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You know why I think it's so hard to find the right one? The same reason why I think there's more divorce now: Industrialization. It's the great mixed blessing of the past two hundred years. Industrialization has lead to urbanization, which has lead to urbanization (because when people move to big cities they tend to stop going to church, or at least that's what I learned in university, but I don't think that's as true nowadays because since 1964 people have been going to church now more because they actually want to know Jesus rather because of social norms such was the case after Europe was Christianized). See, I'm the classic example of that. I live in a metropolitan area of over 6 million people, yet I'm afraid I'm not overly optimistic about meeting the right guy. If I didn't have faith in God, and my belief that He's put a call on my life to get married (eventually) I'm afraid I'd be very discouraged. That's because I'm living in a city that is SOOO incredibly diverse. Now diversity is great when it comes to getting to know people. I find it so interesting when people talk about growing up Jewish, or going to Chinese school, or being transgendered. But, when it comes to finding someone to marry, that's not what you want. I mean, it sounds prejudice and xenophobic to say such things, but the reality is you want to marry someone who's very similar to you. I know that we want to believe that love conquers all, the reality is that the more different someone is from you, the more likely you'll have "irreconcilable differences" listed on your divorce. See, even though there's a ton of people here, I'd probably be more likely to find the right guy if I was living in a small town in Nova Scotia, 150 years ago. See, my grandmother's family had been living in Canada for few generations, but her generation was the first to marry people who weren't Scottish. But, if you look at the cometary where her great grandparents are burred, the names on the monuments are overwhelmingly Scottish. They were probably also all Presbyterians. Their views on gender norms, raising children, politics, money and whatnot were likely not all that diverse because they weren't exposed to diverse ideas. Now couples have to decide whether or not to have children and whether or not the wife will stay home. Then there was no artificial contraception, so unless you were infertile, you were having kids. And because house work and making money work were not two separate things like they are now (think Little House on the Prairie) that was one less thing couples for couples to disagree about. And speaking of Little House on the Prairie. The real Laura and Manly encountered some very, very difficult times in the first few years of their marriage. Couples now tend to split under that kind of stress, but they didn't have that option, and it had nothing to do with the divorce laws. It was about survival. They needed each other to live, even if they thought the romance was dead. With modern industrialization, marriage is not the necessity it once was. It's like, marriage is like have a pet. It's something you want, not something you need to live. And therefore, when marriage becomes something that poeple no longer want, they don't stay in it. Again, with Little House. In the first book they really loved their dog, Jack. But, they also depended on him to wake up and bark should they be robbed at night. Although some people still have guard dogs, an alarm system is much less hassle for people are who aren't "dog people."
Anyway, I've wasted enough time on this forum today. I just have SOOO much to say on the topic of Christian singleness.
Anyway, I've wasted enough time on this forum today. I just have SOOO much to say on the topic of Christian singleness.
