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Meridoc
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Having once been married... I would have to say... sometimes that works... and sometimes, you're just out of luck.
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iraasuup
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I agree. My husband is super-stubborn when he wants to be. No amount of coercing in the world can make him change his mind once he's set it on something.
Not only that, but, also from past experience... he will most likely be fast asleep LLLLOOOONNNNGGG before you can make a request or suggestion... (and my Mom also told me that sex with your husband is a privilege, not a bargaining chip--wise words from a wise woman 
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But... I suppose it couldn't hurt... if we prayed for husbands who are most alert, attentive, and agreeable after sex (other times would also work as well
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Ha!!! Just kidding. But I suppose it doesn't hurt to ask!
). But... I suppose it couldn't hurt... if we prayed for husbands who are most alert, attentive, and agreeable after sex (other times would also work as well
). Ha!!! Just kidding. But I suppose it doesn't hurt to ask!
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pachacha
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hey dear, totally agree.
But the thing is that u shouldn't take it as a rule...but something u would love to do for the Lord. let Him be first n the reward would be extraordinary, but if u follow ur desires, like everything has a flow and concequences, then you would simply have to bear them however hard they would be...
let the Holy Spirit be the Comforter...
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buckeyegirl700
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I attended a womens bible study at my church a few months ago. I was like the only girl their that was not married. I heard this woman say that when she makes love to her husband that it is an act of ministry to her husband. Her and her husband are both Christians.
pachacha welcome to Christian Chat! checked your profile & i seriously had to google earth your country to figure out where you are! It looks beautiful!
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greatkraw
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I once listened to a young female pastor talking about people feeling accepted.
She stood in the pulpit and said men feel most accepted when they are 'making sandwiches'
She was an American pastor in an Australian pulpit.
Yaeger, I don't think the point is God not wanting us to enjoy sex with a spouse, if your talking about contraseption, I doubt God intended that we use it, there's someone in Genisis who is killed for not letting his seed go in the woman, there were other circumstances around that though. As far as I know the only instances in the bible where sex is mentioned between husband and wife is when a child was conceived. When a child is conceived it is a blessing and not a curse like some modern thought on it goes, this could have something to do with the cost and responsibility that goes with having children, and peoples general lack of responsibility.
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iraasuup
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So basically you're saying unless we want kids don't have sex?
What about married couples who CAN'T have children? What about those who aren't ready to have a baby right away and wish to wait until they are able to provide for one? What about couples who would rather adopt (out of compassion for those in need)?
Are you saying all those people should just not have sex for pleasure?
I've been married 5 years, we don't have children, and we don't have any near-future plans to start a family.
So, should we just stop having sex? Is that what you're saying?
That's ridiculous!
What about married couples who CAN'T have children? What about those who aren't ready to have a baby right away and wish to wait until they are able to provide for one? What about couples who would rather adopt (out of compassion for those in need)?
Are you saying all those people should just not have sex for pleasure?
I've been married 5 years, we don't have children, and we don't have any near-future plans to start a family.
So, should we just stop having sex? Is that what you're saying?
That's ridiculous!
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jcspartan
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Greatkraw--very funny!
2 Sam 12:24 David lay with his wife Bathsheba as a comfort. A child did result but that is not the reason given for the intimacy.
Song of Songs talks a good deal through metaphor about enjoying your spouse without direct association of children
2 Sam 12:24 David lay with his wife Bathsheba as a comfort. A child did result but that is not the reason given for the intimacy.
Song of Songs talks a good deal through metaphor about enjoying your spouse without direct association of children
Why do you think catholics have such big families!
He said be fruitful and multipy didn't He?
I just pointed out what happened to the guy in the OT who stopped his seed from entering the woman. Anyway my post was directed to Yager, I can't tell married people to do. I'm single
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iraasuup
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Why do you think catholics have such big families!
He said be fruitful and multipy didn't He?
I just pointed out what happened to the guy in the OT who stopped his seed from entering the woman. Anyway my post was directed to Yager, I can't tell married people to do. I'm single
Good point. Therein lies the reason I'm not Catholic... well not really... but you get what I mean
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BellaFlor
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Well, I don't agree... It also depends what kind of things you want to discuss with him afterwards. And besides, after some time I am sure that the wife's husband would feel more used than loved if you always do it this way. For example; Having sex with him first, and then talk about what worries you, or are in your mind. Talking out is more important than using sex as an comfort. It is sure important having sex in a marriage, and it is one of God's Biggest Blessings. But one shouldn't use it like a form of weapon to get what you want or so. One is to use it because of Love.
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NoTearsShed
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Because God does NOT want us to have "s" word before marriage, & once we marry we are only suppose to have sex with them & no one else.
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ChristopherMichael
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buckeyegirl700
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I feel the same way. I would not want to have sex with my husband and him tell me oh honey wait untill I am done and have rested before we discuss anything.
there is another;
I Corithians 7:2-5 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
this is not referring them to make babies, but the enjoyment of sex... if you don't do it someone else will. so don't turn each other away. satan will have a party in the mind.
I Corithians 7:2-5 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
this is not referring them to make babies, but the enjoyment of sex... if you don't do it someone else will. so don't turn each other away. satan will have a party in the mind.
I some what disagree with this, and there is no scripture to back this up. I don't believe that sex should be a number one reason and topic of discusion, but inorder to know that you are compatible in that area you must discuss it. not in a way that will cause that person to only think of you in that way when you're not around. but to let one another know what you look for and enjoy in that area of the relationship/marriage. do you know how many marriages break up for just that reason. not being sexually satisfied? at least this way no one would get to say; if I knew you didn't do...... I wouldn't got married.. or the worst they see you are not willing to do things they like to do... they go find another you will. and I tell you the truth, I know soooooo many men and women who tore their marriages up just for sex. so it is good to discuss it and come to an agreement on what would be exspected of each other in this area as well as other things. not saying try it, I talked about it and it helped.