should women pursue men?

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OnThisRock

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OK, so I am finally realizing that you must be open with yourself and the other on what you want right away. Then you will know if you are a match (with approval from the Lord). I know what I need and want and otherwise I am not willing to settle. I need someone with the same desires and heart. Otherwise, it is just a risk I am not willing to take. This thread reminds me of a conversation I had with a woman who was sitting beside her husband on the plane I was taking to another country. The whole thing was quite disturbing.

I was on the plane and this really aggressive assertive woman, with a deep voice said to me, "Hi I'm Diane. How are you?" I was like, "Fine". I was curious because she was married and sitting next to her husband. I asked her about how she and her husband met. She said, "Well we were boarding a plane together and he helped me with my luggage". Then she said, "I had to overtime convince him that I was perfect for him. I had to pursue him, over and over". When I looked at him, he seemed passive, annoyed, rolled his eyes, as she continually poked him with her elbow to get him to talk about how perfect she was for him". It seemed like he was completely disinterested and totally annoyed with her and her aggressive ways.

I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT!!!!! I want my husband to want and desire me rather than me having to pursue him and convince him that I am better than sliced bread. How disturbing.
 
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"I want my husband to want and desire me rather than me having to pursue him and convince him that I am better than sliced bread. How disturbing."

As a guy who bakes sourdough bread, I have a hard time believing ANYBODY could be better than a loaf of whole wheat sourdough, sliced fresh out of the oven. :cool:
 
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OnThisRock

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Sourdough bread has a thick tough crust. Bread is open and vulnerable. haahahahhaa
 
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Shouryu

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didymos said:
Being a lesbian is against God's Word, just saying. :rolleyes:
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I actually laughed pretty hard at this, which was unpleasant since I currently have a cough. ^_^
 
Agricola

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I wish women would pursue me, but its never going to happen.
 
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Lynx said:
"I want my husband to want and desire me rather than me having to pursue him and convince him that I am better than sliced bread. How disturbing."

As a guy who bakes sourdough bread, I have a hard time believing ANYBODY could be better than a loaf of whole wheat sourdough, sliced fresh out of the oven. :cool:
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What not to say when looking for a mate....but then maybe you are not.....only trying to help here even though you didn't ask for it .....o.k. maybe I am a pushy Blond.....I don't know for sure ask tourist.
 
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Agricola said:
I wish women would pursue me, but its never going to happen.
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When I was growing up, I had to do all the pursuing. It's totally different today! My son has been pursued by girls/women ever since he was 13! He told me not to envy him though and said a lot of these girls/women who pursue him are psychos and are not worth the trouble! Girls today seem to be much more aggressive than they were when I was in High School in the 80's. My son even had a 30 year old married woman with 3 kids practically stalk him when he was 21!
 
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OnThisRock said:
I DON'T WANT A RELATIONSHIP LIKE THAT!!!!! I want my husband to want and desire me rather than me having to pursue him and convince him that I am better than sliced bread. How disturbing.
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To be fair, though, this is how a lot of men feel a lot of the time when trying to get women interested - it often feels like you have to do a lot of convincing to get to the point where you're 'worth their time'. So there has to be some level of give, I think.
 
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ELECT

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Are women time more important than men time in such cases ?
 
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OnThisRock

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This last guy I was friends with, we were talking about dating but he had like 5 women pursuing him in an almost stalker fashion and I think he liked it. It was quite weird. I told him that I wanted (an exclusive relationship) and could not deal with all these women after him. He wanted me to pursue him like the rest of them and did not want to meet on mutual ground. That, I cannot handle. It's got to be mutual. His life seemed overwhelming with all of the responsibilities of all these 'women'. I could not handle these complications. I am a one man kind of woman.
 
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didymos said:
It was a joke? Since she stated 'a woman shouldn't persue a MAN,' so what's the alternative? ;)
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Okay, I get it now. It was late when I had read your post. :D

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OnThisRock said:
This last guy I was friends with, we were talking about dating but he had like 5 women pursuing him in an almost stalker fashion and I think he liked it. It was quite weird. I told him that I wanted (an exclusive relationship) and could not deal with all these women after him. He wanted me to pursue him like the rest of them and did not want to meet on mutual ground. That, I cannot handle. It's got to be mutual. His life seemed overwhelming with all of the responsibilities of all these 'women'. I could not handle these complications. I am a one man kind of woman.
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Whaaaaat?? It's weird? I think it is practiced even today. Here are some proofs. :rolleyes:

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Lynx

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In that first picture it looks like the male is pontificating about something... and the female closest to the camera is thinking, "Yeah, right."
 
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Lynx said:
In that first picture it looks like the male is pontificating about something... and the female closest to the camera is thinking, "Yeah, right."
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I think he was trumpeting about his loyalty to his spouse and how he is a one-woman kinda man.
 
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