I think you meant to say that I don't have it in my heart to forgive. I did not say that I am unable to forgive, but that there is no chance for reconciliation. HE did that. Not me. And I don't owe you an explanation of what my son and I survived. So if you are going to cry, then mourn the scars that my son will always bear and the PTSD inflicted on both of us. Don't waste your tears on those who won't repent.
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You have that entire statement wrong. Just like so many, you don't understand what you are reading, that is IF you have read the 7th chapter of 1 Corinthians. Paul said that, only in respect to believers.
God spoke to believers, much like Christ. In Matthew 5:32 Christ was speaking to jews in a covenant relationship with God. Paul is the apostle to the gentiles. He spoke to everyone after the death of Christ.
"But to the rest speak I, not the Lord"...to paraphrase properly: "To all of you that aren't believers, or in a covenant relationship with God, I am talking to you, God wasn't."
Divorce is not okay with God, nor is it a good thing. But it happens, and Paul clearly laid out the scenario under which it needs to be dealt with spiritually. That just is not hard to see. Unless one is willfully blinded.
"But to the rest speak I, not the Lord"...to paraphrase properly: "To all of you that aren't believers, or in a covenant relationship with God, I am talking to you, God wasn't."
Divorce is not okay with God, nor is it a good thing. But it happens, and Paul clearly laid out the scenario under which it needs to be dealt with spiritually. That just is not hard to see. Unless one is willfully blinded.
What is in your heart from God to do? Waht are you looking for from here, to excuse what you think is wrong? if that is what you think and you do then it is wrong
[h=3]Romans 14:13-14[/h]Authorized (King James) Version (AKJV)
[SUP]13 [/SUP]Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way. [SUP]14 [/SUP]I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean
This is between God and you, as to what to do. I am on m y third Marriage and am thankful to God for it.
As I am sure about Abraham, who thought to have sex with Hagar as for the promised Child when this was not the way, and it took many years alter for the promised Child to be.
We all here are in learning stages as to what is to be and not to be. So learn from this whether you go ahead or not. God knows your purpose and needs are.
Paul talks about this in 1 Cor. that if you can't control self better to marry. read all about. and I personally can't tell you to go ahead or not. This you two in prayer need to decide and stick with the decision. God wants us to be happy and not harm others in that process in being happy
[h=3]Romans 14:13-14[/h]Authorized (King James) Version (AKJV)
[SUP]13 [/SUP]Let us not therefore judge one another any more: but judge this rather, that no man put a stumblingblock or an occasion to fall in his brother’s way. [SUP]14 [/SUP]I know, and am persuaded by the Lord Jesus, that there is nothing unclean of itself: but to him that esteemeth any thing to be unclean, to him it is unclean
This is between God and you, as to what to do. I am on m y third Marriage and am thankful to God for it.
As I am sure about Abraham, who thought to have sex with Hagar as for the promised Child when this was not the way, and it took many years alter for the promised Child to be.
We all here are in learning stages as to what is to be and not to be. So learn from this whether you go ahead or not. God knows your purpose and needs are.
Paul talks about this in 1 Cor. that if you can't control self better to marry. read all about. and I personally can't tell you to go ahead or not. This you two in prayer need to decide and stick with the decision. God wants us to be happy and not harm others in that process in being happy
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That would be if he was catholic. The OP had several serious flaws in his opening post, which I am not going to take the time to address. Annulment is a man made doctrine. The bible has no support of it, and to put away absolutely means divorce. When the bible talks about an acceptable relationship between a man and a womn, it is talking about marriage. The only thing that seperates that union in the bible is divorce. No such thing as an annulment. It is simply a word play game man invented to squirm out of a commitment. Calling a duck a pig doesn't change it. It is still a duck no matter what you pretend it to be.
Stay sweet and you'll always stay married. lol 
really.
really. Learn to walk away when the frustrating thoughts begin, is what she and I have learned and are learning. There are many separations because of the emotional upheavals in things got to be my way or the highway attitudes of many.
But if there is abuse in physical and mental too much run Forest run. Danger will Robinson Danger
There is a time for everything under the sun
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Thanks and I do understand this point of view...but "pray about it" bugs me to no end. I've spoken to pastors and they have conflicting views and most people end up saying pray about it. I've even tried counseling and hotlines and those were a joke. I probably have deeper issues and don't understand the Bible like I thought I did but God doesn't talk to me. I'm 28, I've been going to church since I was a kid and looking back, He's never led me in any direction (that I'm aware of). I suppose that I feel his presence at church but never on a personal level. How am I supposed to interpret this? I've been relatively OK with this because I believed (until recently) that God mainly speaks to us through the Bible. I've been researching this marriage stuff for over a month and all I'm doing is turning into a confused angry person who is beginning to doubt that I'm even saved. If He's not providing an answer then maybe I'm not worth getting an answer and this whole effort is meaningless and I'm too lost to even be given an answer.
Also, the scripture isn't helping... different pastors and "experts" interpret the scriptures differently so what can I do? This is the first time I've had meaningful conversations with church leaders (from several different churches) and I'm EXTREMELY disappointed with most of them. Most church offices/leaders couldn't care less about helping! I've left some offices multiple voice mails and emails and 90% of them don't even send a response or refer me somewhere else! The other 5% refer me to a worthless hotline, and only 5% actually provide meaningful support. Because of this I've not been to church for a while and completely stopped giving money to anything church related because I'm disgusted and convinced that the modern church is group of two-faced hypocrites...my friends who aren't Christian have more Christian qualities then most Christians! The few PEOPLE who make up the church (not just the ones who "attend" but the ones who provide a helping hand) are the actual Christians.
Anyway, I'm not convinced either way if remarriage is a sin or not. There are compelling arguments for both sides. If I look at this from a risk perspective...then what happens if it turns out to be a sin and I make the wrong choice? Do I go to hell because I wasn't given (or was too dense to realize) the right answer?
Also, the scripture isn't helping... different pastors and "experts" interpret the scriptures differently so what can I do? This is the first time I've had meaningful conversations with church leaders (from several different churches) and I'm EXTREMELY disappointed with most of them. Most church offices/leaders couldn't care less about helping! I've left some offices multiple voice mails and emails and 90% of them don't even send a response or refer me somewhere else! The other 5% refer me to a worthless hotline, and only 5% actually provide meaningful support. Because of this I've not been to church for a while and completely stopped giving money to anything church related because I'm disgusted and convinced that the modern church is group of two-faced hypocrites...my friends who aren't Christian have more Christian qualities then most Christians! The few PEOPLE who make up the church (not just the ones who "attend" but the ones who provide a helping hand) are the actual Christians.
Anyway, I'm not convinced either way if remarriage is a sin or not. There are compelling arguments for both sides. If I look at this from a risk perspective...then what happens if it turns out to be a sin and I make the wrong choice? Do I go to hell because I wasn't given (or was too dense to realize) the right answer?