People usually need at least a Master's degree to have barely enough knowledge to start counseling other folks. I was a counselor with an unrelated liberal arts degree. I quit the day I was trying to help a teen and she walked out hysterical. I spent the next four months wondering if she had killed herself, and had she, I didn't take her to that edge, but I certainly helped push her closer. Much to my relief an old coworker called me to let me know she didn't kill herself.
I was 23. You're 14. To think I had the skill to help with my background, (and I did have some background in counseling), was wrong of me and of the people who hired me. There was 1 person in that counseling center with the degree, and a lot of people teaching a bunch of nonsense, because that one person was put in charge of the business behind that counseling center. And the nonsense they taught was to college students or people just out of college. We just didn't know as much as we thought we did.
Your pastor ought to be able to figure out what he is teaching, and what he is teaching his staff and volunteers that is so incredibly bad. The elders and his support system had better be trusted enough that he listens to them. But this isn't a problem for church members to resolve. It's their problem. And, if nothing happens -- nothing changes? Find a new church! Because whatever their message is, it's not a good message.
This is about knowledge you simply don't have yet. This is about knowledge I can only sense, but I don't have. This is knowledge a trained pastor ought to have. I'm not saying the pastor could have helped all those kids. I'm saying someone with knowledge ought to have had the resources in place to get people in that bad shape help immediately. It wouldn't have helped all those kids, but it would have helped the majority of them.
A hopelessness set in, and I'm afraid for you. (I'd be afraid for more, but I don't know anyone else in your church.)