So how did you guys finally beat porn?

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This has worked tremendously well for me.

ANTHEM: Strategies for Fighting Lust - Desiring God <--- click

The quoted portion below, is probably what has done me the most good.

DesiringGod said:
N &#8211; Say NO to every lustful thought within five seconds. And say it with the authority of Jesus Christ. "In the name of Jesus, NO!" You don't have much more than five seconds. Give it more unopposed time than that, and it will lodge itself with such force as to be almost immovable. Say it out loud if you dare. Be tough and warlike. As John Owen said, "Be killing sin or it will be killing you." Strike fast and strike hard. "Resist the devil, and he will flee from you" ( James 4:7).
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they have amazing podcasts that are just real & truthful & really helpful
it's made a huge difference for me just learning what i've learned.

be well,
carlie
 
Though I haven't struggled with pornography, I can tell you it's like any other habitual sin. And the problem with habitual sin is that:

1) It's a habit, so your body gains comfort from it--you feel security from things you do habitually.
2) You can take away the action, but that won't eradicate the problem.

Though I wish I could tell you that those programs work (like covenanteyes), it really doesn't solve the root of the problem. The root of the problem is where you need to address with the Lord. Let's say instead of porn, your struggle was lying and you were a pathological liar. If you told yourself "everytime I feel the urge to lie, I'm going to stop talking." That's a great idea and it will prevent you from lying, but it doesn't deal with the internal issue. The bigger question would be: why do I feel the need to lie? Perhaps you feel unloved or unimportant and so you want to lie to gain approval. That would be the issue to deal with.

So back to pornography: what is the real issue? Where does the actual desire come from? Yea, we could blame the object itself saying that it's addicting and appealing (which is part of the problem), but deep down what God-sized need are you filling? What need in your heart are you trying to comfort yourself instead of with the Lord? For some of the people I know who struggle with porn, the need is feeling desired, wanted, or important. For other people it's the need to control--their lives are really stressful and they feel the need to control something like their body (this is also a root for eating disorders).

Long story short--I encourage you to really search your heart. Like David cries out in Psalm 139:23-24 "Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!" With any sin in your life, it is important to find the core and ask the Lord to eradicate that. External actions are just the signs of inward struggle.
 
coruscation said:
For some of the people I know who struggle with porn, the need is feeling desired, wanted, or important.
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Those pretty much covers the reason why I look. Basically, I've never had a girlfirend or really any luck with girls. So I never felt like was wanted or needed by a girl that I liked.(Even though I know that God can fix it.) Basically I just never get any attention from the girls I'd like to get attention from. I'm basically the shy, quiet type of guy so it's hard for me get the attention of girls either.
 
Accountability
Get someone strong and able that you know who can keep you accountable for what you do. Have daily calls and check ups and whenever you feel weak call them.
We are the BODY OF CHRIST. Use your fellow believers!
 
dothackzero said:
Those pretty much covers the reason why I look. Basically, I've never had a girlfirend or really any luck with girls. So I never felt like was wanted or needed by a girl that I liked.(Even though I know that God can fix it.) Basically I just never get any attention from the girls I'd like to get attention from. I'm basically the shy, quiet type of guy so it's hard for me get the attention of girls either.
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I'm sorry that women have not been affirming your value over the years. You are a son of the High King, which makes you a Prince. To be told otherwise is folly. We are all fully redeemed children of God and deserve to be shown respect and encouraged in our weaknesses so that we may be made strong.

As far as attention goes: unfortunately it's a worldly desire. Nowhere in the Bible does it say that you need or should even want attention from women. Even Paul writes in 1 Corinthians that he wishes all men would remain unmarried so that they could be more effective missionaries. So long story short: you need to eradicate your desire for attention from women. This is a problem MANY Christians struggle with. I can't tell you how many years I enslaved myself to getting attention from men. And it really doesn't satisfy, in the long run.

The only person who can give you the attention and the fulfillment you need is Christ. And He is the only one who can end this struggle. No amount of accountability or programs or sermons is going to solve this. They can help, don't get me wrong, but Christ is the only source that will, and already has, redeemed you. You have to believe that He loves you, and that you are worth loving (because you are). Might I suggest you spend some time reading 1 John? It's one of my favorite books in the New Testament and really harnesses an understanding of God's love for you. You are treasured in His kingdom :)
 
Crypto said:
Oiginally Posted by bobie
just think about this! your past, present, and future sins has already been forgiven so don't feel bad after watching porn or doin stuff like that! just stop trying to accomplish something by your own effort and let god take over! trust me just focus on god's grace instead of the law and you'll feel better!
That's the worst advice I've ever seen and a terrible defeatist mentality that is opposed to the teaching of the Scriptures. That's what the Bible calls licentiousness.
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I agree. I'd like him to define what it means when he says "let God take over." Focusing on grace rather than the law is a good thing, but he's been deceived by the Devil if he thinks the right course of action is no action. Run the good race with endurance to the end to receive the crown of life (James 1). Work out your salvation with fear and trembling (Philippians 2:12-13).
 
JUST STOP DOING IT. All this "i can't help it" blah blah blah. It begins with you making a choice to look at it. Don't allow yourself to be so weak minded and ask God to give you strength. Addiction of any kind starts in the mind --- Something which you control with practice. Help yourself first!
 
ChristianChick said:
JUST STOP DOING IT. All this "i can't help it" blah blah blah. It begins with you making a choice to look at it. Don't allow yourself to be so weak minded and ask God to give you strength. Addiction of any kind starts in the mind --- Something which you control with practice. Help yourself first!
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It's not always that simple.

Romans 7:18 would be an example.

Also, don't forget the work of the powers and principalities. (Eph 6)

Sin itself is an addiction.
 
Your Brain On Porn | Evolution has not prepared your brain for today's Internet porn.

This site was the biggest turning point for me.

The biggest thing to realize is that porn is more then lust, porn is a dopamine delivery system that the brain doesn't know the difference from drug use. And any stimulating dopamine use physically changes the brain and makes it physically less capable to feel empathy, joy, or intimacy. Paul was right when he said it was a sin against the body, people just don't realize the real physical damage it causes (reduced dopamine receptors in the brain) and so don't really believe him.

The brain also doesn't make a difference from positive to negative emotions (emotion is what makes memories powerful in the mind), this means that feeling more anger, shame, and regret towards porn means it ensnares you more.

Recovery is about bleeding it of emotion attachment. And a big part of that is realizing how powerful the gospel is really is, it is the only knowledge that is able to be emotionally powerful enough to overcome the infinite black hole of craving people have. It is about being free of condemnation, people don't change behavior from condemnation they change from a place of safety, that is what real biblical community is about.
 
I won this fight .

Every morning I told God I will fail , but I will not fail your strength ! Gods strength is the key to winning the fight . Don't ever forget that you can refuse his power . Pushing his power from you is where failure comes into play . When temptation reveals its self , you must tell God you are weak ! Be 100% honest with him and ask for help. Make sure not to side step his strength , you must pray like you want to be free from temptation you must want it even in your weakest moment .

Renew the mind and your lustful actions will die out sooner then you think !
 
marianaaa said:
i think a girl is not a solution, if we are christian, sex js after marriage, dont u think?
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Aside from the fact that I'm: A, having the same problem, and B, have trouble getting a girlfriend myself, I can honestly say it is decent advise. The 3 girlfriends I've had (despite two of them having used me and left) definitely took my mind off of porn. I wasn't interested in porn at the time, because I was interested in making them happy at the time. Rather than spending my free time at the computer I was spending it thinking of creative ways to make them laugh or smile. Noone said anything about sex, it's the attention and affection that helps. I'm still hurt from the one good girl that was sweet and caring dumping me so I'm not in a state that I can try to find a girlfriend yet.
 
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Will getting rid of my loneliness help me out a lot to stop watching porn?
I'm not talking about the when I get a girlfriend type of thing, but attacking the loneliness at it's roots.
 
I personally just strapped a cilice to my leg when ever the urge came about.
 
When you fail, don't mope and beat yourself up because that's not proactive in having a better relationship with God. Use this struggle of yours to be naked before God in the deeper part of your will/spirit/personality. When we mess up, acknowledge that we did it, repent and turn to Him to direct us. There is always made a way out of temptation. It is our duty of love to find the narrow path that is lit up and energized by God.

Yes there is great reward in obeying God, but that's not the point, becoming closer to God is. Through good AND evil we sanctify through our godliness.
I pray for our success in goodness and godliness for the sake of God's glorification.
 
I was addicted to porn for 10 years. From the age of 10 - 20. It wasn't a bad addiction until 12-14. God delivered me from it over a year ago. I spent a lot of time praying about it but messing up constantly. I would look at porn close to 10 times a day if not more, when I had the chance. It wasn't something I overcame by anything I did, I just spent so much time in prayer for healing, one day I had the addiction broken off. I never had a desire to look at porn again.

So all I can say is spend time reading the Bible, in prayer constantly for healing. The more you let God fill you with his light, the less darkness there will be. Darkness cant be where light fully consumes.

God answers prayers, but sometimes He wants you to keep asking. He doesn't want you to give up. It's so hard to get rid of this addiction using your human strength. You need God to give you the strength. Maybe it will continue to be a temptation for you and He will give you the strength to resist. Maybe he will instantly heal you. Who knows? Just keep asking Him for help.
 
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