It's typically because we know a guy likes us but we also know that we do not like them in that way and probably never will, but we don't want to just straight up say, "So you might as well stop talking to me." We're not that mean.
A friend's son asked if he could chat with me because he wanted to get to know me (this was all over text because he lives states away). I said, "Okay, but just as friends." I was okay with getting to know him but I was not romantically interested. I should have just said no, because I knew he was attracted to me, but it just seemed so harsh. However, as time went on, he would ask questions or steer conversation in such a way where I was 99% sure he thought that eventually someday this would turn into something even though I told him from the very beginning that I didn't want it going that direction. So then, I DID have to "disappear"/cut it off completely. I told him why and I was still kind, basically a "Hey I think you've got the wrong idea about the direction of this so I think it's better if we stop so you don't keep following that idea".
If you go into a friendship with the expectation that you'll start dating them, and you can't handle them not being attracted to you, then you shouldn't be friends with them in the first place, because you'll just end up being frustrated all the time that they "still" don't like you in that way.
For the record, I don't think the friend-zone is real. Granted, yes there are women who intentionally lead men on so that they'll do things for them. But not being attracted to someone or wanting to be only their friend is not a crime and makes it sound like said person is being mean, when in reality they're just being honest.
OR, maybe that girl did like you but since you (general you) never came forward, she assumed that YOU only wanted to be just friends and she's moved on, and then you feel friend-zoned.
Just a few thoughts. Got on a bit of a soap box there but...I'm stickin' to it.
A friend's son asked if he could chat with me because he wanted to get to know me (this was all over text because he lives states away). I said, "Okay, but just as friends." I was okay with getting to know him but I was not romantically interested. I should have just said no, because I knew he was attracted to me, but it just seemed so harsh. However, as time went on, he would ask questions or steer conversation in such a way where I was 99% sure he thought that eventually someday this would turn into something even though I told him from the very beginning that I didn't want it going that direction. So then, I DID have to "disappear"/cut it off completely. I told him why and I was still kind, basically a "Hey I think you've got the wrong idea about the direction of this so I think it's better if we stop so you don't keep following that idea".
If you go into a friendship with the expectation that you'll start dating them, and you can't handle them not being attracted to you, then you shouldn't be friends with them in the first place, because you'll just end up being frustrated all the time that they "still" don't like you in that way.
For the record, I don't think the friend-zone is real. Granted, yes there are women who intentionally lead men on so that they'll do things for them. But not being attracted to someone or wanting to be only their friend is not a crime and makes it sound like said person is being mean, when in reality they're just being honest.
OR, maybe that girl did like you but since you (general you) never came forward, she assumed that YOU only wanted to be just friends and she's moved on, and then you feel friend-zoned.
Just a few thoughts. Got on a bit of a soap box there but...I'm stickin' to it.