WHY Divorce? Part 1

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KBond

KBond

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(This blog is part of a series on divorce.)

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We know it is God's desire for us to keep our marital vows because God's Word tells us He hates divorce (see Malachi 2:16 NLT). However, He does allow it in certain circumstances. Theologians debate them, but the discussion surrounds:
1) unfaithfulness, 2) abandonment, and 3) abuse. If your spouse is not guilty of any of the above things, pursue reconciliation instead of divorce.

If you want to follow God's desire for your marriage, stop using the word "divorce" in your conversations and in your mind. Start praying for a change in heart. God understands your hurt. Open your mind and heart to the possibility that God can transform your marriage into the loving relationship you always dreamed of having for "with God all things are possible" (see Matthew 19:26).

Father, thank You that You know Your people so well. Thank You that it is Your desire to help them in their circumstance and not to abandon them in their time of need. We beg Your help to fill our hearts with love for our spouses and to enrich the love they have for us. In Christ's Name, Amen.

If you need someone to talk or pray with, feel free to send me a private message.
 
You have a keen insight on the issue of divorce. I believe that what God has joined together no one may put asunder. The pertinent question that I ask is that did God indeed join the two of them together in a spiritual bond that cannot be broken by man or God. Indeed, with God all things are possible.
 
Thanks, tourist, for the comment. I suppose you are referring to this verse:
"Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate." --Mark 10:9. It's an interesting verse...certainly one worth meditating on.
 
What about people that love God so much that they still feel divorce is wrong even if those three things have occurred? How can one free themselves from the guilt of tearing apart a family even though a marriage is broken? Is there any advice for those in that situation?
 
CherieLamour;bt9469 said:
What about people that love God so much that they still feel divorce is wrong even if those three things have occurred? How can one free themselves from the guilt of tearing apart a family even though a marriage is broken? Is there any advice for those in that situation?
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Even though the divorce lawyers will be glad to make money off anyone, it's the grace of God that people need to be pointed to.
 
CherieLamour;bt9469 said:
What about people that love God so much that they still feel divorce is wrong even if those three things have occurred? How can one free themselves from the guilt of tearing apart a family even though a marriage is broken? Is there any advice for those in that situation?
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Are you personally in that situation CherieLamour? If so, I am very concerned for you. I am sorry I did not notice your message before.

I can definitely see the point of view where someone might feel guilty for tearing a family apart through divorce even though their partner has been unfaithful, abused them, and abandoned them. There is no reason for a person to divorce if their spouse has abandoned them and not asked for a divorce. However, I recommend a SEPARATION in the case of physical abuse and unfaithfulness. Physical abuse can be life-threatening. Unfaithfulness can indirectly be very harmful if your spouse acquires AIDS or some other disease from their sexual partners.

If someone chooses to separate from their spouse because of these reasons, they should not feel any guilt for tearing apart a family because they are not to blame. The spouse who is abusing or being unfaithful is the person who is tearing apart the family.

I am praying for you or whoever you were thinking of when you asked that question.
 
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