Thoughts of Christian Dating

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tourist said:
Tell us a little bit about yourself. Perhaps describe your day-to-day activities or a general description of the work that you do. That would provide some context in your thought process that would be helpful in responses.

I am glad that you live pretty good, and you seem to be a spiritual man. I am not saying that you are misguided either. I am no better than anyone else and probably worse than some.

I guess that I'm par for the course.
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All I can tell you is that God has blessed me with affluence, everything I’d ever need, inherited apartment, stable job, peaceful family, free entertaining contents, and most importantly, the opportunity to know God, without any
debt, anxiety, trouble or addiction. Ever since the financial crisis in 08, there had been a huge real estate bubble, my family took advantage of it and made a fortune, while now the bubble is burst, others are still mired in mortgage for a pile of rubbles. The only thing God didn’t provide though is woman, and I consider that a blessing too, since the #MeToo movement. I’ve no time, energy or interest for any gold digging wench. Life has enough trouble and messes already.
 
Lovette said:
All I can tell you is that God has blessed me with affluence, everything I’d ever need, inherited apartment, stable job, peaceful family, free entertaining contents, and most importantly, the opportunity to know God, without any
debt, anxiety, trouble or addiction. Ever since the financial crisis in 08, there had been a huge real estate bubble, my family took advantage of it and made a fortune, while now the bubble is burst, others are still mired in mortgage for a pile of rubbles. The only thing God didn’t provide though is woman, and I consider that a blessing too, since the #MeToo movement. I’ve no time, energy or interest for any gold digging wench. Life has enough trouble and messes already.
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That's great!

But what about women who already have their own money and wouldn't need yours?
 
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seoulsearch said:
That's great!

But what about women who already have their own money and wouldn't need yours?
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Why would they bother to date then? Wouldn't they have enough trouble of their own? Even if they do exist, I've never met any. Everyone I see has their eyes glued to the phone, the only possible access to their mind would a dating app or social media tools, I don't expect any meaningful face to face conversation, there's nothing meaningful to say anyway.
 
Lovette said:
Why would they bother to date then? Wouldn't they have enough trouble of their own? Even if they do exist, I've never met any. Everyone I see has their eyes glued to the phone, the only possible access to their mind would a dating app or social media tools, I don't expect any meaningful face to face conversation, there's nothing meaningful to say anyway.
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This is an interesting phenomenon across a lot of people. They think that since they haven't met someone from a certain demographic, those people can't possibly exist.

There are most definitely women with their own money. I know some from my real life.

I've met others on this very site, and I've spent time with them in person (that's how I know they're very financially independent -- not because they tell anyone.)

For obvious privacy and safety reason (and because they obviously don't want to attract gold diggers either,) they don't speak about their circumstances in the forum.

They also have very healthy, well-rounded lives, including dating according to the guidelines God has instilled in their lives. They would marry if they felt that's where God was leading them.

And they enjoy participating in several different activities, like this forum.
 
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seoulsearch said:
This is an interesting phenomenon across a lot of people. They think that since they haven't met someone from a certain demographic, those people can't possibly exist.

There are most definitely women with their own money. I know some from my real life.

I've met others on this very site, and I've spent time with them in person (that's how I know they're very financially independent -- not because they tell anyone.)

For obvious privacy and safety reason (and because they obviously don't want to attract gold diggers either,) they don't speak about their circumstances in the forum.

They also have very healthy, well-rounded lives, including dating according to the guidelines God has instilled in their lives. They would marry if they felt that's where God was leading them.

And they enjoy participating in several different activities, like this forum.
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Yes, such Emma Woodhouses do exist, and I suppose only their own Mr. Knightleys who grew up with them in their circles are able to handle such spoiled dollar princesses. My family's fortune is mostly in non liquid form, it's more of an insurance policy for emergencies, unemployment and elderly care, it's like you've got one and a half million in the bank and live on an interest of thirty thousand or so a year, it's not like I can blow it all off on yachts and luxuries or something.
 
Lovette said:
Yes, such Emma Woodhouses do exist, and I suppose only their own Mr. Knightleys who grew up with them in their circles are able to handle such spoiled dollar princesses. My family's fortune is mostly in non liquid form, it's more of an insurance policy for emergencies, unemployment and elderly care, it's like you've got one and a half million in the bank and live on an interest of thirty thousand or so a year, it's not like I can blow it all off on yachts and luxuries or something.
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See, you keep talking about your family's fortune, and that's wonderful. But yet you're accusing others with money of being the spoiled ones.

The women I know with money earned their own way. I've known women who have a large amounts of money saved -- but they shop at thrift stores -- by choice. It's part of how they saved their wealth.

And yes, dividend investing. I'm very familiar with that concept.

Keep the principal and live off the dividends and interest, as opposed to the infamous 4% rule (sell 4% of your assets a year to cover your expenses,) that is now being debated in finance as endless as Once Save Always Saved is in the BDF.

So you're trying to preserve your family's million and a half principle so that you can keep living off the interest indefinitely, which can provide for a comfortable, but still modest lifestyle.

It's not a trade secret though.

There are others here -- including women -- are also living by those principles.
 
Churchgoer said:
There is nothing wrong for single man and woman to have coffees together, help each other for doctor visits, walk hiking together, Bible study pray together, church together.

We should not put extra yoke to people.
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Thanks, I've got enough of a yoke already from my to do list.
 
seoulsearch said:
See, you keep talking about your family's fortune, and that's wonderful. But yet you're accusing others with money of being the spoiled ones.

The women I know with money earned their own way. I've known women who have a large amounts of money saved -- but they shop at thrift stores -- by choice. It's part of how they saved their wealth.

And yes, dividend investing. I'm very familiar with that concept.

Keep the principal and live off the dividends and interest, as opposed to the infamous 4% rule (sell 4% of your assets a year to cover your expenses,) that is now being debated in finance as endless as Once Save Always Saved is in the BDF.

So you're trying to preserve your family's million and a half principle so that you can keep living off the interest indefinitely, which can provide for a comfortable, but still modest lifestyle.

It's not a trade secret though.

There are others here -- including women -- are also living by those principles.
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My parents' fortune is their own, I'll inherit whatever's left for my own retirement, that's it.

And frankly speaking, they're overbearing and domineering materialists, everything I've done right is what I'm supposed to do, as my duties and obligations; everything I've done wrong is my fault, even when it's not, like if I slip and fall, they'd acowl at me for not watching where I'm going instead of asking if I'm hurt. And I don't blame them, we ought to honor our father and mother, right? I've just concluded it as the price to pay for such a comfortable life.
 
Lovette said:
Yes, such Emma Woodhouses do exist, and I suppose only their own Mr. Knightleys who grew up with them in their circles are able to handle such spoiled dollar princesses. My family's fortune is mostly in non liquid form, it's more of an insurance policy for emergencies, unemployment and elderly care, it's like you've got one and a half million in the bank and live on an interest of thirty thousand or so a year, it's not like I can blow it all off on yachts and luxuries or something.
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The debate between holding liquid vs. non-liquid assets (or how much of each) is interesting.

I'm seeing a lot of articles about baby boomers in the USA who bought houses as a store of wealth, but they're now stuck because one can afford to buy their houses.

I heard the story of one couple who just assumed their house would sell for, at the time, the appraised $800,000, so they signed on to build another house for $800,000. But with things being the way they are now, they've had to drop the asking price of their old house to around $650,000 -- and still haven't found a buyer.

One would hope/assume someone at that level has enough liquid assets to cover the difference -- and from what I've seen (I've known several people who built homes,) a new build always costs quite a bit more than originally estimated.

But for many people, all their equity is tied up in their house/real estate and they have no room to breathe.

Yes, I know this doesn't really have anything to do with your post.

I'm just talking out loud because I find the topic of finances, and the different ways people handle them, to be quite fascinating.
 
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