Tough on love

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BillG

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I am sure you love the wife you already have, so would not want to hurt her with this kind of thing. Every time I read these silly posts about the merits of polygamy, it is pretty clear that these guys have no idea about women and their emotional needs.
I love my wife so so much. God gave her to me. He knew what I needed.
She says the same about me.

Most men can't even handle thier own emotions, let alone the wife's:cool:
 
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that's right, i think. when the Gospel is shared, if the Spirit doesn't open eyes and ears and grant a new heart, no amount of "convincing" or proof is enough.

may i ask in what way you get worse?
Actually God is provable, scientifically, philosophically, historically, emotionally, and spiritually. That's why Paul said we have no excuse.
 

seoulsearch

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I love my wife so so much. God gave her to me. He knew what I needed.
She says the same about me.

Most men can't even handle thier own emotions, let alone the wife's:cool:
And the TRUTH... shall set you free!

Can I get an Amen... :cool:

Sorry, brother... I'm just teasing.

But this was too good to pass up! :D
 

BillG

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Most of your lines sounds like bad pick-up lines. :rolleyes:

How many kids do you have now out of your "need?" And are you responsible for any of them? Because none of this is about God or sex. You sound like a horny young man.
what young man isn't horny?

The best bit of advice I was given "Do not let your penis rule your life"

Very true
 

BillG

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And the TRUTH... shall set you free!

Can I get an Amen... :cool:

Sorry, brother... I'm just teasing.

But this was too good to pass up! :D
Ok if you insist.

AMEN
 
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Galatea

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I love my wife so so much. God gave her to me. He knew what I needed.
She says the same about me.

Most men can't even handle thier own emotions, let alone the wife's:cool:
I see where you post about her a lot and your kids, so that means they are on your mind and heart. That is commendable. God bless you both. I teach school, and people sometimes ask me about which students are the brightest and most well adjusted. My coworkers and I once tallied the intact nuclear families and cross checked the data with grades and behavior write-ups. I can tell you, that students from intact homes are brighter and better behaved, and it has been the same the nine years I taught.

God knew what He was doing when He designed the plans for our happiness and well being.
 
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I love my wife so so much. God gave her to me. He knew what I needed.
She says the same about me.

Most men can't even handle thier own emotions, let alone the wife's:cool:
How to handle a wife's emotions:
Learn when to accept the hug and learn when to duck. T'ain't hard. lol
 
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what young man isn't horny?

The best bit of advice I was given "Do not let your penis rule your life"

Very true
When they become middle aged. Still horny, but no longer young. lol
 

notmyown

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Actually God is provable, scientifically, philosophically, historically, emotionally, and spiritually. That's why Paul said we have no excuse.
oh, yes! didn't mean to imply anything other than God must grant the new birth.
 

seoulsearch

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what young man isn't horny?

The best bit of advice I was given "Do not let your penis rule your life"

Very true
Bill, you need to teach classes.

Seriously.
 

BillG

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How to handle a wife's emotions:
Learn when to accept the hug and learn when to duck. T'ain't hard. lol
And say "yes dear" without looking like your ventriloquist.

I remember once my wife asked me if the dress she put on made her bum look big.

Without thinking I said "No it's all the cake and chocolate you eat that does that"

Unfortunatley I didn't duck in time.

Mind you I did see the error of my ways.

5 days later I could see out of my left eye when the swelling went down, and two days later out of the right eye when the swelling went down.
 

seoulsearch

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Most of your lines sounds like bad pick-up lines. :rolleyes:

How many kids do you have now out of your "need?" And are you responsible for any of them? Because none of this is about God or sex. You sound like a horny young man.
LOL, Lynn.

I'm not picking on the OP here at all, but when I read all the threads written by people who argue that they should have a right to have sex whenever and whoever they want, I always feel like I'm 16 again and back at my Christian high school.

I remember one guy in particular who practically had DAILY arguments with the pastors and teachers about this very subject.

You could pretty much set your watch to it... and even I have to admit, watching all the drama was a pretty entertaining distraction from actually learning anything. :p (My apologies to Galatea in advance.) :D:cool:;)
 
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Ariel82

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Do I care? Yes, indeed I do. Yeah I walked away only 1-2 years ago not 18.

Anyway get that scripture.
I misread your previous post. I apologize. You thought yourself Christian for 18 years but left a couple years ago?

What did you learn while attending church? How much of the Bible did you study on your own? How often did you pray? Why didnt you learn apologetics? Did you ever have an elder Christian disciple/mentor you about basic doctrine?

None of that is needed to be Christian,but it is helpful to become mature and be able to resist the temptations of Satan and the world.

It allows you to logically answer the questions and lies that Sarah and the world use to lead people away from God.

Anyway, I have to spend some time with the family. Will pray that my brothers and sisters in CC Will answer your questions Biblically with LOVE.

We have some great folks here.
 
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Galatea

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LOL, Lynn.

I'm not picking on the OP here at all, but when I read all the threads written by people who argue that they should have a right to have sex whenever and whoever they want, I always feel like I'm 16 again and back at my Christian high school.

I remember one guy in particular who practically had DAILY arguments with the pastors and teachers about this very subject.

You could pretty much set your watch to it... and even I have to admit, watching all the drama was a pretty entertaining distraction from actually learning anything. :p (My apologies to Galatea in advance.) :D:cool:;)
It's called going off on a rabbit trail. Students learn quick which teachers are prone to wander (I am). I don't think it is a bad thing, actually. You came away with the knowledge that your peer was clueless and the teachers and pastors were right, so it was profitable. I'm sure other kids thought so, too. :)
 

stonesoffire

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Why was Jesus so tough about sexual edict? He preached about sex, when he himself never experienced a sexual relationship.
Because each time you have a sexual encounter, you are picking up the spirits of the one that you became one with.

Think of a prostitute who's been one with all kinds of demons.
 

seoulsearch

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When they become middle aged. Still horny, but no longer young. lol
Aint that the truth
You know, it's funny...

I just wrote about the young man at my Christian high school who loved to argue with the pastors and teachers that fornication wasn't wrong...

I can't remember him ever arguing with a female teacher about it--only men. We had one pastor in particular whom a lot of the kids made fun of, but I had a lot of respect for him because he was real with us--and had confessed his own struggles with pornography.

Whenever the young guy argued with that pastor that he should be able to have sex freely and at will, this pastor would give us all the tried and true reasons as to why it was wrong...

But to be honest, you always got the feeling that what this pastor was really thinking was, "Good grief. I used to be this very same kid that's arguing with me right now, and it didn't make sense to me either. I just had to accept that it was God's law--and NOW I have to try to somehow convey to this pack of hormone-ridden boys that they need to follow it, too???"

I always kind of felt sorry for the male pastors and teachers, because you could tell that, along with trying to convince all these "uppity" young teenagers... they were still trying to convince themselves as well.

(And I'm not just picking on men here--I know it can be women just as well. Truthfully, plenty of the girls probably wanted to argue just as much--they were just a lot shyer about doing so.)
 

tourist

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Why was Jesus so tough about sexual edict? He preached about sex, when he himself never experienced a sexual relationship.
As He is the one who created sex I have to believe that He knows all about it. Jesus was tough on all sin, not just fornication. In the eyes of God all sin is a serious offence.
 

tourist

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How is doing something nature intends us to no (Programs us to do) sinful?
Did your God make us in a way that we would desire sex regularly, but deny us this privileged unless we dress in silly garb, say silly words, while other silly people stare at us.
Sounds as if you have a problem of commitment in relationships. Nature, in regards to the human condition has no intentions either way about anything.