5 deal breakers... (I was way less lenient with the relationships not based on love)
1. Gives me an excuse to justify being attracted to and looking at other women... I understand it's natural but I mean, it's wrong and preventable. If you want out of the addiction, fine, I will be totally supportive even if you mess up a biiillion times. I can find a man attractive but not be sexual attracted to them. I'm no super human lol so it's very possible.
2. Cheating without remorse... You can cheat and cheat numerous times if we love each other and you seriously have mental issues (you need to feel loved by all and you feel sex is the way, you are insecure, etc), but if you purposely do so and you just don't love me, it's over. Goodness, why don't people break up with their partner beforehand lol like WHY!?
3.Intentionally dismissing God from their lives... I understand that there are some who have yet to understand God, and some who have backslidden, but I'm talking about those who mock God and really don't desire to seek Him.
4. Being an angry hypocrite.... This just annoys me. It's not a deal breaker but it could turn into one over time. Specific example: I say something to my man that is misunderstood as lets say, jealousy... he ASSUMES I am jealous, flips out on me immediately for assuming something and for being jealous, says I should trust him and that I don't know him. Next day, he makes an actual jealous remark to me... I don't even get angry about that, assumes I'm doing things and starts to flip out on me for hurting him.
5. Wishy-washy syndrome....I like to have an actual commitment because I'm not about flings (they only cause pain or delay)... so if you aren't ready for commitment, don't tell me you are, and then you're not, on and off again. This confusion is extremely irritating. MAKE UP YOUR MIND. It really sucks when one day everything is going really well, then the next you are being ridiculed for no reason, or they take their anger from work out on you. They don't understand their own emotions.
Again, these are not totally deal breakers, but over time yes. I mean love is unconditional for the ONE God made you to be with. If these things happen due to lack of love, then, what's the point?
Bonus #6. Personality incompatibility.... everyone is different, but for me, if you're NOT: intellectual and logical with a balance of heart thinking, open minded with a balance of skepticism, creative and down to earth, then it's not that I dislike you, it just wont work.
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