why so hard to find the right one?

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why so hard to find the right one for me? i know God has a plan for me and i believe its worth awaited..
 
I'm afraid I don't really have an answer for you, but I've wondered the same. Sometime I wonder if I'm being too picky. Why is it that every woman I meet that is worth marriage is either old enough to be my mother or already married?

Then I see the females at work and realize I'm better off on my own.
 
yeah, i've also wondered if i am being too picky, but i think it's not that, although i am aware that there is no perfect man or woman and you have to compromise in a marriage, but i would like to marry someone i can be best friends with and have things in common (similar lifestyle, thinking), whose company i would enjoy even if i was not in love with him. If that's called picky, then well i am :)
 
I have a slight disabilty that god gave me. I am stronge. but i think people judge me. What is thier promble
 
i think its so hard to find the right one, so we dont get stuck with the wrong one. thats just my simple little theory!
 
Tine24 said:
why so hard to find the right one for me? i know God has a plan for me and i believe its worth awaited..
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There ya have it.

Have standards that are reasonable, standards that you also hold yourself accountable to. Pray for your future mate. After that, I pretty much think the rest is in God's hands.

Oh, one other thing: we can't expect our mate to show up on the doorstep like a pizza delivery person. My observation is that God rarely works that way. Not suggesting that you were thinking that; more reminding everyone(myself included) that this isn't the likely method of finding our spouse.
 
Maybe I should not be posting here but I really used to thnk the same as everyone here. I thought that I would never find anyone or they woudlnt like me, i have a few physical issues myself as I am a little overweight among just not liking myself at differnt times in my life. I looked and looked and finally decided to just give iot all to God and let him have that desire to find the "perfect" guy for me and ya know once i gave that desire up within a few months God revealed to me who I was to marry, even before we could be together. I am not saying it always works that way but for me it did. Forget about it even if it is hard and God will alllow you to meet the perfect person for YOU when it is the right time. Sometimes it takes so long because God is trying to perfect that person just for you, God may still be working on him or her just so you can have what you wantg, need, or desire in a person or he may be working on you to make you the person that the one that is meant for you needs..
Just my thoughts!
God Bless
 
hi Kristan

Thank you for the nice e-mail you seem to be a nice person with a good heart. I am happy for you I will also you in my prayer

G
 
Its hard for us to find the right one i belive because so often we look with our own eyes and agenda and that will often fail-Its not hard for god though and he always provides often in ways we dont expect.
While running the race submit our singleness to him and all that is included in that.The hardest part being the submitting part.
This is not easy but a process and god knows what we need as well what we desire.We can trust our abba father that he knows best.
 
I dont wanna write something here but we are on the same boat..

someone told me that if you wanna meet your perfect match.. always declare blessings to that person you want to spend the rest of your life :) then you'll how God preserve that person for you.. but in one condition... keep praying.. praying without ceasing :) God bless us all..

Happy valentines to all..

are you going to wear red or black?
 
Pheonix said:
I'm afraid I don't really have an answer for you, but I've wondered the same. Sometime I wonder if I'm being too picky. Why is it that every woman I meet that is worth marriage is either old enough to be my mother or already married?

Then I see the females at work and realize I'm better off on my own.
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*lol* Amen Brother!
 
ang said:
I have a slight disabilty that god gave me. I am stronge. but i think people judge me. What is thier promble
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I can understand completely.

About 15 years ago I was diagnosed with Crohns disease. I've discovered that most of the ladies that I've dated in the past either looked at my condition as a death sentence or they didn't even take it into consideration at all (didn't seem to really care) both of which made me feel very uncomfortable.


Around 11 years ago I met a wonderful girl who, to be completely honest, was the only girl I had ever dated that I would have considered marrying. However after a couple months, when I felt things were beginning to progress between us, the last thing I wanted was to keep my Crohn's a secret. She told me that she had a friend who had Crohn's and from what she described, her friend had one of the more serious cases. Needless to say, the following week I was I checking my e-mail on her computer when one of her ex's started to instant message her with some pretty "intense" conversation. When I called her into the room to tell her, I could see it in her eyes that our relationship was over.

Took a really long time to get over that one....
 
How lucky you are!!!!!! and I am sure deserving . I have put my life in God's hands, but must admit there are times when I feel discouraged. I have so much to give and I desperatly want the opportunity to share with someone!!
God Bless You and much happiness
Ang
 
NazariteNation said:
I can understand completely.

About 15 years ago I was diagnosed with Crohns disease. I've discovered that most of the ladies that I've dated in the past either looked at my condition as a death sentence or they didn't even take it into consideration at all (didn't seem to really care) both of which made me feel very uncomfortable.
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I hear you......sometimes I wonder whether having a condition and/or disability would be off-putting to people? I find myself in that position....3 years ago a non-cancerous but life threatening brain tumour was found. Most has been removed but a little bit remains because it's too dangerous to remove. The operation 3 years back left me blind in my right eye - even though people are in total shock when I say it, because I look totally normal - you would never know I was blind in one eye.. or that I had had major brain surgery..but anyway. But it's been a huge life adjustment for me and the last 3 years have been hospital, being off work for long periods and I also had radiotherapy 5 months back.....and I face another operation soon due to a side affect from the radiation that had to pass through my pituatory gland - messing up my thyroid.......so the thyroid has to be totally removed now!!

But I say all that to say this........it will take a special man to put up with me and my lifetime of medical appointments for the foreseeable future (from a medical point of view, but I beleive in miracles!!!!), the days when I might not feel well etc etc.

God knew all this was going to happen...wish it hadn't but it did....you get on with life and continue to pray for healing and trust God for a mate - no matter how bad things look to us personally :)

But in honesty, from the human point of view......it can be discouraging some days thinking, who would find a 'condition' attractive, regardless of whether I look attractive on the outside and have a beautiful heart.

BUT remaining positive :)
 
Its not hard to find the right person if you trust God. He will bring the right one for you.
 
Ok, a couple things about finding the *right* person.

I find it interesting ( and disheartening) how a guy can match what you are looking for, but there can be a total lack of chemistry. Then once you find the basics + chemistry sometimes the guy is not a *real* Christian.

About the health thing, I've thought about this and I don't think people are really going to get health problems completely unless they have lived with them- or loved someone who had them. Even then they may lack understanding.

But if you can find someone who has character- I mean real character- compassion, understanding, the ability to see how the illness may effect the relationship and still be willing to try- I think you have a chance. And believe it or not, those people do exist....somewhere...lol

 
Kyra said:
Ok, a couple things about finding the *right* person.

I find it interesting ( and disheartening) how a guy can match what you are looking for, but there can be a total lack of chemistry. Then once you find the basics + chemistry sometimes the guy is not a *real* Christian.

About the health thing, I've thought about this and I don't think people are really going to get health problems completely unless they have lived with them- or loved someone who had them. Even then they may lack understanding.

But if you can find someone who has character- I mean real character- compassion, understanding, the ability to see how the illness may effect the relationship and still be willing to try- I think you have a chance. And believe it or not, those people do exist....somewhere...lol
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i happen to be that kind of individual
 
Hello

everyone thank for your comment. Dear Opulent woman never give up your payer and hopes. i belive god has a plan for everyone.

God bless you
 
NazariteNation said:
I can understand completely.

About 15 years ago I was diagnosed with Crohns disease. I've discovered that most of the ladies that I've dated in the past either looked at my condition as a death sentence or they didn't even take it into consideration at all (didn't seem to really care) both of which made me feel very uncomfortable.


Around 11 years ago I met a wonderful girl who, to be completely honest, was the only girl I had ever dated that I would have considered marrying. However after a couple months, when I felt things were beginning to progress between us, the last thing I wanted was to keep my Crohn's a secret. She told me that she had a friend who had Crohn's and from what she described, her friend had one of the more serious cases. Needless to say, the following week I was I checking my e-mail on her computer when one of her ex's started to instant message her with some pretty "intense" conversation. When I called her into the room to tell her, I could see it in her eyes that our relationship was over.

Took a really long time to get over that one....
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I have Crohn's too and had a smiliar thing happen last summer when I relapsed, the girl I was engaged to left me because of it.
 
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