To be single or not is the question!??

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Bipolar is a medical condition and while it affects the brain you are still the same person inside, just with maybe mood swings, which with the right meds can stabilise.

I think the best option is to be single and have a good support network. So a group home is def ok for now. There is no shame in being single, there shouldn't be...and if you are being single-shamed - is there such a thing? Then that's on the other person, not you.

We have enough to worry about for today, then to be constantly thinking of the future (or married future), tomorrow will take care of itself.
 
Lanolin said:
Bipolar is a medical condition and while it affects the brain you are still the same person inside, just with maybe mood swings, which with the right meds can stabilise.

I think the best option is to be single and have a good support network. So a group home is def ok for now. There is no shame in being single, there shouldn't be...and if you are being single-shamed - is there such a thing? Then that's on the other person, not you.

We have enough to worry about for today, then to be constantly thinking of the future (or married future), tomorrow will take care of itself.
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I'm going on 14. How about you? Ya a good point. Tomorrow has trouble of its own. At least I'm not with my x! Constant" I hate God" I hate you' I wish you would die"; that got old in the first 2 months.
 
faithlife said:
Hi Michaelarc, what's hopeful is there are many single Christian ladies who would love to be married too. Hang out here in the Single's Forum and get involved with the Threads. There has recently been a couple match-up here on CC so be patient. Start thanking God for your future mate as one of His promises is Mk 11:24 "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours"). It emphasizes faith, trust in God, and confidence in prayer. Welcome to CC and God bless you🙏✨
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You provide sound counsel and encouragement.
 
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Gideon300 said:
I was married in my 30's and divorced after 9 years. Marriage can be hard too. I resigned myself to being single after a few shots at dating. That lasted about 25 years. I've been married getting on for four years.
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I was single and celebate for 18 years after my divorce in 1984. Horrible marriage lasted 6 1/2 years. Unfortunately, my second wife died at age of 59 after an 11-year marriage.

Currently, been married to JesusLives, who is also a member, for over 11 years. She and I are both 71 years old. Her second marriage. After her divorce she waited 35 years to marry me. She says that I was worth the wait. Yes, marriage can be hard too. If you are married to a good one, it can also be very satisfying.

JesusLives will be my last wife. She is also has been my best wife by far. Of course, this is by the grace of God.
 
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Lanolin said:
Be a good husband (you can train yourself to be one) and then you'll find a good wife.

Good husbands...know how to fix things. They pay their bills on time. They treat others kindly. They would do anything for their children. They keep others safe. They don't lose their tempers...
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I checked all of the good husband boxes.
 
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faithlife said:
Some people in the BDF would disagree, lol, but that's what I strive for, ty!
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Sound counsel?!! I'm still learning my Bible and here I now now I know little!! But knowledge puffs up love edifies!! I told that to a guy on Bible discussion and He left me alone!!! But I love the body of Christ! I light up in public when I just start talking and find out they are a Christian. Especially when I think I'm going to bring Jesus to someone and they start spitting scripture like a rapper!! It's great. Thanks for you positive message!!!
 
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Michaelarc said:
Sound counsel?!! I'm still learning my Bible and here I now now I know little!! But knowledge puffs up love edifies!! I told that to a guy on Bible discussion and He left me alone!!! But I love the body of Christ! I light up in public when I just start talking and find out they are a Christian. Especially when I think I'm going to bring Jesus to someone and they start spitting scripture like a rapper!! It's great. Thanks for you positive message!!!
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I think things are getting better for you.
I know it's hard waiting, especially for years and years. But that's not unusual for men and women of faith. What's more concerning is those who don't wait, and are repenting at leisure.
I think it would be torture to marry straight out of high school at the earliest age you could be married.
Maybe that happened ...last century. But we are in the 21st now and things have definitely changed for those who stay single.
 
Lanolin said:
Be a good husband (you can train yourself to be one) and then you'll find a good wife.

Good husbands...know how to fix things. They pay their bills on time. They treat others kindly. They would do anything for their children. They keep others safe. They don't lose their tempers...
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Ya. Agreed. Lord might keep me waiting. All these things I have done excluding temper. But that was the last straw after 3 years of hell. The wait I was mentioning,when I have again I will appreciate all the more and do these things cause I don't want to lose what I received. Anger is tiresome. It's a burden on ones self. Christian are called to let go of anger, malice, jealousy,. Ya that's the way to go. Easy to pray til the Lord lifts the stress. Easy to be passive and talk later when both are in a better state of mind. Better to say nothing sometimes and communication thoroughly. I'm a direct honest guy. I try to solve quick. Some partners need air first. I'm glad to have some counsel from you. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks sissy! Goodnight
 
cinder said:
As a long term single you do kind of get used to it after a while, I think the most important thing regarding that is to not put the rest of your life on hold. Don't listen to the social voices that say but single people don't do that.

Community is also important to us singles so keep hunting around for a church and find smaller groups (security team, running sound board, men's bible study, etc) to connect with. After all if your first impression isn't the best you're going to have to keep showing up to make second and third impressions.

And remember no matter how hopeless or unlikely it seems God can still surprise you. And if he saved you, he can save a girl from a similar background (or a whole bunch of them, he likes saving people). In the meantime, he's promised to provide what you need, even if it's not everything you want right when you want it.
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I'm so thankful. This site is building me up and shaping me! I love the way the spirit works between us all. I feel peaceful. I feel hope. I'm feeling better in my single freedom . I'm enjoying it a little better. I won't give up but I feel really content now. All of you people are edifying me! This is great! I would like you all up and give ya a holy kiss on the forehand if we were together. And thank you all with a feast to bless ya! Thanks to you all. I felt vulnerable but I had to get it out. It produced fruit in me I didn't know that was there!! And I'm thankful!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
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Michaelarc said:
After 13 years alone a man looses hope in having another..Ya know? Now I was not raised a Christian. I'm a Christian guy that was from the school of hard knocks for the Lord to get my attention. And I'm a strong tattooed looking guy. See.me on the streets might think I would mug you. And that's the looks I get in Churches. My countenance has been rigid my whole life smiling hurts. No joke. But in all this time alone I think sometimes the Lord used this so I would really appreciate and be good to who like a guy like me. A sleeved out Christian girl is rare and where on earth is she!!!?? So I try to take joy in the Lord for my strength I heard Paul Washer say in a sermon when people say that when your down sometimes you want to hit them with a chair! I don't go to that extreme but it's hard to do. So one way or another I stay in the word psalms mostly and trudge. Please pray anyone who reads this lonely life style ends soon. My heart feels heavier year for year. Love to all my peeps
Michael
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On the upside, you are not married to a virago. So there's that. Better to be single than bound to a termagant. ;)
 
Lynx said:
On the upside, you are not married to a virago. So there's that. Better to be single than bound to a termagant. ;)
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Lol!. How will I be dealt with.. a libra always trying to find balance in a unbalanced world!!
 
Lynx said:
Eh? How did libra get into this? I didn't pass a bookstore...
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Nevermind. I misunderstood I thought you were calling somebody by their sign or whatever months they were born. I'm going to work have a good day
 
Michaelarc said:
Nevermind. I misunderstood I thought you were calling somebody by their sign or whatever months they were born. I'm going to work have a good day
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Oh... No, a virago is a kind of woman. So is a termagant. The kinds you don't want to be around.

There was one person at my job going on about astrology. I said, "Okay, if astrology is real... What's my sign? You've worked with me a few months now. You should be able to tell what my sign is."

She made five guesses, and they were all wrong. That settles it for me. It ain't real. :p
 
Signs and wonders indeed. The Jews asked for a sign, and no sign was given to them but the sign of Jonah.

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