Hmmm...
For me, the keyword is "expectations."
It's not impossible to find good Christian people to date. It's just that we keep to a certain personal standard, or bear a certain stereotype in our heads when we think of what Christians look or behave like. It's these mindsets that make it hard for us to "see" people beyond external appearances. Personal biases, if you will. If not standards or stereotypes, our experiences in the past also color our perception of others. The more terrible the experience, the worse we see or perceive other people.
As much as it's important to keep an open mind, what has shaped us through years of exposure and conditioning can be quite difficult to break free from. But not impossible. We do have GOD with us, who has conquered, and will conquer every impossible thing we can imagine (Matthew 19:26).
I, for one, have just recently broken from a seemingly titanium-esque mold: my belief that Godly men are BORING. Unexciting. Not stimulating. Uninspiring. Not challenging. Just hippie-like in their zeal for GOD. Not attractive nor cool in any way.
I believe the enemy has succeeded in deceiving me, and countless others for a very long time. He would do everything to keep us from living Godly lives, and that includes desiring relationships with fellow Christians, who we start viewing as undesirable options.
I'm not hyperfaith, and like i said, i really struggled with this for a long time. So, when i finally found my sanity after my last failed relationship (with a Christian turned Muslim, who i held on to anyway for 4 years, and who eventually crushed me to pieces), i've finally surrendered all my hopes of love to Papa GOD. Even though i surrendered my life to HIM and made HIM my Saviour KING, it's this one department in my life that i just couldn't relinquish complete control of for years. I had this foolish notion that GOD can't make me happy, and will only force me to love someone i don't like in the first place XD So i went on my way, choosing my personal picks, asking and begging GOD to bless said relationship requests (which, of course, HE will not do. Why would HE want a wrong man for me? NO means NO). I remained stubborn, until i've finally had enough of having my heart tenderized everytime XD
At last, i asked Papa GOD to take my heart, and keep it firmly and safely in HIS loving hands. To teach me what true love is all about. To love myself and see myself as worthy of such a pure and true love, made specially for me by HIM. To nurture and protect my heart from further abuses, and to only give it to the one who HE deems truly worthy of me and the love HE fills me with. HE knows the kind of man who will love and cherish me, just as HE would in the flesh. HE's not going to give me away to a fool, or an impostor, or a liar, or a user. HE wants only the very best for me, and HE wants me to patiently wait for HIM to show me this amazing wonder HE has in store for me
bearing this in mind, i decided to align myself according to HIS will. I asked that i learn to delight in holiness and righteousness. To no longer return to a life of darkness and despair. To let me set my eyes upon HIM, and not lose sight of HIM.
And sure enough, HE has changed my heart and mind completely
now, i no longer delight in darkness, no matter what form or packaging it comes in. And i have come to know the beauty of holiness and righteousness
it's breathtaking!!! I couldn't understand why it took me so long to discover this truth...how i could've failed to see the awesome beauty of GOD's light of pure truth and holiness that shatters darkness and sinfulness, all these years!!! But i'm just so glad that i finally see now
Holiness is FAR FROM BORING. It's AMAZING with how much joy and wonder it could bring to one's life
and it applies to a man of GOD. He is a unique person, specially crafted by GOD with such love and care. He is deep in GOD's Holy Word, and delights in knowing HIM and loving HIM more, and in living a life of HIS worship and praise. He is, by no means, perfect. But he lives by GOD's grace and leading. And trusting Papa GOD, i know that the man HE has in store for me will inspire me, challenge me, stimulate my mind, open up my heart, make me laugh, broaden my world, care for me and love me truly, with a love that comes from GOD Himself
HE knows me perfectly, that's why (Psalm 139:1-6)
For now, all i have to do is set my all upon HIM and follow HIM and HIS ways. Delight in HIM. Revel in HIS awesome light and love, and unspeakable joy and peace. Let HIM fix me up for HIS glory and HIS purpose for my life. And trust in HIM and HIS promises. Then everything else, HE is certain to take care of
(Matthew 6:33). HE is able to do that which HE has promised
(Romans 4:21). Far beyond all that we could ask for or imagine
(Ephesians 3:20)
GOD be praised for all the wonders HE has in store for those HE loves, and who loves HIM
definitely worth waiting for!!!
This is the kind of expectation that every Christian has to have