Ok , I shall give u the advice my father in law gave to my husband when he was a boy , basically this is it : u can only do it in this house , use a sock so u don't leave a mess and NEVER let your mum find out about it . There u go , rather than have your son do it outside and risk arrest , have him do it at home , without his mum knowing , I'm guessing that will terrify him as it did my hubby . The thought of his mum ever catching him or finding out was enough to make sure he didn't do it often .
Rather than have your son's primary feelings towards God being sheer terror as opposed to love , get him to fear being caught by his mum . It worked on my hubby .
If u push your son away from u in this matter , how is he ever going to come to u with any of his other problems ? He won't . Being a parent isn't just about laying down laws , it's about helping and guiding and supporting your children . Don't push your son away from u and maybe even away from God , with your apparent lack of understanding and sympathy for your sons situation . B an understanding father that he can come to when he needs guidance , just as Our Heavenly Father is to us .
King David was often physically absent from his children due to his duties and battles as king, and this contributed to his shortcomings as a father in guiding them properly between right and wrong. The Bible and biblical scholars show that David had a permissive parenting style and was reluctant to discipline his sons, which led to serious problems within his family. For example, his son Amnon raped his half-sister Tamar, but David, though angry, did not punish Amnon because he loved him as his firstborn. This lack of discipline and attention caused tragic consequences, including Absalom's murder of Amnon and Absalom's later rebellion against David. David also showed favoritism and failed to confront or correct his other sons when needed, as seen in Adonijah's self-proclamation as king without David's opposition. While David did provide Solomon with wise counsel before his death, his general pattern was one of being a better king than a father in terms of guiding his children morally and responsibly. His busy life and permissiveness made him distant and ineffective in teaching his children right from wrong in a firm and consistent way. Do you remember Eli, his sons who engaged in immoral behavior by "laying with the women who served at the doorway of the tabernacle", the sons of Eli, named Hophni and Phinehas. The Bible states that these sons committed serious sins, including sexual immorality with the women who assembled at the tabernacle, though it is unclear if these women were prostitutes, tabernacle workers, or worshipers they seduced. Their actions were condemned, and Eli failed to properly discipline them despite warning them of God's judgment. This was a major factor in God's judgment against Eli's family. Dear Suze, I need to tell you that I don't appreciate the picture you chose for your profile. The very picture of your account is a warning sign to a potential reader or responder to know that they will be tempted to sin. Here is the passage from Proverbs 7:6-21 in the King James Version 1611, which describes the woman seducing the man at the corner:
6 For at the window of my house I looked through my casement,
7 And beheld among the simple ones, I discerned among the youths, a young man void of understanding,
8 Passing through the street near her corner; and he went the way to her house,
9 In the twilight, in the evening, in the black and dark night:
10 And, behold, there met him a woman with the attire of an harlot, and subtil of heart.
11 (She is loud and stubborn; her feet abide not in her house:
12 Now is she without, now in the streets, and lieth in wait at every corner.)
13 So she caught him, and kissed him, and with an impudent face said unto him,
14 I have peace offerings with me; this day have I payed my vows:
15 Therefore came I forth to meet thee, diligently to seek thy face, and I have found thee.
16 I have decked my bed with coverings of tapestry, with carved works, with fine linen of Egypt.
17 I have perfumed my bed with myrrh, aloes, and cinnamon.
18 Come, let us take our fill of love until the morning: let us solace ourselves with loves.
19 For the goodman is not at home, he is gone a long journey:
20 He hath taken a bag of money with him, and will come home at the day appointed.
21 With much fair speech she caused him to yield, with the flattering of her lips she forced him.
22 He goeth after her straightway, as an ox goeth to the slaughter, or as a fool to the correction of the stocks;
23 Till a dart strike through his liver; as a bird hasteth to the snare, and knoweth not that it is for his life.
This passage vividly illustrates the seductive woman at a corner enticing the naive young man with flattery and an adorned bed of fine linens and spices, warning about the deadly consequences of succumbing to such temptation. Dear Suze, I hope this helps. Go in peace and sin no more. I asked this in the name of the lord Jesus Christ of Nazareth. Amen.
I'm very sorry for u , genuinely 
