The way around it is that you don't seem to understand what Jesus actually did.
Jesus taught that in the world there will be tribulation. The crucifixion that Jesus endured satisfied God's wrath in a spiritual sense. Those who have placed their faith in Jesus Christ will be saved from the wrath to come - that is the wrath of hellfire and damnation, not the tribulation in the world.
This is evidenced by the fact that even born again Christians are currently facing hardships, persecution, and tribulation in the present and for the past almost 2,000 years.
This is also a well known false teaching which I have contended against many times. All you're doing is repeating what you have heard or read. The truth is that believers are not appointed to suffer any wrath from God, neither God's wrath that is quickly coming upon the earth nor the wrath of being thrown into the lake of fire, because Christ already satisfied God's wrath on behalf of every believer, not just some of it.
And as I have posted many times here, Jesus said that believers would have trials and tribulations as a result of our faith, which come at the hands of men and the powers of darkness. The tribulation period, i.e. God's coming wrath is not the same as those trials and tribulations, because they will be direct wrath from God in the form of the seals, trumpets and bowl judgments. It is God's wrath that believers are not appointed to suffer. It is paramount to understand that there is a difference between the two. It is God's tribulation/wrath that we will not be exposed to. In the book of Revelation John spoke about being a companion in the suffering and kingdom and patient endurance that are ours in Jesus. This is an example of the trials and tribulations that Jesus said all believers would experience. What we won't experience is God's coming wrath upon this earth.
I would suggest that you go and look up all scriptures regarding "The Day of the Lord" and understand what that time period entails. This time period is what the majority of the book of Revelation is covering, i.e. the things/events which must take place in quickness.
You're wrongly conflating the great tribulation with the wrath of God. The persecution Christians have endured have been due to people in the world, just like Jesus taught. The great tribulation will be caused by protagonists such as Satan, beast, and false prophet. Not God.
As i said, the coming wrath of God is not the same as the trials and tribulations that Jesus said that we would have as a result of our faith. God's wrath is a completely different issue and we are appointed to suffer His coming wrath, nor His ultimate wrath at the great white throne judgment.
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1). The Pre-Tribulation Gathering of the Church - 1 Thessalonians 4:15-17
By the word of the Lord, we declare to you that we who are alive and remain until the coming of the Lord will by no means precede those who have fallen asleep.
16For the Lord Himself will descend from heaven with a loud command, with the voice of an archangel, and with the trumpet of God, and the dead in Christ will be the first to rise.
17After that, we who are alive and remain will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air. And so we will always be with the Lord.
1 Thessalonians 5:1-6
Now about the times and seasons (of the above event), brothers, we do not need to write to you.
2For you are fully aware that the
Day of the Lord will come like a thief in the night.
3While people are saying, “Peace and security,” destruction will come upon them suddenly, like labor pains on a pregnant woman, and they will not escape.
4But you, brothers, are not in the darkness so that this day should overtake you like a thief.
5For you are all sons of the light and sons of the day; we do not belong to the night or to the darkness.
6So then, let us not sleep as the others do, but let us remain awake and sober.
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In verse 3, Paul says that "while people (unbelievers) are saying "Peace and security" destruction will come upon them suddenly, like labor pains on a pregnant woman, and they will not escape."
Then in verse 4, he says "But you, brothers, are not in darkness so that this day (the Day of the Lord) should overtake you like a thief.
"But you, brothers" immediately infers the opposite of not escaping, i.e. where unbelievers will not escape that sudden destruction of God's wrath, believers in Christ will via the event described in 1 Thess.4:15-17, which Paul previously wrote about.
Q: And how will they escape?
A: By what Paul had previously written in 1 Thess.4:15-17 where the dead are resurrected and the living in Christ are changed and caught up.
Q: Why will believers escape?
A: Because we do not belong to the darkness or to the night (v.4 & 5)
Q: What does the darkness and night refer to?
A: It represents that time of sudden destruction that will come upon the whole earth, the time of God's wrath, the Day of the Lord.
Q: What is the Day of the Lord?
A:
“I will completely sweep away everything from the face of the earth, declares the LORD.
I will sweep away man and beast; I will sweep away the birds of the air, and the fish of the sea, and the idols with their wicked worshipers.
I will cut off mankind from the face of the earth,” - Zephaniah 1:2-3 (see the seals, trumpets and bowl judgments)
Zephaniah 1:14-18
The great Day of the LORD is near—near and coming quickly.
Listen, the Day of the LORD! Then the cry of the mighty will be bitter.
That day (the Day of the Lord) will be
a day of wrath,
a day of trouble and distress, a day of destruction and desolation,
a day of darkness and gloom, a day of clouds and blackness,
a day of horn blast and battle cry against the fortified cities,
and against the high corner towers.
I will bring such distress
on mankind that they will walk like the blind,
because they have sinned against the LORD.
Their blood will be poured out like dust and their flesh like dung.
Neither their silver nor their gold will be able to deliver them on
the Day of the LORD’s wrath.
The whole earth will be consumed by the fire of His jealousy.
For indeed, He will make a sudden end of all who dwell on the earth.
(hasn't happened yet, but it's coming)
Isaiah 13:6-13
Wail, for the day of the Lord is near; it will come like destruction from the Almighty.
Because of this, all hands will go limp, every heart will melt with fear.
Terror will seize them, pain and anguish will grip them; they will writhe like a woman in labor.
They will look aghast at each other, their faces aflame.
See, the day of the Lord is coming—a cruel day,
with wrath and fierce anger—to make the land desolate and destroy the sinners within it.
The stars of heaven and their constellations will not show their light. The rising sun will be darkened and the moon will not give its light. (see Matt.24:29)
I will punish the world for its evil, the wicked for their sins. I will put an end to the arrogance of the haughty and will humble the pride of the ruthless. (God will punish the wicked, not the righteous)
I will make people scarcer than pure gold, more rare than the gold of Ophir.
Therefore I will make the heavens tremble; and the earth will shake from its place at the wrath of the Lord Almighty, in the day of his burning anger.
Amos 5:18-20
Woe to you who long for the day of the Lord!
Why do you long for the day of the Lord?
That day will be darkness, not light.
It will be as though a man fled from a lion only to meet a bear, as though he entered his house and rested his hand on the wall only to have a snake bite him. (distress at every turn)
Will not the day of the Lord be darkness, not light—pitch-dark, without a ray of brightness? (See 1 Thessalonians 5:4-5)
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I think that you get the picture that the Day of the Lord is the time of God's coming wrath upon this earth.
Since we (believers) do not belong to the darkness or to the night which represents the Day of the Lord, the time of God's wrath, the church cannot be on the earth because we belong to the day and the light. And the way in which we will escape is through Paul's description of the gathering of the church in 1 Thessalonian 4:15-17.
Therefore, I am comforting all who read these words as Paul urged us to.
Those who believe and teach that God is going to put the living church through His wrath first and then gather us, are not comforting you with those words.