I'm learning. You're not alone on this, hang in there! :)
 
Might be a good idea to "start anew" where you are, so people will see the light of Christ in your life.
 
The person influencing me the worst is my mom. Love her. and shes done unimaginable things for me but shes a horrible Godly influence. and i act like her. . . . . .a LOT. The guy i'm courting now says he wouldn't marry me if i ended up like her. and NO ONE knows how my step dad can put up with her. >_<
my friends are Godly. there's not too many bad things i pick up from them. Just habits i don't like.

Thanx for the advice. and i will certainly meditate and talk with God a lot more. "open to change" right?

but I've had the urge to get away and travel for a LONG time. before I had issues with who I am. so i guess I'll just kinda take it slow and fix myself before i go off somewhere (not to stay just to try something new)
 
This is interesting, i met a person once who had a remarkable personality, he wasnt satisfied with "Theory", Faith is a 2 Edge Sharp Sword. But sometimes even a Christian might give advice and present it in a manner of "Theory", for example "In Theory satan is whispering in your ear, thats why you have these thoughts", but some Christians ask themselfs "IS IT TRUE!" while other treat it light handed and do nothing or little about it. While some people who are satisfied with Faith want more, they are Tired of this "In Theory" asumptions if presented that way and want The Truth.

They asume in themselfs that they are able to handle "what awaits them" and are not afraid to go that extra mile.

From you i get this same Inspiration, it seems that you have Faith, but you want to Practice it, meaning you want to see Spiritual Things, you want to SEE Jesus Christ, you want to Hold a Sword and see if it Really Cuts that Demon that is whispering in your ear. You want to know Mysteris and be able to the things the Old Apostles did, Heal the Sick, Cast out Demons, Fight a Spiritual Warfare, Love everyone, Know wich Direction you will definitly lead someone to Jesus Christ. Fight with Angles? Witness wonderfull Dreams and Visions of Jesus Christ?, even maybe for a short time be in the Presence of God himself?, i tell you its a very fearfull thing.

Again this is what i believe you want and Jesus Christ telling you Matthew 20:22 "You don't know what you are asking," Jesus said to them. "Can you drink the cup I am going to drink?" "We can," they answered.

The Book that "i Believe you put aside because you wanted to Practice all these things, but didnt know were and how or wenn, is full off Advice, it teaches you, wich you will have to Believe through Faith, how to Deal with Situations you are asking for, it tells you the troubles, pain and suffering one migh or will go through wenn one decides to take that path. It seems that you are not very Fearfull, and have a Great Desire to Practice Spirituality and come closer to the Most Holy Place. But if you continue to neglect the Bible, the teachings, guidence, you will find your self -if Jesus Christ would allow it- in a place that is terrfying but your light will shine greatly, you will be awake, and see and notice things, but what will you do then? and how would you do it?.

Also, Practice using the 2 edge sword killing your own sins first, fighting of your own demons first. Making Decisions using the power that Jesus Christ has given you Freely Already to set yourself apart from a worldy life first. Then wenn Jesus Christ sees that you are able to make right decisions, humble yourself and repent, also truely forgive the Sins of others and learn how to Fight the Battle. then He will open your Eyes, then you will be ready and fully equip of that wich awaits you here, Holy Spirit?, Jesus Christ? Light? Authority? Truth? Straight Path? Light onto my Feet? Fight/War?...

Work out your own salvation, meaning not to work for your salvation but what is already given you work with it, let it work for you. Salvation has been given, now let what has been given you work for you. Be it Faith, Understanding, Authority or others.....

I hope my asumption towards you is in some form is correct. Hm....
 
. . . . . . .nope not at all. >_<

I actually wanna be in the behind the scene crew. ^_^ making videos for the church, playing guitar when the guitarist is sick or on vacation, covering for the children's ministry. stuff like that. i don't want any real big huge job. ^_^.

I'm content with God's presence. I'm easily pleased. ^_^

What i really want to do is Fix myself before I go trying to Share all my broken peaces with everyone.. . . . but i guess thats my problem right there. . . . i keep trying to fix myself when its God who is fixing me. . . . . .>_<
 
Bingo
And sometimes, when we are doing things, that is when God fixes us. Think about this Aqua, do we have to come to God all perfect and free from sin, before we are saved? IT's the same way with our hurts and brokenness. God takes us where we are, uses us, and grows us, changing our hearts and healing our wounds in His time.