Would you date yourself?

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Lynx

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As I was on the small bridge looking at the water, I looked across the water to see one of the security guys that patrols the area at night looking back across at me. He asked, "You out at night by yourself?? Where's yer man??" :sneaky::rolleyes::ROFL:
"Not sure where he is. I've been looking for him all night. If you see him, please tell him to find me ASAP."
 

17Bees

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Would I date myself? C'mon people. I have my standards. But, I've done it! I like to go to nice restaurants. I like to sit down to a nicely dressed meal. Last time I did this it was at Christmastime and I got a perfect lamb cutlet in a garlic and mushroom covering with a side of asparagus with a grated cheese (I don't know what it was) but a perfect compliment. That and a nice glass of wine, it was really good. The server was a college age girl and when she brought the silver she dropped a dinner knife in my lap. I made out like it stabbed me in my leg and had a hard time dislodging it. She turned red as a beet and laughing. So, dinner and entertainment. Can't beat it.
 

JohnDB

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This is a strange thread. Just saying.
 

ResidentAlien

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It might sound silly, but really think about it.

You know all your strengths, weaknesses and you know what really goes on in your own mind. It's you but another person, if that makes sense...
Knowing all that would you date yourself?
Would you enjoy spending time with yourself? (if it was another being of course)
Would you trust this other you?


Let's have a discussion about this topic, what is everyone's thoughts?
No, since I have no interest in dating it would be a bad idea. lol
 

Gojira

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I can't believe how many responses there are to this. I cannot think about this. Too weird.
 

seoulsearch

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I can't believe how many responses there are to this. I cannot think about this. Too weird.
You ain't seen nuthin yet.
Over the years, we've actually had the "Would You Date Yourself?" question circulate a couple of times.

I can't speak for the author of this particular thread, but in the past, the real feeling being the question of "Would You Date Yourself?" actually meant things like:

* What are your own person qualities that someone would or would not want in someone to date?

* What things about yourself do you think make you "dateable," and what things about you need to be worked on?

And finally, the bottom line became this: "If you wouldn't want to date yourself, why would you expect anyone else to?"

It was meant as an inquiry of a brutally honest look into one's own qualities, rather than literally dating a clone of yourself. :D
 

Gojira

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Over the years, we've actually had the "Would You Date Yourself?" question circulate a couple of times.

I can't speak for the author of this particular thread, but in the past, the real feeling being the question of "Would You Date Yourself?" actually meant things like:

* What are your own person qualities that someone would or would not want in someone to date?

* What things about yourself do you think make you "dateable," and what things about you need to be worked on?

And finally, the bottom line became this: "If you wouldn't want to date yourself, why would you expect anyone else to?"

It was meant as an inquiry of a brutally honest look into one's own qualities, rather than literally dating a clone of yourself. :D
Well in that case... I now know why I remain single after my wife died 14 years and 9 months ago.
 

Underwhosewings

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Over the years, we've actually had the "Would You Date Yourself?" question circulate a couple of times.

I can't speak for the author of this particular thread, but in the past, the real feeling being the question of "Would You Date Yourself?" actually meant things like:

* What are your own person qualities that someone would or would not want in someone to date?

* What things about yourself do you think make you "dateable," and what things about you need to be worked on?

And finally, the bottom line became this: "If you wouldn't want to date yourself, why would you expect anyone else to?"

It was meant as an inquiry of a brutally honest look into one's own qualities, rather than literally dating a clone of yourself. :D
Yes, I did realise that, 🤭
But I couldn’t have said it better.
🥇
 

Susanna

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It might sound silly, but really think about it.

You know all your strengths, weaknesses and you know what really goes on in your own mind. It's you but another person, if that makes sense...
Knowing all that would you date yourself?
Would you enjoy spending time with yourself? (if it was another being of course)
Would you trust this other you?


Let's have a discussion about this topic, what is everyone's thoughts?
No
 

Plughole

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Over the years, we've actually had the "Would You Date Yourself?" question circulate a couple of times.

I can't speak for the author of this particular thread, but in the past, the real feeling being the question of "Would You Date Yourself?" actually meant things like:

* What are your own person qualities that someone would or would not want in someone to date?

* What things about yourself do you think make you "dateable," and what things about you need to be worked on?

And finally, the bottom line became this: "If you wouldn't want to date yourself, why would you expect anyone else to?"

It was meant as an inquiry of a brutally honest look into one's own qualities, rather than literally dating a clone of yourself. :D


This is mostly what I was meaning but slightly different. You know all the things that you think about, the good and the bad. Think about some of the things you think about that you know aren't good things, could you date someone that was secretly thinking those thoughts? The kind of things that you never really know about someone. People keep a lot of thoughts to themselves.

It's that and more, it's also an outlook on yourself as well as seeing if you could get along with that person in a relationship sense too. I know I like to spend a lot of time on myself focusing on hobbies, interests and goals which sometimes means if I'm not careful I can put a partner on the backburner.
I'm also not a jealous person in the slightest which some people might like but some might also hate. Is this a trait you'd like in your partner?

I'm probably not explaining it very well. It's not just generalised dateable traits but a deeper look inside yourself.
 

Lynx

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This is mostly what I was meaning but slightly different. You know all the things that you think about, the good and the bad. Think about some of the things you think about that you know aren't good things, could you date someone that was secretly thinking those thoughts? The kind of things that you never really know about someone. People keep a lot of thoughts to themselves.
As far as that goes, sure I would date a woman version of me. I watch what I dwell on. As they say, what I think is what I'm going to become. I won't become any great historical figure, but I'm determined to not become a sleazy pervert either.
 

Calmador

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In a heart beat... This is going to sound like bragging, but yeah

Christian
Decent character
Intelligent
Good looks
Non-materialistic
Virgin

Would you date the a woman with the qualities above?

It's crystal clear, a lot of women weigh in money a hell lot. Before I get those people who ask me if I can take care of myself. Yes, I live alone and I'll one up that by saying I have managed to take care of another person (who doesn't have a job) all by myself. I'm poor, but I manage, me and plus another if needed. I can afford food (for two) and a roof over my head.

Too many women (not all) just have the desire of the world. They hungry for the world $$$
 
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I think Loki season 1 ended with him dating an alternate universe version of him as a woman.

If I dated a girl me, it would be a non-starter. I'm very much a homebody, so the date would not happen because we would both stay home instead of bothering to go on a date.

I should probably go on a date with somebody who is very not like me.
Yeah you probaly should, Im a homebody but sometimes it gets old being confined in four walls and once in a blue moon I don't mind going out....that said yes date your opposite 😄😄😄😄 so she'll get you out sometimes
 
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In a heart beat... This is going to sound like bragging, but yeah

Christian
Decent character
Intelligent
Good looks
Non-materialistic
Virgin

Would you date the a woman with the qualities above?

It's crystal clear, a lot of women weigh in money a hell lot. Before I get those people who ask me if I can take care of myself. Yes, I live alone and I'll one up that by saying I have managed to take care of another person (who doesn't have a job) all by myself. I'm poor, but I manage, me and plus another if needed. I can afford food (for two) and a roof over my head.

Too many women (not all) just have the desire of the world. They hungry for the world $$$
I wouldn't say you're bragging....to thyself be true....and if that's your truth it's respected 👍🏾
 

Lanolin

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um I dont know how to answer this. I think everyone deserves some one on one time or undivided attention regardless of who they are, and to have some time out enjoying someones company. if thats what a date is.

I can only think that people in jail or pyschopaths should not date or if they ever do they really need a chaperone! I just hear of too many tinder tales of girls not making it home after they hooked up with someone. On a date. eek.