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I've come to realize the hypocrisy of my desires. I find that in my head I have a general idea of what my future wife would, or rather should be like, I feel everyone does to some extent. I look at the women around me in my life and think none of them are good enough, that they don't meet my set criteria so to speak, and I question whether the one I'm meant to be with is out there at all. Then I look at myself and realize that my expectations aren't necessarily unrealistic or too demanding, but that I don't meet them myself. I think that's something that has really helped me stop focusing so much on finding somebody to be in a relationship with, and instead use my singleness as a time to grow closer to God and better myself. I don't know if I'm alone on this, but I think a look in the mirror will help a lot of people stop feeling so bad about being single. Instead of being single with a mindset of "nobody is good enough", start thinking "am I good enough?" A relationship is a two way street, and if your faith and love of God isn't strong now, it won't appear out of thin air once a woman comes into your life. So make knowing God your mission, make it your priority. Don't waste your singleness daydreaming, and instead use it to grow closer to God. Hope this helps