teaching me how it works so if i get married! hahahaha
gotta train him proper
A lady once gave me some of the best advice ever received when I was engaged. She said to train him the first year of our marriage. So I asked her to explain. With that, she said, for example, during that first year when you have dinner, get him to help you set the table. Get him to help you to clear the table and help wash the dishes. Ask him to take out the trash, if he doesn't. The thing is that in this way you're letting him know how you'd like him to help with things on a daily basis. You're setting the ground rules. You don't have to be bossy, just ask nice and keep asking at the appropriate time so he gets into the routine of it all. Guys are pretty good about those things once they understand because they do NOT read minds. Do not assume he's gone know to get you this or that for your birthday. Give him some choices and let him bounce from there. Because...if you play the little happy wife and bring his dinner to him, clear the table or always doing the dishes alone, always taking out the trash, etc. and then you go and change the rules cause you get sick of doing it all by yourself, he's gonna feel you're changing the rules. That confuses them. And if he asks you what you want for your birthday and you answer 'aw, nothing honey" that's just what you might get. Men will see it like they see a ballgame. There are rules. You do that and they do this. And that's the way it's always been done from the start so why is that happy wife no longer happy. Gosh, it was working great for him. Don't beat 'em up cause they don't catch on fast enough. Marriage might be new for them too.
We have a joke about this aspect of marriage. Whenever we do something for the other person, we say, "Don't get use to it." Meaning, this isn't set in granite like a rule just because I'm doing this one thing right now.