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carpetmanswife

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Confess your faults one to another ,thats what the word says. Well here goes, my heart is unclean i have bitterness towards someone , i KNOW its wrong i know the word. i know it hurts people mostly myself . I ask for all your prayers , advice as long as its not condeming ,*i beat myself up enough* and words of encouragement would be helpful.and plz feel free to use this as our 'confession' thread.
 
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carpetmanswife said:
Confess your faults one to another ,thats what the word says. Well here goes, my heart is unclean i have bitterness towards someone , i KNOW its wrong i know the word. i know it hurts people mostly myself . I ask for all your prayers , advice as long as its not condeming ,*i beat myself up enough* and words of encouragement would be helpful.and plz feel free to use this as our 'confession' thread.
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I hope u read Matthew 6:14-15. I have u in prayer,do ask the Father (God) to show u how to forgive. May the Lord bless u with this request. Do have a very blessed day.
 
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carpetmanswife

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like i said i know the word, not quite the encouragement i had in mind.but i do thank u for the prayers
 
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carpetmanswife

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thanks merry ,yes i agree He is workin something in me, i thought that even this morning so u just confirmed it. and it is very discouragin at times , i do know that He knows my heart and how much i want 'it' to all b over . He sees the sorrow i feel and for that im truly thankful ,for God judges righteously as most men cannot. i remind myself i am a work in progress and wont ever attain completion until the day i am called home.thanks for sharing a part of ur life that has helped encourage me. thanks for being real :)
 
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carpetmanswife said:
Confess your faults one to another ,thats what the word says. Well here goes, my heart is unclean i have bitterness towards someone , i KNOW its wrong i know the word. i know it hurts people mostly myself . I ask for all your prayers , advice as long as its not condeming ,*i beat myself up enough* and words of encouragement would be helpful.and plz feel free to use this as our 'confession' thread.
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Ah, I have a LOT of bitterness in my life.
But God's been helping me to forgive my Dad.
I know God's helping me, but I need to help myself too. God and I need to work as a team. That's how relationships work. It can't be just one person doing all the work, it needs to be TWO.

So every time I think about my Dad and what he's done to me, I say to myself, "I forgive you" even if I don't want to and even if I don't feel it. But I've said it so many times to myself. And I feel myself slowly forgiving him. I decided to forgive because I know that it's affecting all my other relationships as well. And one of the scriptures says that if we say we "hate" a person, then we cannot love God. I wish I could find that scripture. When I had my myspace, it was on my page but I just decided to delete my myspace because God was telling me to...even if it seems silly.

God will help you, but try saying "I forgive you" when you have bitterness in your heart because of people who have hurt you. Say it even if YOU DONT MEAN IT. God will help you along the way!
 
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carpetmanswife

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thank u so much for your response xspinningisfun , i will definately try that. thanks:)
 
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carpetmanswife said:
Confess your faults one to another ,thats what the word says. Well here goes, my heart is unclean i have bitterness towards someone , i KNOW its wrong i know the word. i know it hurts people mostly myself . I ask for all your prayers , advice as long as its not condeming ,*i beat myself up enough* and words of encouragement would be helpful.and plz feel free to use this as our 'confession' thread.
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Heb 12:1Wherefore seeing we also are compassed about with so great a cloud of witnesses, let us LAY ASIDE every weight, and the sin which doth so easily beset us, and let us run with patience the race that is set before us,

It is up to u dudett when you decide to let it go. then it will be taken away. not trying to beat you up BUT, if you love God more than self you would have already let it go, because if you can't forgive them, than His father won't forgive you . yeah sure it will try to flare up again again, again, again, and again and again , and again, BUt through Jesus you have the power to never pick it up again, try praying for the person and then after awhile tou will quit lying to yourself and actually mean it, when you pray for them cause you will realize that what they did to you is no worser than what you did to Jesus and He forgave you , and still loves you.
 
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xspinningisfun

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thank u so much for your response xspinningisfun , i will definately try that. thanks:)
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It really does help. Like seriously, when I look at my dad, something on my heart chips away. I know God's working on my heart. I can feel it. Yeah, I don't want to be alone with him and stuff because things that he's done to me just makes me not wanting to be with him...at all. When my mom says, "Dads picking you up from college." I cringe. I just want to say, "No, I want you to pick me up." But if I said that, we'd get in a huge fight because my whole family things that it wasn't THAT serious. My Dad gave me bruises, bloody noses, he used to control me. He made me SIT IN THE MIDDLE OF THE FLOOR one time, and if I moved, he'd hit me. That's what he said and that if I tried fighting back, he'd call the police. This happened for years, so you can understand why I hated him SO much.

But like one day, God was like, "I know you don't like your Dad. But I gave him to you for a reason. I wish these things didn't happen, but I need you to let it go. Give it to me. I'll help you to forgive. Just rely on Me. I will help you." And honestly, he has.

Yeah, I may never really LOVE my dad, but you never know. God can work a lot of things.

Just keep saying "I forgive you" even if you don't WANT to. And let me tell you, it can be very hard. Like so many times I was like, "Why should I say that? I don't like him." But you just GOT TO. With your whole being, just say that. Like I'm not even kidding. Pray to God to heal your heart. You need to be TOTALLY honest with God.

Keep hanging in there. I am glad that you want the bitterness in your life to go away! Hold on!!! :)
And you can message me ANYTIME!
 
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I will pray for you!! Just stick in there and pray with an open heart. God will always see you through things.

I sometimes have a hard time because my husband cheated on me before we got married and told me just a couple weeks before the wedding. I still married him because it had happened so long before and he had just been scared to tell me in fear of losing me. He said I was the best thing he ever had and I could tell he meant it. I prayed to God for an answer and my heart told me to fogive him. Sometimes I still think of it and it makes me a little sick and insecure. However I ask for strength from God and He's making me stronger everyday. I also pray for my husband to find God.. I think that it would make our whole relationship better. It's hard being a christian and having a spouse who is not.. Very hard. But, I am trying to stay strong and help him through it.

I just think that since God has helped me through so much before He will help through this as well. He will help you too! Just keep an open heart. I hope everything gets better for you!
 
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God bless you carpetmanswife. I have had trouble with a neighbor, that was sneaking around in the woods behind my house. He's very creepy. My husband and I have been kind to him, invited him over, etc. But he hates us and has never shown us anything but contempt.

He can see the bottom portion of my driveway, and knows when I leave. Last summer he would vandalize my property when I would leave. I had to install cameras, and take him to court. Never caught him on camera but eyewitnessed him 100 feet from my house, on my property, and he was carrying a gun. I was so angry at him. I wasn't afraid of him; I wanted to pulverize him, because I can.

I prayed and prayed for God to relieve the situation, and finally He did. In court the judge told him if he was caught on my property again, he would go to jail. I have to see how this summer goes. I keep praying that God will help me be forgiving, and to keep my enemy at bay. I had a tough lesson to learn about praying for my enemies. I've never had an enemy like that before. I've had disagreements with people, but nothing like this situation. I was just being attacked by the enemy spirit, over and over last summer. In court I told him, that it would have been nice if we could have been friends, because my husband and I will be living here the rest of our lives, but he never gave us a chance.

Hang in there carpetmanswife. The Lord's in charge and will see you through it. He can change anyones heart.
 
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Go CMW!!! :D haha you can beat that circumstance :) for Christ is in you! :D
 
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carpetmanswife

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to anyone who feels the need to quote scripture i already said i know the word , and to just'let go' of something that is still in ur face constantly and blatantly is extremely difficult if not impossible thats y this is so hard. i sincerely appreciate all those who r sharing personal experiences and bein real with the rest of us tho, thats what i asked for.
 
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no, i will confess my faults not
 
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carpetmanswife

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its ok the_buffest_possum being a teletubbie fan isnt THAT bad!!:D lol :p
 
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i used to hate my father very much... i mean terribly.
and yet thats was one of my greatest testimonies.. God turned my life around. and showed me the way out. it was 'extremely' hard. to forgive, to love someone u used to hate very much.. i was like hurting my self, whenever i get so mad at him, this voice inside me was like saying, he is my father.. and it even God Himself, loved sinners like me, and it really kills me, coz another voice says, he did this and that.. so hard to fight against urself. :-/ (i wasnt a christian then), i juz ended up staring at the ceiling or the wall. i didnt want to think of anything. those were the times when i tried suicide. :-/ gaah, and im not proud of it, i mean, if i only knew God then.. but He made it a testimony, and i *guess* i can share it now :D. when God came into my life, the road was not easy lol. coz i realized that I myself am a sinner and have made so many mistakes.. and my father might have been mad at me, more, but he still loved me and it was my turn to love him, forgive him, and respect him. hes my father.it took me like 16 years lol.
 
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let me share something

i tried suicide in almost all possible ways.,... gun, poison, knife/cutting, suffocation, banging my head on a wall :-/
see, i spent 16 years in this world, wondering what on earth was my purpose. and everytime, something bad happns, and those questions in my head.. gaaah twas crazy, i wished i was numb.. i wished i was frozen. coz there was nothing i can do to control the situations, i admit, ive been a coward for 16 years, although sometimes, i still get scared of somethings.. but God was always there,
well :D im juz glad, God saved me from my horrible past. and since then, i realized that this life is not mine, this body, this heart and soul, belonged to Him.. He rescued me from serious danger. im eternally grateful for that..
 
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Ok, so...

I have kind of a constant battle going with my sister. Our whole lives, we've fought and it kills me. It used to be petty stuff, like I borrowed something without asking, or she ruined something of mine accidentally...but as we get older, it gets more serious.

The worst was a few years back, I went through some really hard times right after I left home, and I called on my sister to move to where I was to help me. I hardly ever ask for help, so it was pretty serious business. I was so grateful when she showed up. For about a week, things were great. Then she went behind my back and purposely befriended the very people that had hurt me, and started bringing them around me even though I'd asked her not to.

I tried to ignore it for a while, but obviously when she was flaunting these people in my face, it was hard. We got into a yelling match over it, and after that, she started calling our mom and lying to her about me-saying I was doing all kinds of stuff that I wasn't doing. It hurt me bad enough that I moved out and my sister and I didn't speak for over a year. I've been so angry at her ever since...and even though I forgave her and we talk now and are pretty close, the anger flares up sometimes. God has done so much for me, and I pray about this, but my human nature fights it...It takes a lot of effort sometimes to bite my tongue and not bring it up when I talk to her.

Anyway, my heart goes out to the rest of you that have posted, and I will keep you all in my prayers!
 
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xspinningisfun said:
Ah, I have a LOT of bitterness in my life.
But God's been helping me to forgive my Dad.
I know God's helping me, but I need to help myself too. God and I need to work as a team. That's how relationships work. It can't be just one person doing all the work, it needs to be TWO.

So every time I think about my Dad and what he's done to me, I say to myself, "I forgive you" even if I don't want to and even if I don't feel it. But I've said it so many times to myself. And I feel myself slowly forgiving him. I decided to forgive because I know that it's affecting all my other relationships as well. And one of the scriptures says that if we say we "hate" a person, then we cannot love God. I wish I could find that scripture. When I had my myspace, it was on my page but I just decided to delete my myspace because God was telling me to...even if it seems silly.

God will help you, but try saying "I forgive you" when you have bitterness in your heart because of people who have hurt you. Say it even if YOU DONT MEAN IT. God will help you along the way!
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1John2:9-11
 
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carpetmanswife

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abing,cristen, thank u so much for sharing with us . i know this couldnt have been ez, i think when we open up to others and share our 'stuff' and we see we are not battlin these things alone and that others have and do make it thru everyday it seems to make it easier somehow :) we help each other by sharing our truths. thanks again so much guys and lets hold each other up in prayer u all are on my list :)
 
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welp I recon I could confess some faults..................
Hmmmmmmmmmmmm
sorry ,I aint got nun...........
hahahahahahha
theres times when Ithink i might have a fault ,but then ,Noahsmom picks up the skllit and beats it back into shape.........
Shes my fault watchmate
and when I saee a fault in her I tell her and then she picks up the skillit and shows m where I was wrong about what I thunk ewas a fault
See? It takes team work.
Maybe you should try noahsmoms' way
Everytime you feel like youre angry at whom ever you got unforgivness at ,Pick up that Skillit and holler for C-man
Give Him a good whack...........
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAAHAHAHAHAHA..........
 
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