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confession eh?.....you asked for it, well, im hateful, spiteful, and lots a times i say things that hurt ppls feelins, and i know it does, i just cant quite seem to stop it from a thought, to slidin right on outta my mouth. my thought is...well god knows what were thinkin, might as well say it, less to repent for later, yes i know thats wrong, and for the most part, i have a easier time now stopin it before it starts. I grew up rough, it was beat down or get beat down, so i learned at a very young age to fend for myself. Of course if it werent for a strong christian mother, id prolly have been a hoodlum, but she worked constantly to raise me, so the streets kinda raised me too. So i reckon if this is confession, pray God puts one arm around my shoulder and his other hand over my mouth. Your not alone Cmw...we all fight things.
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I am going to put my head on the chopping block here. For me there are two ways to be bitter towards someone. One is when the devil [or some other low life spirit] tries to fill my mind with bitterness towards some one for no good reason. Perhaps this person gets recognition I feel they don't deserve or they are just better at something than me. The other is when I feel this person has actually done something to me or someone I love. It does not have to be a big thing. What I find is the same for both ways is that my mind can become trapped in what I call a "logic trap". To me a logic trap is when all my reasoning seems to support my feelings. Almost as if I am justified in feeling the way I do. My mind goes around and around. If they had not done this than I would not feel that. If they were more humble than I would feel better about their success. In either case, for me, the only way out is to break the chain of logic. If I love the person than it is worth the price. Sometimes the Word is enough. I use it to prove myself wrong. There are people I just had to get away from for me to regain my perspective and restore my grace. As long as water is on the burner it will continue to boil. Sometimes the best way is to go have it out with whoever it is I am struggling with. Like the Bible says, if you have something against your brother[or sister] go get it straight. There are some things only they can clear up for me. As a guy confrontation is not hard. Since you confessed I perceive you to be somewhat an humble person. Confrontation may be hard for you. Only you know if there is danger to you in this. One way or the other you must get out of the closed with the devil. Your joy is your strength, you need your joy back.
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Dear Carpetmanswife, you are absolutely right, it is very hard, not just hard, but very hard, it took me years to finally understand, it is nescasary for me to forgive, not for the persons sake, but for mine.I had to go threw therapy on this issue, to let go of anger, hatred and bitterness is a choice that I was not totally sure I wanted to let go of it, I wanted to be angry, threw prayer and faith in God, I came to realize that God will deal with this person, and that it is better for me to forgive, I started having to write it down on paper, 8 pages, front and back, claiming, I choose to forgive so and so, with Gods help I can do it, it took a long time, its an everyday thing for me, now, many years later, when I think of this person, I almost feel sorry for him, almost, in my prayers, best wishes....
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CMW,
This is an awesome thread... thank you so much!
I personally believe that when we go on to live in the presence of our Lord, that we will all live in one mind and one accord with the Father. Nothing can or will be hidden... not from the Father or from our brothers and sisters in Christ that we will encounter there. Our lives will read like an open book, a living testimony to the greatness of Jesus Christ in all of His infinite Glory. (This is why all thing temporal must be burned away so that all that remains is the eternal because no sin can reside in heaven.)
With that in mind, I'll be straight forward. Ever since childhood I have been rather... eccentric, for lack of a better word. *lol* Some of you probably think of that in a bad way but I truly believe that God created me this way for his purposes. I tend to see things from a different perspective and often times will see things that most people ussually miss.
However, because of this "uniqeness", I have encountered very few males (for true fellowship) and even less females (for relationship). Most of my relationships have only lasted a few months because I assume that I'm just "too deep" for most people. Either I get a quick read on something that I find to be very undesirable about that person's character or they spend entirely too much time trying to get a read on me instead of just simply being themselves.
Anyways, I have always wrestled with loneliness and I've found that when I let that loneliness consume my thoughts, it can evolve into lust. There have been times that I have prayed that God would remove these desires from my heart. I have also prayed that God would introduce me to good christian friends for fellowship and accountability seeing as there are very few single males near or around my age in my church. And of course, I have prayed that God, seeing as ultimately it was He who placed the desire in my heart to marry, that He would introduce me to a highly compatible Godly woman. There have been a few times that I have considered looking for another church however, I strongly feel as though God would not want me to leave my current church.
Although these prayers have yet to be fullfilled, I do know that God is faithful as He has in the past. I tend to percieve this to be a time of trial for for me. To learn patience and self control. I guess the frustrating part is that I'm ussually a pretty quick study however, this one is taking some time. It hasn't been easy but when God is trying to show you something, it ussually never is. Which will make us appreciate Him all the more when those prayers finally are answered...
This is an awesome thread... thank you so much!
I personally believe that when we go on to live in the presence of our Lord, that we will all live in one mind and one accord with the Father. Nothing can or will be hidden... not from the Father or from our brothers and sisters in Christ that we will encounter there. Our lives will read like an open book, a living testimony to the greatness of Jesus Christ in all of His infinite Glory. (This is why all thing temporal must be burned away so that all that remains is the eternal because no sin can reside in heaven.)
With that in mind, I'll be straight forward. Ever since childhood I have been rather... eccentric, for lack of a better word. *lol* Some of you probably think of that in a bad way but I truly believe that God created me this way for his purposes. I tend to see things from a different perspective and often times will see things that most people ussually miss.
However, because of this "uniqeness", I have encountered very few males (for true fellowship) and even less females (for relationship). Most of my relationships have only lasted a few months because I assume that I'm just "too deep" for most people. Either I get a quick read on something that I find to be very undesirable about that person's character or they spend entirely too much time trying to get a read on me instead of just simply being themselves.
Anyways, I have always wrestled with loneliness and I've found that when I let that loneliness consume my thoughts, it can evolve into lust. There have been times that I have prayed that God would remove these desires from my heart. I have also prayed that God would introduce me to good christian friends for fellowship and accountability seeing as there are very few single males near or around my age in my church. And of course, I have prayed that God, seeing as ultimately it was He who placed the desire in my heart to marry, that He would introduce me to a highly compatible Godly woman. There have been a few times that I have considered looking for another church however, I strongly feel as though God would not want me to leave my current church.
Although these prayers have yet to be fullfilled, I do know that God is faithful as He has in the past. I tend to percieve this to be a time of trial for for me. To learn patience and self control. I guess the frustrating part is that I'm ussually a pretty quick study however, this one is taking some time. It hasn't been easy but when God is trying to show you something, it ussually never is. Which will make us appreciate Him all the more when those prayers finally are answered...
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CMW.... I would never literally *whack* Papabean (Noah'sdad tsk tsk!!! hahaahah) with a skillet...BUT..if you use that suggestion in a less violent way, it CAN be very usedful.... I do vent to Papabean (and he does to me as well) about the things I find bitterness over. It does help..sometimes one or the other of us can shed some light on the problems, even sometimes pointing out our own, or should I say each other's?? wrongs in the situations (lovingly) too. When you talk things over with someone you respect and whom also respects you, it helps you to "get real" as you say and find some peace. Also, (and I KNOW you know the word....but this is different....I'm not quoting the word!!!) praying with your spouse on this matter will help as well. Sometimes listening to another's prayer as you pray together......just helps....I don't know how to say it any different or better than that...but sometimes it does. I have a neighbor who has given us fits over the years and we don't really have any idea as to why?? or how it started?? but I do pray for him (them..he has a wife) and while that helps me.....I still need to continue.soo..Im not finished yet either!!! God Bless..and yes I agree with the "getting real"....reading the word is awesome..but we need to apply it and also now how to take action from it.....and thats more than reading and/or quoting.......I sure don't know all the answers!! but I hope I helped..or at least didn't cornfuse you more!!!
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Yes nana u did help .This particular battle is one my husband and i r both facing together ,just seems it haunts me more *woman thing i spose* Right u r we need to buckle down and pray thru this thing together , amazin how something so simple as prayin together which should b an obvious thing to do can be crowded out by our problems . Thanks
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CMW...i have a suggestion for you that works for me of late, its gonna seem hard to do, but i guarentee you it works. the person you are having bitterness towards, I want you to pray for this person, and I mean REALLY pray, meaning, dont just say it, but search inside yourself deep down, and find a place to really pray for this person and mean it with your whole heart, cause if you dont mean it, it wont work, like I said, if you can do this , and mean it 100%, youll see a movement, and once you can get past that part, and start to see things happen, this gets easier and easier as you go thru similar situations. When someone starts ridin me real bad, or just giving me you know what, I pray, maybe i start out small, but as the days go on, i get real earnest, and just start lettin God have control again, and it reallllly does work. Trust me, I have done this many many times, ....let me know if it works for ya.
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Lori ive been tryin to do that but in all honesty its been more of a whispered prayer fightin back wrong thoughts *takes deep breath* im gonna try to reach deep down and do this right ,get all this junk outta my system and pray a sincere prayer of faith for her. thanks alot sounds like VERY good advice. Merry im with ya ,just when i think ive found my breahthrough thru this i slide backwards , but im not gonna stop the fight now, Heck ive already been to hell n back in this one ,y stop now..ima win!!!
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haha cmw, u started this thread *rolleyes* and i have so many things to confess lol and im not alone! haha, u're gonna read more and more everyday lol!
anyways, i admit that ive been struggling with 'pride' these days.
when someone says something, sometimes, this thought comes to mind, 'i can do more than that' lol! and after i realized what i juz thought, it kills me :-/ i call myselsf a christian and i think like that. what would Jesus say :-/ gaah.
anyways, i admit that ive been struggling with 'pride' these days.
when someone says something, sometimes, this thought comes to mind, 'i can do more than that' lol! and after i realized what i juz thought, it kills me :-/ i call myselsf a christian and i think like that. what would Jesus say :-/ gaah.
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I have been struggling with keeping my mouth shut, if I got nothing good to say( I know its hard , but try to imagine that).I was raised in that even tho we all have diff beliefs and opinions, its polite to remember that other ppls feelings count and they are not really insane or ignorant because they dont think exactly like you do...so yea, pray i keep my mouth shut.
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