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It can be a touchy subject. I told my stepdad that he was in adultery and he punched me in the nose. I had to get surgery to put my nose back together. My mom divorced him for hitting me. It is not adultery to divorce and remarry if the person you divorced cheated on you. That is the one case it is ok. But if no one cheated then Jesus says not to divorce. Matthew 5:31-32 Matthew 19:9. The reason remarriage is adultery is because God does not recognize the divorce if it is not for sexual immorality.
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IMO, the other two cases in which God recognizes a divorce is if one is a believer and the other isn't and the non-believer wants a divorce (I Corinthians 7:12-16). And the other case is in a physically abusive relationship, I don't think God desire that a wife (or even in some cases a husband) stay married while being attacked physically, I think this flies in the face of Ephesians 5:22-25.
We are free to forgive, and that from the heart. Jesus, Yeshua, demonstrates by His own action when He bestowed grace upon the woman caught in adultery when the law (punitive law) dictates she and her co-adulterer should have been stoned to death. This does not translate as teaching that divorce is good, but it does translate as we are free to imitate the Author of all that is, including the punitive laws, in showing mercy and forgiving, forgiving from the heart. There is no question when we are free, and Yeshua has set us free, halleluyah, amen.
There are many divorces of people most intimate in my life and lifetime.......I hope the punitive law does not send them to hell. Is this what you are saying?
My own attitude is to show mercy because I am free to do so, however I know the Judge is Yeshua, He has demonstrated to forgive whenever possible, I pray with all my heart and soul it may apply with my parents and family regarding divorce.
My own attitude is to show mercy because I am free to do so, however I know the Judge is Yeshua, He has demonstrated to forgive whenever possible, I pray with all my heart and soul it may apply with my parents and family regarding divorce.
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Romans 7
7 Or do you not know, brothers[a]—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law is binding on a person only as long as he lives? 2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
7 Or do you not know, brothers[a]—for I am speaking to those who know the law—that the law is binding on a person only as long as he lives? 2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if she marries another man she is not an adulteress.
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Heres my situation... Sigh, I'm very disturbed by it, I'm divorced, I was in a domestic violence situation, married for 18 yrs, he was unfaithful, I meet sum1 a yr ago who is divorced, aparently they r both guilty of adultery.. Do circumstances change anything? She was abusive and he eventually gave in 2 cheating.... Im confused n sad n uggggg.. This is crazy....
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Thanks everyone for your replies. I know that it's okay to get a divorce if it was a cheating situation... but in this case it isn't... so this is why I don't feel right about it. The Bible is very clear on divorce and I really hate this whole divorce thing... I am glad that my parents separated, but not entirely happy that my mom is remarried. I guess I have to deal with it no matter what, but I still don't like it a whole lot.
For my part, you are very welcome. You will be fine because you are concerned about all involved, and this is good. Overlook the sin and love the sinner, if you believe someone has sinned. Of course you already know all of this, so it may sound trite, but it never does harm to remind the family in Yeshua to always remember their love, it is YHWH, God, amen.
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"Well, the truth is that the Scriptures are very clear about how God feels about divorce. In fact, in Malachi 2:16 God tells us that He hates divorce....
""I hate divorce,"" says the LORD God of Israel
But God also knows that man is sinful and that this is an imperfect world. He knows that husbands and wives are going to cheat. In Matthew 19:3-9, Jesus explained to the Pharisees why some divorces were allowed under the Law of Moses and under what circumstances divorces are permissible for Christians."
""I hate divorce,"" says the LORD God of Israel
But God also knows that man is sinful and that this is an imperfect world. He knows that husbands and wives are going to cheat. In Matthew 19:3-9, Jesus explained to the Pharisees why some divorces were allowed under the Law of Moses and under what circumstances divorces are permissible for Christians."
My Brother,
Thru no falt of many, Divorce happens, as Christains thier is only one unpardnable Sin, upon thru repentance, we can be for-given, Our Lord Jesus Christ Payed that Price on the Cross. Listen to our Father as he tells us , That he has got a divorce
1 They say, If a man put away his wife, and she go from him, and become another man's, shall he return unto her again? shall not that land be greatly polluted? but thou hast played the harlot with many lovers; yet return again to me, saith the LORD.
2 Lift up thine eyes unto the high places, and see where thou hast not been lien with. In the ways hast thou sat for them, as the Arabian in the wilderness; and thou hast polluted the land with thy whoredoms and with thy wickedness.
3 Therefore the showers have been withholden, and there hath been no latter rain; and thou hadst a whore's forehead, thou refusedst to be ashamed.
4 Wilt thou not from this time cry unto me, My father, thou art the guide of my youth?
5 Will he reserve his anger for ever? will he keep it to the end? Behold, thou hast spoken and done evil things as thou couldest.
6 The LORD said also unto me in the days of Josiah the king, Hast thou seen that which backsliding Israel hath done? she is gone up upon every high mountain and under every green tree, and there hath played the harlot.
7 And I said after she had done all these things, Turn thou unto me. But she returned not. And her treacherous sister Judah saw it.
8 And I saw, when for all the causes whereby backsliding Israel committed adultery I had put her away, and given her a bill of divorce; yet her treacherous sister Judah feared not, but went and played the harlot also.
To our Fathers Children,repent for any wrong doing you might of had and go in peace, our Father Loves Us,Things happen, Have Faith,
"Ibe"
"Ibe a Disciple of Jesus Christ"
"Ibe In His Service"
Let's also remember that the word says that you CAN divorce because of adultery, but you don't HAVE to.
Some people actually sit and wait for their spouse to cheat so they can divorce with a "clean" conscious!
We also have the option to forgive and stay married. We have the option to repent (stop).
It takes a strong person to carry this burden in the name of Christ.
If you do, YHWH bless you and sustain you. YHWH make His face (purpose) to shine upon you.
Even in this lifetime, if you messed up and married a person that isn't exactly your "soul-mate", ANY two people, if they have biblical love, can work together and be happy and love each other.
People just like to give up too easy nowadays because it's "ok" by society's standards.
Satan's first and most powerful tool is to break the union between Adam and Eve and the Father.
Destroyer of family. Killer of the heart of the innocent child.
Some people actually sit and wait for their spouse to cheat so they can divorce with a "clean" conscious!
We also have the option to forgive and stay married. We have the option to repent (stop).
It takes a strong person to carry this burden in the name of Christ.
If you do, YHWH bless you and sustain you. YHWH make His face (purpose) to shine upon you.
Even in this lifetime, if you messed up and married a person that isn't exactly your "soul-mate", ANY two people, if they have biblical love, can work together and be happy and love each other.
People just like to give up too easy nowadays because it's "ok" by society's standards.
Satan's first and most powerful tool is to break the union between Adam and Eve and the Father.
Destroyer of family. Killer of the heart of the innocent child.
Marriage is meant for a couple who truely loves each other you DO NOT divorce if you love. Love IS forgiving. That is why you don't marry someone you do not truely love. Jesus is Love.
Now would Jesus divorce himself of any of us? NO.
Remarriage is adultery because you broke your love & do it again for yourself & having sex therefore proves it. That word makes me ill... divorce... Please read The Word with an open heart & mind.
Now would Jesus divorce himself of any of us? NO.
Remarriage is adultery because you broke your love & do it again for yourself & having sex therefore proves it. That word makes me ill... divorce... Please read The Word with an open heart & mind.
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So many of these judgements are for God alone.
If your mother knows that divorce and remarriage is not necessarily what God had in mind for her, then she should take it up with God.
As her child, you must support her, but do not try to justify her sin so she doesn't feel a need to repent. No one is really helped by being told their sin is not a sin.
Also as her child, learn from these mistakes. Be sure that when you do make the decision to get married, you and your spouse are both fully prepared for a lifelong commitment. It can take a long time to know for sure that you're really ready to stay in it and do everything you can to make your life together a good, Godly one.
If your mother knows that divorce and remarriage is not necessarily what God had in mind for her, then she should take it up with God.
As her child, you must support her, but do not try to justify her sin so she doesn't feel a need to repent. No one is really helped by being told their sin is not a sin.
Also as her child, learn from these mistakes. Be sure that when you do make the decision to get married, you and your spouse are both fully prepared for a lifelong commitment. It can take a long time to know for sure that you're really ready to stay in it and do everything you can to make your life together a good, Godly one.
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in christian can woman divorced her husband too or just he the one who can ?
why she is the one who commit adultery if she remarried ? what if he remarried is that mean he is not commit adultery ?
even if they both consider commit adultry if they get divorced and remarried is not that unfair ?
why the bible make the divorced woman if her husband divorced her the one who facing commit adultery is that mean the husband will not facing adultery and why ?
Is not marriage is the only legitimate thing that prevents commit adultery? how it is become itself adultry?
make the only reason to get divorced is to commit adultery for me i cant undrestand that because in my opinion there is more Logical reasons to get divorced like demostic viloence in it different pictures and Deception and living with a criminal
adultry consider to these reasones do not Threat women lifes and mental health which the most impotant and do not effects the children mental health directly
why she is the one who commit adultery if she remarried ? what if he remarried is that mean he is not commit adultery ?
even if they both consider commit adultry if they get divorced and remarried is not that unfair ?
why the bible make the divorced woman if her husband divorced her the one who facing commit adultery is that mean the husband will not facing adultery and why ?
Is not marriage is the only legitimate thing that prevents commit adultery? how it is become itself adultry?
make the only reason to get divorced is to commit adultery for me i cant undrestand that because in my opinion there is more Logical reasons to get divorced like demostic viloence in it different pictures and Deception and living with a criminal
adultry consider to these reasones do not Threat women lifes and mental health which the most impotant and do not effects the children mental health directly