I can definitely speak about thisf rom my own experience.
I met Him and received His Spirit but did not have much victory. It went on this way for many years.
I was not fully accepting of His will in all things.I complained a lot, all the time, about whatever circumstance I found myself in, which I would have ceased if I truly believed Him that He guides my steps.
I was always quick to defend myself against attacks and selfishnesses of others.
He has to humble us before We can be of use to Him, and we are NEVER as humble as we think we are.
Why should He give virtues to someone like that?
Why would He? It would only further damage us.
I had been sealed with His Spirit, yet I was full of the pride that defended itself always and expected respect from others.
What respect is due ME? And how is trying to gain it seeking His will? It's not. It's seeking MY will.
I now don't expect anything from others the same way I don't expect what I order from the drive thru at McDonalds. I pull up to the window and when they ask what I would like I say, just give me whatever you want! I expect mistreatments and I am now thankful for them because I have seen that other people are His instruments to humble me further. And they are most often an opportunity to teach me TRUE forgiveness.
I've begun to see Him take away all of the angers and resentments in me. I've begun to have victories over these enemies that seek to destroy me. And in it, I see others soften too, which is the most amazing part of it, though it shouldn't be, because we know we love Him because He loved us first. I was very unlovable, but He loved and desired me anyway. I have to walk as He walked in this. But He could not increase my virtues because of pride and lack of humility and my insistence on treating people only as well as they treated me.
The circumstance you find yourself in today, even this very minute, and the people within those circumstances, are tools in His hand. Testing comes under PRESSURE. These everyday circumstances ARE our warfare and our testings. And the testings aren't so He can see us fail. They are so WE can see us fail and become more humble and cling more to Him as our only hope to be good.
Those who live for Jesus, will overcome the circumstances, and they won't fail if they know the Bible and stand in faith on it's promises.