Sex: The most searched for term on CC

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Hey guys, I thought this was interesting and illustrative of a problem with the Church today.

http://christianchat.com/search.php?do=process

Scroll to the bottom and look at the size of "sex" in proportion to "Jesus" and "Prayer."

What are your thoughts?
 
May 9, 2012
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Just knowing that you would know that fact and notice it makes me giggle a bit.
 
Jul 25, 2012
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Healthy libidos? Personal histories? Tragic histories? Sex addictions? I dunno.

Frankly, sex is on the minds on those who searched for it. It can't be helped if they chose to search for it on here more then they did for Jesus and prayer.
 
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Richie_2uk

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1 Thessalonians 4:3-5
For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God.
 

christian74

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I don't necessarily see is as illustrative of problem in today's church simply because Christians here at CC search more often about sex than about Jesus. But it rather shows that many of us deal and struggle with sexual temptation / sin (I, for one), and it's a good thing that they search for advice and insight from other Christian fellows.
 

seoulsearch

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The thing is, EVERYONE in the church talks about Jesus. EVERYONE asks for prayer. Nearly every piece of Christian literature, music, and devotion has something to do with Jesus and prayers. And, you're never going to find a shortage of Christians or churches that talk about Jesus and prayers as well.

However, if people have LEGITIMATE questions about sex, which many do (I'm not talking about all the "How close can I get to the line and not sin" or "Why can't I have sex with so-and-so if I love them" threads, I'm talking about real questions in the context of living a Godly life), where can they turn?

An anonymous Christian website, for many, is the answer. It spares them the pain and embarrassment of, GASP, asking questions about sex in the church.

I have often said, I went to Christian schools from kindergarten through high school. We received absolutely no sex ed, and the entire attitude the whole time was, "Don't think about it, don't do it, and for God's sake, don't ask us about it."

Yet, we are somehow supposed to put our sexuality away and "store" it until the day we get married and BAM!!! Somehow we must be able to pull out a God-pleasing, perfect sexual self that will make our spouse happy. I am NOT saying we should engage in immoral behavior. But I AM saying, I DO think Christ-centered perspectives and sexuality itself is something that must be discussed and educated, not kept as a taboo secret and then somehow expect Christians to muster it up in perfect form the day after marriage.

I'm sorry, but if that isn't a setup for an epic fail, I don't know what is.
 
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KJV15John11

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Well, if they have the addiction, they would be constantly searching for it, like a drug addict looking for a fix. Those that don't will just be open to whatever the threads are offering for topics. If their subject isn't being discussed, they'll just start one. Those with an addiction will wait for someone else to start the thread.
 
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GreenNnice

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Makes sense, the male domination, as I don't think the girls search for 'sex' so much, ritt, 'course, I could be wrong on that.
Guys think about sex every seven minutes is the scientific analysis of that brain thought, all the more reason to have your life wrapped up in Him and constantly, as Romans 12:2 says, be 'renewing our minds' so that we can think of other things, as we are to do in our life as singles.

Hard to do, this re-thinking of our thoughts to His things, and, no, I claim no grip over this phenomenon of thought that grips we men but I DO CLAIM the power of Christ in my life and He overcame all the sins of thinking long ago, we just MUST bring those thoughts that are found in our mind by us to Christ who knows our plans........



...We are to search for Him with all our heart after Him and we will find Him then and those thoughts will slowly move to the back of our thoughts as we gain more and more spiritual understanding of His things for us which are NOT of this Earthly world :)
 
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The thing is, EVERYONE in the church talks about Jesus. EVERYONE asks for prayer. Nearly every piece of Christian literature, music, and devotion has something to do with Jesus and prayers. And, you're never going to find a shortage of Christians or churches that talk about Jesus and prayers as well.

However, if people have LEGITIMATE questions about sex, which many do (I'm not talking about all the "How close can I get to the line and not sin" or "Why can't I have sex with so-and-so if I love them" threads, I'm talking about real questions in the context of living a Godly life), where can they turn?

An anonymous Christian website, for many, is the answer. It spares them the pain and embarrassment of, GASP, asking questions about sex in the church.

I have often said, I went to Christian schools from kindergarten through high school. We received absolutely no sex ed, and the entire attitude the whole time was, "Don't think about it, don't do it, and for God's sake, don't ask us about it."

Yet, we are somehow supposed to put our sexuality away and "store" it until the day we get married and BAM!!! Somehow we must be able to pull out a God-pleasing, perfect sexual self that will make our spouse happy. I am NOT saying we should engage in immoral behavior. But I AM saying, I DO think Christ-centered perspectives and sexuality itself is something that must be discussed and educated, not kept as a taboo secret and then somehow expect Christians to muster it up in perfect form the day after marriage.

I'm sorry, but if that isn't a setup for an epic fail, I don't know what is.
Well, if they have the addiction, they would be constantly searching for it, like a drug addict looking for a fix. Those that don't will just be open to whatever the threads are offering for topics. If their subject isn't being discussed, they'll just start one. Those with an addiction will wait for someone else to start the thread.
Well here's to sex in your veins!

That's how it works right? It's just like drugs. Right?
 

Nautilus

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I'm with Seoul...sex has become so taboo in christian circles, that looking online for answers would be the best option in most cases.
 

CatHerder

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The thing is, EVERYONE in the church talks about Jesus. EVERYONE asks for prayer. Nearly every piece of Christian literature, music, and devotion has something to do with Jesus and prayers. And, you're never going to find a shortage of Christians or churches that talk about Jesus and prayers as well.

However, if people have LEGITIMATE questions about sex, which many do (I'm not talking about all the "How close can I get to the line and not sin" or "Why can't I have sex with so-and-so if I love them" threads, I'm talking about real questions in the context of living a Godly life), where can they turn?

An anonymous Christian website, for many, is the answer. It spares them the pain and embarrassment of, GASP, asking questions about sex in the church.

I have often said, I went to Christian schools from kindergarten through high school. We received absolutely no sex ed, and the entire attitude the whole time was, "Don't think about it, don't do it, and for God's sake, don't ask us about it."

Yet, we are somehow supposed to put our sexuality away and "store" it until the day we get married and BAM!!! Somehow we must be able to pull out a God-pleasing, perfect sexual self that will make our spouse happy. I am NOT saying we should engage in immoral behavior. But I AM saying, I DO think Christ-centered perspectives and sexuality itself is something that must be discussed and educated, not kept as a taboo secret and then somehow expect Christians to muster it up in perfect form the day after marriage.

I'm sorry, but if that isn't a setup for an epic fail, I don't know what is.
^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^This.

Also, a good recourse that a now defunct Christian site I used to visit always directed people to is Front Page

ETA - it's a Christian site that specifically deals with sexual issues.
 
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Sex Sex Sex!

Now that I have your attention... Personally I think that sex has been given a far more prominent place, even in marriages, than God truly intended it. God does intend for me to get married some day, I hope that it is to a woman that shares a similar opinion. I'm not someone that considers sex taboo or dirty, but I do think that many Christians focus too much on it.

As for its popularity as a search term on these forums, I would be more curious as to how this compares to other forums. Or to the web as a whole. In my eyes, if Christians are more curious/interested in sex than is the rest of the world it would seem worthy of some serious introspection.
 
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An anonymous Christian website, for many, is the answer. It spares them the pain and embarrassment of, GASP, asking questions about sex in the church.
I think this lovely lady hit the nail on the head. It's about finding a safe, anonymous place to discuss what has become a taboo subject in Christian culture.
 

Stuey

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To be perfectly honest I haven't found it a taboo topic around churches I've been involved in.
 
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Jullianna

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I would rather have them asking/seeking what the family of God has to say about it in a respectful way than visiting porn sites or Dr Phil for advice, but that's just me. It's the difference between kids feeling free to ask questions of their parents rather than the kids on the playground, but all too often their questions are met with criticism and judgment rather than the sensitivity certain questions deserve.

But I'm not naïve enough to believe everyone's purpose for searching the topic to be a noble one...
 
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Shouryu

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Going to a message board where the majority of members are drummers and discussing...and going to the search bar and typing in "drums, " that's going to be a really productive search, yeah?

How's about I visit bobybuilding.com and search "weights?"

Searching for terms that appear in nearly all threads - Jesus, prayer, Bible, God... It's not a really useful tool when used that way.
 

Nautilus

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To be perfectly honest I haven't found it a taboo topic around churches I've been involved in.
Stuey allow me to introduce you to the Bible Belt of the the Southeastern United States.