Ok prime example here me and two sisters ok hear me out. First sister very smart got all the praise got pushed hard to do well. She did she pushed as hard as she could it was long and hard for her. today she has a beautiful house on 8 acres. she has her husband two great danes. a corvette as a toy. And all the money she will ever need she went on to school to be a pharmacist and then continued even farther to get her masters in Business. She has traveled the world Europe Scotland etc... never has to worry about where her next meal is coming from or if her light bill will be shut off. other two sisters. Well both dropped out of school one had kids at a young age of 20 the other went on t o work yucky jobs. Now both struggling to make ends meet. worry about being able to pay bills. Now just trying to get that education our mother pushed so hard for. In our 40 we are doing what should have been done in the early 20 year old years. So lesson your mother is pushing you but it is so you do not fall later on. So it is for your own Good honestly. Take it from me you do not want to be 40 something trying to get a degree and going after good jobs that people in their 20's are going for chances are the younger one will steal it away from you. just some food for thought..
my older sister did okay in school and she really worked.
i excelled and barely cracked a book.
when the report cards came home, mom would say to my older sister, why can't you be more like ellie? (yuk!)
oh, how i disliked that. it hardly made for good sibling relationship.
thank God, many years later, my sister forgave me and we're friends now, but all the sibling rivalry i can do without.
(i do get your point, it just reminded me of that, lol)