Single Men It's Time to Step Up!

[wisebeardman]

Hahaha. I just want somebody to tell me what it means when in the online dating world...the guy repeatedly looks at your profile but never sends a message!

dude is stalking you.

 

[Lynx]

Hmm, so you can see who has checked your profile, and how many times they have checked it? Neat. I haven't even bothered checking my own profile yet.

I could use this...

*Lynx goes off to check someone's profile five hundred times, just to make the person worry.

 

[ServantStrike]

But you can still wink or send sparks for free

That is literally no fun.

It's like going to an ice cream parlor to look at the ice cream but never buying a cone.

 

[secularhermit]

SINGLE WOMEN!

When is it YOUR time to step up? He! He!

I love the EXAMPLE Ruth gave. Of course, an old man like Booth has enough to take care of her YOUNG new-brand wife and she that HAS NO CHILDREN he had to deal with.

Is it a good example to consider?
She was poor and had nothing, except a poor mother-in-law full of wisdom.

She wasn't coward and seemed to be very outgoing.

Why it is so stressed the wedding feast, instead the emotional investment to make marriage LAST forever.

 

[AgeofKnowledge]

The U.S. marriage rate is presently lower than any other time in the nation's history including the Civil War, World War I, World War II and the Great Depression which all had a significant impact on the marriage and divorce rate... and it continues to trend downwards.

Demographic Intelligence's U.S. Wedding Forecast projects that by 2016 the marriage rate will fall to 6.7 per 1,000 people, which includes people getting married for the second or third time, which is the lowest rate of marriage in U.S. history.

 

[setapartgirl]

I know this is a complicated and touchy subject for all of us, so think clearly before you respond. The title of this post was taken from the following article.

The first post I wrote just now (and promptly deleted after a change of heart) complained bitterly about the passivity of men in the Christian community. I had written a similar post a few years ago regarding single men and their lacklustre approach towards single women, leaning heavily on my own frustrating experiences with men who always admired from afar but were too chicken to actually approach me. I'm not gonna be easy... and no woman who is worth it is gonna be easy for you, stallion.

In my experience beautiful Christ-centred women (I know many!) are sitting there waiting for a Christ-centred man to approach them, to make a move, to be a leader, to fight... and yet there they sit waiting and waiting and the men don't come. Why is this happening? Where are you guys?

But there are two sides to every story and I'm trying to do some fair research on the topic after an older woman approached me and incredulously asked me why I wasn't married and the best answer I could muster up was, "I guess I just haven't met him yet", which sits on my chest heavily laden with spiritual concern for the men in our church. I have my own issues to deal with, as all women do, so I'm not going to blame men entirely for my own experience. But I don't want to make this post about me.

The article I linked is a good first glimpse inside this matter. If you feel that it's a TLDR (Too Long Didn't Read) type of deal then allow me to highlight some of, what I feel, are the best points made:

Women still want men to lead them. This means being an initiator of the relationship. Don't give us that "it's the 21st Century" spiel. WE. WANT. YOU. TO. LEAD.

Men are not preparing themselves to be the men they should be. That means morally, financially, spiritually and relationally.

It is okay to ask God for a wife! My favourite part of this article is this: Spiritual development also involves the building of a prayer life. Speaking of which, it is surprising how few men actually ask God for a wife. Of all things, why would we leave this matter off our prayer list? Perhaps some would argue that it is unspiritual to pray about such a thing, that if God intends us to be married we should disengage from the process and allow Him to override our neutrality. Being neutral is fine if it means surrender and waiting by faith on God's answer (which, by the way, first demands that a request be made), but it is not fine if it implies apathy or cowardice.

The key words here are apathy and cowardice. Does this sound like you or somebody you know?

Lastly, this life is a journey. Take a risk, trust in God, surround yourself with other Christians and meet single women, befriend us and don't be afraid of us! If you want to be loved then you must first love. Ask yourself this: If you believe God has already met you in the depths of your soul then what have you got to lose? Open your hearts, gents. We are waiting for you and we love you!

I can feel you sis...really.. adn don't worry that you are still single at 29. Because i am too, 28, i feel your sentiments, i know some christian men who rather want the women to text them first, make the first move, or maybe they are not men enough?? I don't know also, ive been hurt, and still hurting even by a christian man, so sometimes i want to think its better to have a good non christian man but trying seek God, than christian man who doesn't know what they want, heyyy i am not a man hater, hahaha i just knew some here, but there were good christian men i know also mostly of them are married. And i know some single in our church but i am too shy to talked to them, that leads me to seek christian men online leading me to heartache..hahaha i would like to think that real christian men nowadays are so focus with God, they forgot they need a partner too. Hahaha

 

[HappyGuy]

I'm single and it doesn't bother me..... but I will say this though if a Christian lady likes me it would be nice if she would say something cause alot of times I don't notice the signs the lady gives cause I'm not looking for the signs.

 

[Shawn2516]

I'm single and it doesn't bother me..... but I will say this though if a Christian lady likes me it would be nice if she would say something cause alot of times I don't notice the signs the lady gives cause I'm not looking for the signs.

That is true, but do not go with a woman who has interest in you, because that can be anyone. Go with someone who has character and virtue and will in the end, make your life happy. No, you won't find a perfect woman, but you will know the difference between a virtuous woman and a woman who only pretends to be. The latter can make your life end up in much misery.

 

[HappyGuy]

That is true, but do not go with a woman who has interest in you, because that can be anyone. Go with someone who has character and virtue and will in the end, make your life happy. No, you won't find a perfect woman, but you will know the difference between a virtuous woman and a woman who only pretends to be. The latter can make your life end up in much misery.

oh ya I know what your saying as I'm just saying I don't notice the signs.... as I would be looking for a woman that is equally yoked.

 

[Yeraza_Bats]

The U.S. marriage rate is presently lower than any other time in the nation's history including the Civil War, World War I, World War II and the Great Depression which all had a significant impact on the marriage and divorce rate... and it continues to trend downwards.

Demographic Intelligence's U.S. Wedding Forecast projects that by 2016 the marriage rate will fall to 6.7 per 1,000 people, which includes people getting married for the second or third time, which is the lowest rate of marriage in U.S. history.

I would put the blame on this on the moral decay of society.

Ask any young person what they think of things like sex before marriage, or what they feel about divorce. You wont like the answer : /

 

[Shawn2516]

I would put the blame on this on the moral decay of society.

Ask any young person what they think of things like sex before marriage, or what they feel about divorce. You wont like the answer : /

Moral decay is only half of the reason. I believe the real reason we are declining society is because we cannot tell the truth anymore because its offensive. People are scared to tell the truth because then they will not be liked. The day we get America back is the day it has the spine to tell the truth, even if others do not want to hear it. Political correctness pandering which is hidden censorship has gone on long enough.

 

[MrOhAllRight]

The biggest reason I will not step up is no Christian woman has ever had to step up. I am to blame for my lonliness and the lonliness of all the women who never speak to me. Christian men are labeled at the lowest standard for humanity yet must hold women at an angelic standard. The day Christianity scrutinizes women at the level it tears men apart is the day I will put on my big boy shoes.