Three times Jesus asks Peter "Do you love me"
John 21:15-17
Jesus Restores Peter
15 So when they had eaten breakfast, Jesus said to Simon Peter, “Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me more than these?”
He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.”
He said to him, “Feed My lambs.”
16 He said to him again a second time, “Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?”
He said to Him, “Yes, Lord; You know that I love You.”
He said to him, “Tend My sheep.”
17 He said to him the third time, “Simon, son of Jonah, do you love Me?” Peter was grieved because He said to him the third time, “Do you love Me?”
And he said to Him, “Lord, You know all things; You know that I love You.”
Jesus said to him, “Feed My sheep.
The first two times Jesus says do you Agape me (unconditional love) Peter responds with I Phileo you (a friendly love)
The 3rd time Jesus asks "Do you Phileo me? Peter gets upset and says " You know I Phileo you"
Then Jesus said to him "feed my sheep"
It seems to me that Jesus accepted this Phileo love but affirming him in that and telling him "Look after mine"
Knowing Peter would do this then Phileo love starts to be replaced with Agape love.
Peter denied Jesus 3 times, then Jesus asks him 3 times do you love me?
Unconditional love is not natural to us but as we walk with Jesus Phileo love is replaced by Agape love.
Love is not a feeling but an act of will